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Shanti~sorry to hear that.  will be praying for you.

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Shanti, take care and stay strong and safe. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.

Off for a quick run. More later.
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Stopping in to report a 35:01 for my 5K this morning.  A new PR.joy.gif
 

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Shanti - hug.gifgoodvibes.gif What others have said; anything and prayers!

Flew to Tucson Friday night and back last night dizzy.gif. Climbing comp. saturday. Good and weird. It was conducted like no other Ive been to. Results not up yet. Will let you know
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Shanti - Thinking of you mama.  I know you've got the strength, I'm sorry that you've got to use it this way.

 

Mel38 - Great report!  I felt like I was right there with you.  So glad your parts cooperated for the big day.

 

Long weekend happening here.  Dd1 and I were off-island yesterday.  She had two soccer games scheduled.  They lost the first (the other team had some truly large 'under 11s' on it, one of them was bigger than me!) then we went out for lunch with most of the team which was one of those weirdo experiences where we ended up sitting with people we either don't really know or who don't really like us, kids and parents spread out around three different sections.  When we went back to the field for game two the kids spent a half hour warming up again and doing some drills until it became apparent that the other team was blowing us off.  No call or anything, just a no show.  I can't understand how they could be so rude.  Had we known we were done after the first game we could have all either accomplished some errands or made an earlier ferry home.  So that was a long day.  Then dd had a long and difficult meltdown in the evening which meant we didn't get to sleep until late.  At least the clocks went back!  Today I threw a HUGE FIT.  Really, totally unhinged when after asking that the girls clean up their rooms for the first couple of hours in the morning I go upstairs and find that the place was still more or less trashed.  Those of you on FB know how Naughty Dingo dealt with her messy kids.  Me?  No, not nearly so cool.  It was more shrieking about "how did I raise kids who care so little about the nice things they have?" and "that's IT" If you can't take care of your stuff we're giving it to someone who can!" and then loading up two huge sacks full of everything I saw lying around.  Lots of tears and apologies and despair then resignation ensued.  Oy.

 

New York:  I'm sort of glad I don't have tv and only see what news I read online.  The story about the mother who lost her two sons in the flooding on SI after being turned away from neighbors' homes made me sick.  I hope the overall effect of the storm will be more neighborliness but today is one of those days when my faith is a little shaky.
 

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My earlier reply won't post. Thinking of you Shanti. Stay strong, stay safe, and let us know if there is anything we can do. Anything.
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Originally Posted by Plady View PostToday I threw a HUGE FIT.  Really, totally unhinged when after asking that the girls clean up their rooms for the first couple of hours in the morning I go upstairs and find that the place was still more or less trashed.  Those of you on FB know how Naughty Dingo dealt with her messy kids.  Me?  No, not nearly so cool.  It was more shrieking about "how did I raise kids who care so little about the nice things they have?" and "that's IT" If you can't take care of your stuff we're giving it to someone who can!" and then loading up two huge sacks full of everything I saw lying around.  Lots of tears and apologies and despair then resignation ensued.  Oy.
 

hug2.gif Oh Plady, I have *really* been there. Down to the exact words. So sorry, and I hope it helps you feel purged and your kids have more awareness.

 

Shanti, mama-bear strength will carry you through this, I know it. Otherwise... superhero.gif Dingo intervention on your behalf!

 

Urg, I have gained 5 lbs from all the lack of exercise and over-indulging in Halloween candy. I knew it was bad, and now I have to find a way to break the sugar cycle again. I know... just do it already!

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Shanti - Thinking of you, mama.  All of your strength and determination will carry you through.  Trust your instincts!  Let us know if there is anything at all that we can do for you!

 

NYC - Yes, right decision, very poor timing.  I'm feeling cynical like JayGee.  But, then again, I'm from the Chicagoland area, where corruption and high government official are synonymous. 

 

Mel - Awesome report on your marathon.  I would love to do the MCM someday. 

 

Hot Chocolate 15k run report - I'm frustrated.  Short answer is that it was a great run.  Long answer is that we waited over an hour outside in the cold for packet pickup because the race organizers were anything but.  We were organized by corrals.  No big deal.  I was in the second to last corral.  Again, I expected it, because of my speed.  What I didn't expect was that I would be waiting an hour and 13 minutes to cross the start line after the race has begun.  They were letting the corrals off in 3+ minute intervals.  I was in corral S.  I was very cold by the time I crossed the start.  On the plus side, I did get to chat to some wonderful ladies while we were waiting.  The run itself was fabulous.  Although, I was not crazy about the course.  There was a good part of it that was running through the underground garage area of the big convention center that we were passing.  Running through a pee filled, dark parking lot is not actually a fun time for me.  But, I felt like I ran strong the entire time.  Walked through the water stations, and ran hard aside from that.  According to my Garmin, I had about a 1:48 time (but can't be sure because it lost signal in the underground areas).  The other frustrating part is that I have no times posted.  I am not sure what happened, but I have no results.  I'm thinking I will give this race a pass next year.  But, I do love the hoodie that came with the race packet!

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Bec~course sounds less than stellar but your time is awesome!!

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Plady – Can I join you in pretending that it isn’t yet November?   And I can so relate to coming unglued with messy kid spaces… pretty sure I’ve said much the same, with garbage bags in hand.

 

Gaye – I’m sorry that the NYC marathon was cancelled and you weren’t able to run. I think that they should have made the determination earlier in the week and I hope that you are able to run it next year.

 

Bec – hope the rest of your week is better/less crazy.  Great time for you 15K (sorry the course and organization left much to be desired).

 

Lisa – I hear you on the sensory issues! Good for you though for getting out to campaign!

 

MelW – hope the party went ok and really hope that you are feeling better soon.

 

Kristina – can’t help but wonder and agree with you about the marathon situation.  Hope your dd is feeling better soon.  And I can’t wait for the candy fairy to purge the candy from my house tomorrow while the kids are at school.

 

Runningmommy – Wow! Speedy! Congrats on the ½. Hope the foot calms down soon.

 

Mel38 – love your report. 

 

Shanti – I didn’t read the last bit of the October thread (will go back later tonight) to know what’s going on in your life right now, but wanted to offer hugs and positive thoughts to you.  

 

Sorry I've been so poor about posting. greensad.gif  Hope everyone that's been sick is feeling better soon.

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My earlier post was on page two, and I just couldn't see it with my phone. Oops!

 

RM, terrific half time. I'm always in awe of your speed (even if that wasn't as fast as you had hoped).

 

Mel38, what a great marathon report. I'm so glad you were able to run it injury-free!

 

Bec, that is a great time. I can't imagine the long wait in the cold to start. I've never done a big race before, though, so feel like a small town girl when I hear of corrals, period. 

 

Plady, I've had similar moments. I want to know ND's secret technique!! Our struggle is with the kids playroom that doubles as work/homeschool area- my oldest does a semi-decent job of not trashing it, but the youngest is a tornado still.

 

sparkle, rest up post whirlwind trip!

 

RR- 5.5k and not coughing too badly. I'll be really grateful when the cough is over. We seem to be cycling through our third or fourth cold in a row :(

 

NRR- The birthday party went relatively smoothly. We had it at the hair salon just in case our floor restoration was in a bad place for having kids over (as it goes, the downstairs is 90% finished and quite liveable, but I'm glad we didn't take the risk). Two kids didn't show, and I was grateful to only have my girls plus four more. My husband stayed home sick, so it was just me supervising plus two salon workers doing hair/nails. 

 

After the party, grandma took the oldest to her fiddle concert. She had a great time, making me so glad that she's joined this fiddle group. She used to be hate recitals and get really stressed and nervous but when she plays with the group she has so much fun. Grandma says she was stomping her feet and dancing on stage. And Ashley MacIsaac joined the group for their finale, so it was pretty special not just to open for him, but to get to play with him (I'm not sure- I think he's probably a bigger deal in Canada than the US- but she thought it was cool to play with someone so famous). 

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Shanti ~ grouphug.gif and namaste.gif to get you through.

 

Mel38 ~ awesome job on the marathon!  I am so happy your knee held up for the 26.2 miles.  Love the race report.  It sounds like a very well run race.

 

bec ~ nice job, even though your race sounds like it was less well run!

 

MelW ~ Hmmmmm... I was able to read your post earlier.  Wonder what happened.  I'm detoxing sugar starting tomorrow.  I tried today, but the headache was unbearable so I gave in irked.gif.

 

Plady ~ I have had that EXACT SAME fit, right down to the wording!!!  I wish I could do the Naughty Dingo here, but DH would break out in hives and clean the whole place himself before the lesson could be learned.  Instead, the children have learned the "if we don't clean it up, Daddy will do it for us" lesson eyesroll.gif.

 

RM ~ nice half, even if you didn't run as fast as you had hoped.  I still think that's a super-speedy time.

 

RR ~ I had big plans to get off my fanny and run tomorrow morning before heading to the library, but DD1 complained earlier of a sore throat and is now registering a fever of 101.  Looks like I'll be at the doctor's office getting her a strep culture rather than out for a run.  Sigh.

 

NRR ~ Sugar bingeing for 15 days after eating no sugar for 50+ days is a very, very bad idea.  I feel so foggy and cranky and irritable.  Yet, inexplicably, I keep going back for more.  It's a drug, I tell ya.  Tomorrow I need to go through the sugar withdrawl headache and get back to my happy, clean-eating self.  Or else my entire family might divorce me!

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mel~Great race report! Congrats! clap.gif

dimitrizmom~Congrats on your new PR!

shanti~Thinking of you, mama. hug.gif

bec~Great race! I have heard that about the Hot Chocolate races before. I think the one in DC last year (maybe?) was a shocking disaster. Enough to make me think twice about signing up for one of their races, for sure.

rm~You are so stinking speedy. winky.gif




This is our group of Twitter-organized runners gathered for our "Donation Run" this morning. We each brought a bag of goods to donate to those affected by the hurricane to load up in the organizer's car, who dropped it off for distribution to the Rockaways this afternoon. As beaten down as I felt by social media this week for making me feel like the world's most selfish person, I was totally uplifted today. I can't even describe the scene in Central Park. It was unbelievable. Literally thousands of runners were running through the park, some of them doing 4+ loops to get there 26.2 in. There were fans lining the road, cheering, waving signs, ringing cowbells. There were fabulous New Yorkers who set up impromptu aid stations, handing out water, gatorade, pretzels, etc. Truly amazing. Runners rock. Not like you all didn't know that! And that doesn't even mention the marathoners who went to Staten Island to hand out stuff and physically do whatever people needed.

I ran from W 72nd to Central Park and did a loop plus a little, for not quite 8 miles. With a huge smile on my face the whole time. This is what Central Park looked like:



Absolutely incredible.

I would say that my biggest disappointment at this point is still the lack of communication from NYRR. It's become pretty clear that the late call was not their decision, but I did not receive an official cancellation notice until yesterday at noon. And even then, there was no apology for the late cancellation and absolutely no information about what's going to happen as far as next year's entries and registration. I realize that they probably don't know yet, but they could at least say that and that they will let us know as soon as they can. But no, nada.

Regardless, I think I've decided that I will be back next year to actually run the marathon. I was determined NOT to run a marathon next year. I was also determined that this was going to be a once-in-a-lifetime event, but considering I didn't get the whole experience...sigh. We'll see how I manage to afford it, since the majority of this trip was using XH's hotel points and my airline miles...

As for the rest of our trip, there has been eating, there has been drinking (well, a little...one friend is pregnant, and the other is on antibiotics!), multiple broadway shows (including getting to meet and get our picture taken with the tony award-winning star of one), lots of walking around the city, and just a good time in general! Not so bad for a trip that has not gone at all according to plan.
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Shanti -- goodvibes.gif and hug.gif You will have the strength for whatever comes next, and we're here for the days when you don't.

MelW--the fiddle thing sound fun!

bec--Great race time, despite the poor organization! Also yes, being from Illinois does endow us with a certain amount of cynicism. Then again, I'm 99.9% sure that no Chicagoan would start criticizing runners in a similar situation. We'd be all over the race organizers and politicians, but it would end there--and honestly, I'm pretty sure Midwestern race organizers would have had the sense to cancel the race much earlier.

tjsmama--I'm glad you were able to run. Don't let the social media get to you. What social media showed me this week, more than usual, is that New Yorkers really don't see anything outside the city (or the state, in the case of upstaters) but themselves. Also, I strongly suspect that one of the reasons for canceling the marathon was that they were concerned for the safety of runners after seeing the amount of anger and misplaced rage being directed at runners.

I saw a post from Amby Burfoot who was one of many runners who volunteered to hike in supplies on Staten Island. They filled their backpacks with water and food, took the ferry over and then walked several miles to a drop point. He talked about walking past an untouched country club golf course where the golfers were out riding their golf carts as usual, and about another runner with a backpack in front of him who accidentally bumped into a New Yorker--whose response was to turn around and punch her! shake.gif Entitled much? http://newyorkcitymarathon.runnersworld.com/2012/11/a-staten-island-run-for-relief.html?cm_mmc=Twitter-_-RunnersWorld-_-Content-News-_-RunForRelief

RR: 10 along the lake trails. A lot more people were out today, which helps. Then again, after I'd ran along some less-traveled trails by the north part of Standley Lake, I saw signs warning of rattlesnakes. banghead.gif Ah, the usual conundrum: to be afraid of people or wild animals? A large "Justice for Jessica" banner thanking law enforcement for their hard work was posted to a fence in her neighborhood and visible from a few parts of the trail. Running along the north shoreline reminded me of how many times last winter I'd made sure there was a reasonable distance between myself and trucks and fisherman or other people walking out that way last winter and spring. I like to run that area because it has nice dirt trails, is reasonably hilly, and has a year-round portapotty. But, the north shoreline is tucked behind some hills and it would be easy enough to disappear in someone's truck or SUV--which I've always been aware of. There's just something about realizing all the things we tend to do as basic safety rules--things I sometimes feel I'm being overly paranoid about--and then having reality crash down and suggest that I probably hadn't been paranoid enough. Seriously. The parking area for the north part of the lake is maybe a minute from his house, and the trails aren't any further away than the smaller lake where he tried to abduct a runner. Sorry to keep talking about it. It didn't help that going to the mall yesterday means driving past her neighborhood. There are still purple ribbons.

NRR: major scores on the running apparel front this weekend. I went to the Skirt Sports holiday store and picked up some seconds and discontinued items. Tonight I had a coupon for Target's C9 line and picked up a pair of fleece-lined tights. Woot!
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Gaye - I'm glad that the weekend turned out well, even if not as planned. 

 

I find it sad that we have to worry about other humans being predators. Seems as though the world has gone crazy and I don't know if we can fix it.  I, like Lisa, find myself making safety considerations when I'm out running - not that we've had anything close to what happened there, but we've had multiple pedestrians hit and killed in the last several month.

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Dmitrizmom ~ Awesome job! 

 

Realrellim ~ Keep getting out there.  I wonder if you can find a group of trusted running buddies for consistent company.  I know you've got a crazy schedule, but the more people go outside, the faster your community will recover a sense of self.

 

Social cr@p question:

 

DD is doing a lot better socially this year, but she's still missing a lot of social cues. We're working on it daily, plus she goes to CBT twice a month. I've read Queen Bees and Wannabees. This is 5th grade, remember DD is very much on the young side of the class, on top of the fact that these things do not come easily to her.

Here's the issue: She misinterprets a lot of the preteen mean girl stuff. I'm really not sure if I should clue her in, or to coach her to respond differently. The problem is that I don't know the right response.

Most of it centers around two kids, H and S. They do a lot of the typical passive aggressive emotional manipulation cr@p. This morning DD tried to say hello to H as they were entering the school. What I saw was H clearly ignoring DD. DD excused this as "she must not have heard me. She's generally not like that in the morning." Evidently H will get offended at some point in the day and then ignore the group of friends for the rest of the day, acting better the next day. DD interprets this as H wanting some time alone.

I interpret it as the girl attempting to manipulate and punish DD for some perceived slight. (I have no idea if DD is actually excluding this girl, but I suspect this kid has so skillfully manipulated DD that DD does anything she can to avoid doing anything to wrong this kid.)

Two questions:

Do I clue DD in on how this kid is treating her? S. does something similar, but it's less consistent, and S seems to be the follower.  Is it better to know that the H and S are treating her this way to manipulate her?

How should I coach DD to act when this kid ignores her? It seems to be playing into the social dynamic for DD to keep hollering after H assuming she hasn't been heard.  But then again, I don't know the right response when someone is being like that even now as an adult.

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Originally Posted by Geofizz View Post

Most of it centers around two kids, H and S. They do a lot of the typical passive aggressive emotional manipulation cr@p. This morning DD tried to say hello to H as they were entering the school. What I saw was H clearly ignoring DD. DD excused this as "she must not have heard me. She's generally not like that in the morning." Evidently H will get offended at some point in the day and then ignore the group of friends for the rest of the day, acting better the next day. DD interprets this as H wanting some time alone.

I interpret it as the girl attempting to manipulate and punish DD for some perceived slight. (I have no idea if DD is actually excluding this girl, but I suspect this kid has so skillfully manipulated DD that DD does anything she can to avoid doing anything to wrong this kid.)

 

hmm. tough question. I don't know the girls. But if it were my own Erin, then your dd would have interpreted it right. But then again, I don't think she does that all day long -- just when it is clear she's maxed out on social interactions. (She comes in from recess and it is snack time and she's got her nose in a book before the snack is even open for instance). And its also clear that Erin's not in a queen bee situation.

 

 

Here's one thing I would do -- have the conversation that even if girl is like that all the time, your own dd does not have to put up with it. We all want and need friends who are able to take the time to greet each other. That's why I prompt my kids to say hello to people we meet, even if they are enveloped in a book or something. I've learned a lot about being an adult by, well, being an adult. And it turns out that I don't have to put up with that. *I* can be friendly, but I don't have to extend my social energy to worry about whether someone is saying hello or not. Turn that situation into some of the b.s. that happens at kid functions with other moms (like tennis lessons for instance): mom blows me off, next time I see her I say hello but don't do much more. "Friend" mentally becomes "acquaintance" after that happens often enough. And when I host a 40th bday party for my hubby, I don't have to invite her. And don't. Even though I invited loads of mutual friends.

 

 

My inlaws are in town, have been since Thursday. I hosted a 40th bday party for my husband this weekend (very fun!). and now I'm ready to have my own time back. Upside: my house is pretty clutter free. Downside: my inlaws have been there since Thursday and driving me a little batty. Today is my oldest's birthday. Party for her (3 friends) friday night. We successfully navigated around the issue of inviting the friend who borders on naughty every time we invite her over.

 

Limited running.

 

 

 

 

 

Shanti, thinking of you.

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I love what kerc said here about this stuff. Some of the power and satisfaction bullies gain is when they see someone trying to be their friend and having the power to dis them and have them keep coming back for more. Say hi once, if there is no response, don't worry about the reason, just carry on. If this girl says hi to everyone else, then just stop saying hi to her. When bullies of any kind or degree realize they are losing power they escalate and if their target is supported to be strong enough and not get sucked into the drama, they back off eventually.

 

Both of my dd's were/have been surrounded by queen bees, wannabees and all kins of girl nastiness in elementary school. It is hard, especially hard if reading cues is a challenge. dd2 comes home every day and literally blows off steam for 20 minutes - but this is much better than when she was younger and came home hurt and crying for half the evening. We talk about the roller coaster and how she doesn't have to buy a ticket and get on the ride. School would be more fun with some good friends and no drama but that isn't her reality so we deal the best we can.

 

Another book that really helped us when we were in the thick of it is called Little Girls Can Be Mean. I think it should be mandatory reading for anyone who works with elementary school aged girls!

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Real - I am remembering the Chicago marathon a few years back that they stopped in the middle of it, due to heat and running out of water, leaving thousands stranded on the course!  Not feeling so smug about our ability to organize anything!  It's part of the reason I carry a phone to any race.  But, yes, I doubt that we would take it out on the runners.  The outcry and venom being unleashed on the participants of the marathon is really disgusting.  And to suggest that a runner should not be disappointed after spending so much time training, not to mention the hundreds of dollars is ridiculous.  It is not a lack of compassion to feel disappointment.  And it is not a lack of compassion to be upset with the organizers and politicians for not having cancelled sooner.  Indeed, the runners are agreeing with the outcry that this is too little, too late.  Bah!

 

I would feel better about my time if I had anything resembling an official result.  I have an email into RAM racing, but am thinking I probably will not hear back from them.  Upon scouring the race results, I have noticed a LOT of "unknown runner" listed.  I am now thinking that maybe the mat misread my bib number (or my bib number has something wrong with the chip).  There is a result for a similar number (69006, where I am 69066) that matches up with what I think my times should be.  If that is the case (and who is anyone to say different?), then I had a 1:51:43 official time with a 12:00 pace overall.  Feeling good about that, if that is, in fact the case.  This is making me think that I will not do another RAM racing race, though.

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