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[1babysmom]

We are considering switching rooms, too.  We are only in 1200sf, but only have 2 "real" br's and then the garage was converted to a larger br about 8 years ago and it is currently our office/schoolroom/internal storage (we have no outside storage).  The "real" br's are small, though, only about 11x12.  The converted room is a bit larger, obviously.  But it's on the opposite side of the house from the 2 br's (which isn't hugely far considering it's only a living room in between, but it's a lot of space in my head!) .  I can't fathom having my kids on the opposite side of the house from me, so I don't really want to move myself OR the kids there.  But we are so squished in our tiny bedroom now, and all 3 kids and ALL their clothes and toys are in the other tiny room.  It works fine, but sometimes I just crave a tiny bit more space....just wish the bigger bedroom were near the smaller ones.

Oh, and the bathroom is right by the smaller rooms, so it's not near the bigger one.  We only have 1 bathroom.

[camprunner]

18 weeks 4 days. This baby actually isn't moving as much as two of mine did at this stage and the other just never moved so I don't compare any baby to her. 

I'm starting to feel like this baby is a girl which would suit me just find but DH really, really wants another boy.  My oldest daughter wants boy/girl twins (LOL I think she caught the twin bug from dh) and my youngest daughter (age 7) wants it to be kittens.  My DD1 will be HALF right with the girl LOL.  Or HALF right with the boy and DH can get what he wants too!

Other than that, things are going well. Appointment with my midwife tomorrow barring any births and a fun ultrasound in a week.

[TIFF4NY]

1babysmom - Our bedrooms luckily have a large bathroom right in between them. We have another smaller one on the other side of the house that we hardly use so it's like we have one. Since all we do is sleep in our room I don't mind switching one bit. I'm looking forward to just getting it all done. 

camprunner - my movement has slowed too. It's so strange that I felt it regularly around 13 weeks but now that I'm 17w4d I hardly feel it. I guess it has to do with the anterior placenta but I'd still like to feel more. I'm sure I'll feel plenty in a few weeks though. At least I hope so!

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by TIFF4NY 

bmcneal - Our house is 2300 sqft but only has 2 bedrooms (built in 1949). All of the rooms in the house are oversized and our bedroom rivals the size of a bonus room. Since we hope to stay here for a long while I decided to switch our bedrooms so the kids bedroom/playroom will be in our current bedroom and we'll have our bed in what is currently DD's bedroom. Our king, a cosleeper and our night stands will fit just fine in that room and the closets in each room are identical so we're not losing space there. Neither has an attached bathroom.

By making the larger room the kid area I can move all of the kid stuff spread throughout the house into there and regain some of my spaces back! It's proving to be a lot of work right now as I'm also going through everything to sort out stuff for donating/trash but I'm going to feel much much better when it's all done.

Besides, I get the urge to move all the time so moving bedrooms should help me feel better in that dept. It'll be like a whole new house or something. ;)

firespiritymelody - It definitely feels good to get it all done but my body just is wrecked afterwards. I was super sore waking up this morning. 

Ah. I have no idea what size our house is. It's a three bedroom, but two of the bedrooms are *tiny* In DD's room, there's not enough room even for a twin bed, with out blocking doors or the register. There's a door to the bathroom between her room and ours in her room, and since I try to encourage her and DS to use the other bathroom, I put her bed in front of the bathroom door. If the baby turns out to be a girl, her and DS will be switching rooms when baby goes to a separate room.

I just wish there was enough room for them to play in their rooms, and to store their toys in their rooms. Since they have a lot of common toys (legos, books, things like that), I'm not sure where to put them/what to do with them, since we try to keep a "no boys in girls' rooms, no girls in boys' rooms" rule.

I get that urge, too, but for me, at least, it's to move to different regions. Since I met DF, we have lived in SC, AL, TN, and IN. We were supposed to move out west, to AZ, but it didn't pan out.

[IronMam]

Am I just naturally neurotic, or is anybody else feeling super stressed about election day (let's not get into who we want to win)? I was pregnant during the last presidential election too, and it was nerve-wracking, but I don't think it was quite THIS nerve-wracking. I'm already stressed about so many other unknowns right now, and the wait until results come in is making me a basket case. I'd like to think it's partly hormones making my feelings more intense, but either way, it's really unpleasant. I feel all tight in my chest and tense throughout my body. With it being so likely that we'll be moving back to the US next year...just ugh. 

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm stuck home alone with no adults to talk to (don't have many friends, and none I can talk to about the US election, lol).

I haven't been feeling bebe move. I thought I had been a few weeks ago, but since I haven't felt anything in at least a week, I guess it was gas. I know bebe is OK because we heard the heartbeat at the midwife appt. Just wish I could feel something because I'm not feeling very bonded right now and I really need that. DP was so anxious about it being a boy (he wanted a daughter, long story) that now I'm freaking out about that possibility even though HE'S coming to terms with the idea and getting used to the notion. 

I'm just a basket-case today. DH and I haven't been able to have a lot of quality time, so I don't feel as close with him as I'd like. DD has been a total pill lately, so I REALLY don't feel close with her. And I don't feel at all bonded with bebe. It's pretty depressing. DP and I are going to the Zelda Symphony tonight (it's his early b-day present from my parents), so maybe that will help us (though I'm not much for sitting still and just listening to music...too ADD). I may bring a journal or sketch book or something to keep my hands busy. I would bring some knitting or crochet (working on teaching myself enough to make some simple baby items), but I'm pretty sure that'd be obnoxious to people nest to me. lol

[Martha83]

Hugs. It IS hard to connect with the baby before you can feel it move and turn. It'll come. I didn't feel a couple of mine til after 20 weeks...but then they made up for lost time. HUGS.

DH and I have a date this weekend and I'm very excited...we both love to go to live theater. I won a season ticket to a local theater group. So we only have to pay entrance for one when we go. So....once a month we get a date where we get to see a live show...this weekend we get to go see Rocky Horror Picture Show. My midwife from my fourth child acts in the group so it'll be fun to see her on stage again. :) We would rather do that than a movie any day. LOL.

Two more days til my ultrasound....this is the longest week in history...are we sure that the days are only 24 hours long? LOL ;)

We have four kids in one room...they choose to room together. The rooms aren't huge...my four year old sleeps with my 10 year old. She was my cosleeper and moved out of our bed when she was almost 3...she moved in to dd's bed lol. DD wants her out of her bed but we are currently still trying to get the rest of the flooring in the house so until then we arne't messing with the beds...after that point DH will be building bunk and loft beds for them. They have a very large closet that we hold most of the toys in. Except for the baby's toys...those are in the living room. Our room is huge...but it's attached to our bathroom....so we'll probably just leave the baby in here until he's old enough to be in a regular bed (a while still since he's only 1)...and the new baby will be in our bed for a while. Hopefully we can keep the crying down at night so Rogan wont wake when the baby wakes up....we'll see....I'm not too worried. We DO have another room we had all the kids separated but they ended up sleeping all in the same room anyway..so we turned the extra bedroom into the school room for now. LOL.

[bambihelton]

Martha, I love how your children are so close with one another! That really makes my heart happy and I can only hope that all of mine will be so kind and loving to one another. 

I had an appointment last week for an ultrasound to check on the large cyst I have on my right ovary, but since I'm 15, almost 16 weeks, I had to go in today to have blood drawn for the spinal tests. I wasn't happy about that. Anyway, I wasn't happy to be there and then they basically forced a flu shot on me. I don't feel that it's necessary and just wanted to throw a tantrum right then and there. They listened to baby's heartbeat, which I also wanted to say "I don't think this is necessary. We had an ultrasound LAST WEEK and I'm not comfortable with so much exposure to radiation and that type of thing." Whatever. Maybe I was just most frustrated that the nurse that stuck me and gave me my shot wasn't easy with me at all! She held the shot back a couple of inches from my arm and stabbed it in as if I was some kind of livestock. (I have always had farm animals so that's the reference that has always came to mind). 

Maybe my hormones are just going crazy. But I almost jumped up and said "that's it! I will be switching care providers!" I usually love that facility! 

[camprunner]

Our house is 3 nice sized bedrooms and 1550 sq. feet. Right now the two girls share a room and ds has his own room. DS will eventually room with the baby for a while regardless of gender and if a girl we may eventually have 3 in one room or we may add an addition.

[firespiritmelody]

IronMam - I'm feeling a little down these days too and much less bonded with baby then I expected to be at this point. Though I have no history of any problems, I've spent this whole pregnancy almost waiting for a bomb to drop. I was ecstatic to get the BFP and then it just turned into worry instead. I'm feeling the babe somewhat regularly (certainly more then before) but I have no inclination about gender or who this baby is and now that I had to reschedule my u/s it's just exaggerating those feelings and it's making me so sad. I can't even explain my feelings to my self, so I hope it's coming across somewhat coherent. Sigh. Lots of external stressers right now and I guess it's just all weighing heavy on my shoulders. Anyway, just wanted to let you know you're not the only one not feeling bonded with their babe yet.

[Martha83]

bambi...YOU are in charge of your health..NEVER feel pressured to do anything you dont want to do. If they are trying to force something on you (shots) that you DONT want....tell them NO plain and simple....I know the pressure they give but it's your body and your choice. HUGS...I'm sorry you felt so out of control about everything. I.cant.stand. that kind of treatment. I've been there done that with my kids....we went from fully vaxing to not vaxing at all and it was a journey to find a doctor that was ok with it. We were "fired" as patients (though I'm the one paying HER for services) once because I refused vaccination. My point is....be informed and be prepared to fight for what you want. They can't MAKE you do anything you dont want to do. HUGS....

 

[Martha83]

OH and please dont think my children are peaceful and loving ALL the time ;) LOL...definitely not true...but in general they are best friends....some weeks are just better than others ;) In the end...they still dont wanna sleep alone ;) LOL!!!

[1babysmom]

Mine share a bed too!  We have bunk beds in there (the only way we can fit more than one bed in the room LOL) but they sleep together on the bottom!

[TIFF4NY]

I think I'll eventually get or build bunk beds in the kids room when the youngest is old enough to sleep in her own bed. I got sucked into looking through shared room ideas on pinterest and darn there are some awesome setups!

[bambihelton]

Originally Posted by Martha83 

bambi...YOU are in charge of your health..NEVER feel pressured to do anything you dont want to do. If they are trying to force something on you (shots) that you DONT want....tell them NO plain and simple....I know the pressure they give but it's your body and your choice. HUGS...I'm sorry you felt so out of control about everything. I.cant.stand. that kind of treatment. I've been there done that with my kids....we went from fully vaxing to not vaxing at all and it was a journey to find a doctor that was ok with it. We were "fired" as patients (though I'm the one paying HER for services) once because I refused vaccination. My point is....be informed and be prepared to fight for what you want. They can't MAKE you do anything you dont want to do. HUGS....

 

Thank you. I know that I am in control... that's mainly why I'm questioning switching to a midwife rather than an OB. I also know that I am going to run into problems once baby comes and starts growing because I am anti vaccinations as well. 

 

[bmcneal]

I have had a terrible migraine all. day. long. I called into work, and slept most of the day, but still horrible. I gave in and took some tylenol, but it didn't help, and since I was reluctant to take it in the first place, I really don't want to take another dose.

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by bambihelton 

Thank you. I know that I am in control... that's mainly why I'm questioning switching to a midwife rather than an OB. I also know that I am going to run into problems once baby comes and starts growing because I am anti vaccinations as well. 

 

Even though you can always stay with your current provider and just stand up and say no, it can be hard to be in that kind of environment where you always need to be on the offense.  It wouldn't hurt to look into other options.  I eventually left my OB during my second pregnancy when he wanted to go ahead and make plans for an induction, just because the baby was measuring a week ahead at 23 weeks.  Though I could stand up and say no, hold your horses now, I honestly didn't want to be trusting my medical care to someone who has such rash decision-making and is so quick to try to intervene.

It's never too late to switch, and, never to early to start looking around for a pediatrician if you need to find a no-vac friendly one. The "find your tribe" forums are a good place to seek recommendations for that.

[MommyRuth]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Am I just naturally neurotic, or is anybody else feeling super stressed about election day (let's not get into who we want to win)? I was pregnant during the last presidential election too, and it was nerve-wracking, but I don't think it was quite THIS nerve-wracking. I'm already stressed about so many other unknowns right now, and the wait until results come in is making me a basket case. I'd like to think it's partly hormones making my feelings more intense, but either way, it's really unpleasant. I feel all tight in my chest and tense throughout my body. With it being so likely that we'll be moving back to the US next year...just ugh. 

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm stuck home alone with no adults to talk to (don't have many friends, and none I can talk to about the US election, lol).

I haven't been feeling bebe move. I thought I had been a few weeks ago, but since I haven't felt anything in at least a week, I guess it was gas. I know bebe is OK because we heard the heartbeat at the midwife appt. Just wish I could feel something because I'm not feeling very bonded right now and I really need that. DP was so anxious about it being a boy (he wanted a daughter, long story) that now I'm freaking out about that possibility even though HE'S coming to terms with the idea and getting used to the notion. 

I'm just a basket-case today. DH and I haven't been able to have a lot of quality time, so I don't feel as close with him as I'd like. DD has been a total pill lately, so I REALLY don't feel close with her. And I don't feel at all bonded with bebe. It's pretty depressing. DP and I are going to the Zelda Symphony tonight (it's his early b-day present from my parents), so maybe that will help us (though I'm not much for sitting still and just listening to music...too ADD). I may bring a journal or sketch book or something to keep my hands busy. I would bring some knitting or crochet (working on teaching myself enough to make some simple baby items), but I'm pretty sure that'd be obnoxious to people nest to me. lol

I've been super stressed about it, too! I had a small glass of wine with dinner tonight because I was SO uptight and it really helped. It feels like SUCH an important election. They all do, but this one feels especially possibly life-altering. Maybe that's pregnancy, too?

I hope you enjoy your date with your hubby!!!

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by MommyRuth 

I've been super stressed about it, too! I had a small glass of wine with dinner tonight because I was SO uptight and it really helped. It feels like SUCH an important election. They all do, but this one feels especially possibly life-altering. Maybe that's pregnancy, too?

I hope you enjoy your date with your hubby!!!

Date night helped. And it (the election) was over by the time we got back from the concert (Zelda Symphony - which was very nice, even for someone as ADD as me). So I'm feeling muuuuuuch less anxious now. So glad it's over, and so glad we had such a nice date night.

[Munchkin08]

I'm 18 weeks and feeling the baby flutter! When do the real kicks start - the kind DH can feel?

[camprunner]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

I'm 18 weeks and feeling the baby flutter! When do the real kicks start - the kind DH can feel?

Usually a couple of weeks later :)