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November 2012~~~*Mama Chat*~~~

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As MLog suggested, I figured we would copy FM's chat starter:

 

 

Baby's Age This Month:

How are you feeling/adjusting?:

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?:(about baby, parenthood, anything)

Any new tricks baby is trying out?

General Stuff?

 

 

Baby's Age: Dodiboo will be SIX months old in a week! dizzy.gif Too fast, too fast! Time needs to S-L-O-W down. We are halfway to the 1 year old mark! Any one else finding that crazy??

 

How I am feeling/adjusting? Well, I have discovered that my belly hangs so much lower than it use to. It seriously disturbs me. I am now at the point that I feel like body wise I should be showing some improvement back to pre-baby body. I haven't been doing my 3 mile walk as religiously as I should, and I have been imbibing on Coca cola a bit too much (ack!) and chocolate..and sweetened condensed milk mixed with peanut butter..mmm..where was I? Oh yeah...I just can't figure out why I am so fluffy! /sarcasm. duh.gif

 

Anything different?: You know I have to say there are quite a few differences with things I like with this one vs. the others that have kind of changed my expectations. For instance, I really wanted baby gowns (you know the elasticized bottom gowns?) because I remember never having enough of those with the others. This time? Can't really stand them. Have hardly used them.

 

Same with the jumperoo, bought a baby einstein one used and we've used it all of 20 minutes maybe.

 

I didn't realize how much my viewpoint of tv and babies had changed since DD1. I use to let them watch Baby Einstein by this age, and now? Just don't really like tv for the 8 year old and under, let alone the baby.

 

I also don't baby wear like I use to. I baby wear in public (I found some awesome pottery barn curtains at Goodwill and made a cute pink gingham mei tei out of it *lined with organic bamboo fleece---so soft*) but I don't just baby wear around the house like I use to with the others. Maybe cause D. has her sisters to help entertain her?

 

I forgot how vulnerable having a baby makes you feel...6 months later it is starting to lessen, but not as much.

 

New Tricks: She is crawling, and trying to stand up. :( I think shes teething

 

General Stuff: I have felt hard core cramping the last 3 days...Maybe AF is coming back? What is your period like when bf'ing anyways? Lighter, heavier?

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Baby's Age This Month: Patrick will be 6 months in 10 days. Where in the heck did half a year go????

 

How are you feeling/adjusting?: I'm actually having a really hard time with things lately. I find my temper is really quick, and it mostly has to do with my daughter. :( She's been diagnosed with yet another problem, and this problem impacts EVERYTHING from how well she eats to how she sleeps, walks, talks, grows etc. Topped with Patrick's eyes not being good and a cold that will not quit (it's been almost a month since we were all well.) I'm getting really frustrated. 

 

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?:(about baby, parenthood, anything) I didn't expect another special needs baby, but here we are. Patrick needs glasses to correct his vision, and much as this shouldn't be bothering me as much as it does, I keep finding ways to blame myself for all of it. :( 

Any new tricks baby is trying out? After he figured out how to move himself around the house, Patrick is now very quickly learning how to commando crawl. But only backwards. :P 

General Stuff? I think that after 4 months or so of awesome-feeling, I have hit PPD, if that's even possible. Both of the kids needing specialists appointments and my guilty feelings about both of them aren't helping, but I'm doing my best to fight it off as naturally as possible. I really don't want to end up on meds again. 

post #3 of 35
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Ahh Jynx...Sounds rough. Is it just his vision? What did your daughter get dx'ed with now? Sorry to hear it all sounds like it is coming down.

It isn't your fault, you know that. You tried so hard for Patrick and went through so much that I bet a lot of stress is still leftover from that. Are you taking care of yourself at all?

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We see the specialist on the 15th which will tell us if it's muscular as well or just vision. Right now, his one eye droops down when he looks at things. 

 

My daughter was diagnosed with a carnitine deficiency disorder. She has been losing weight. So now we're balancing her weight with pediasure (nursed her for 4 1/2 years only to have to give her formula at 9???) but it's barely keeping her weight stable. So it's becoming a balancing line between keeping up this routine and having to tube feed her. :( 

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Jynx- That is a lot to deal with! I'm hoping you can find some time to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your two little ones!  Thinking of you!

 

Baby's Age This Month:  Ezra's half birthday was on Friday! Can't believe he's 6 months old!

 

How are you feeling/adjusting?: I am feeling fabulous.  When my first was born, I went back to work about 4 weeks pp... I was a nanny and he was able to come with me.  But I worked for a pretty high stress family so I was thrilled to quit before Ezra was born and am planning on staying home with them as long as possible.  For me, 2 kids and staying home has been WAY easier than one kid and working.  I have way more energy and much lower stress levels and am just a happier person in general.  It helps that Ezra is a little sunshine and has so far been very easy-going.  Money is definitely tight for us on one income and my small biz income (I have an Etsy shop called A New History)... but I am just so thankful to be able to stay home!

 

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?:(about baby, parenthood, anything) I really thought having 2 was going to be rough.  I mentally prepared myself for it.  I thought there would be more sibling issues and jealousy.  So far, Sol just loves his little brother and hugs him all the time and is super protective of him.  So I am pleasantly surprised.  I am a little concerned because Ezra is so different than Sol when it comes to nursing.  Sol loved nursing more than anything, I don't think he ever refused the boob.  (:  Sol nursed several times a night until we nightweaned around 18 months.  And while Sol was a pretty happy dude in general, he always let me know LOUD AND CLEAR when he was hungry (which was often).  Ezra on the other hand frequently refuses to nurse even when it's been 3 or 4 hours.  I feel like it's kind of hit or miss with him because he doesn't really tell me when he's hungry.  Anybody have experience with this?  Sol would always start smacking his lips and sucking on his fingers or fussing to be held when he was getting hungry.  But Ezra doesn't really do that.  He actually has his 6 month appt tomorrow so I'll ask his pediatrician.  I guess as long as he's gaining weight and happy I should just relax, right?

 

Any new tricks baby is trying out? Ezra is rolling all over the place and sitting up better.  He likes to sit with me on the floor and play with stuff, but he still topples over a lot. (:  He is also really into making funny noises right now.  Just last week he all of sudden decided he wanted to eat.  So he's been gnawing on apples and sweet potatoes this week.  We don't really do purees or anything, but I am excited that he's interested in solids now.

 

General Stuff? We just got back from a beach vacation and I am still daydreaming of the ocean and the sunshine and iced mixed drinks. (:  Hope everyone is doing well!

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Jynx, you should definitely not feel guilty!  And my MW said to watch for PPD anytime in the first year so that could be affecting you.  You're under so much stress with your little ones.  I hope that you've got a good support network and you feel better soon.

 

Denver - beach vacation sounds awesome!

 

Baby's Age This Month: We just passed 5 months.

 

How are you feeling/adjusting?: That depends on the day.  Elliott slept through the night (6 hours) starting at about 6 weeks so that was great!  Then just before four months he started waking every two hours to eat.  That was rough!  I definitely went through a period where I felt I was doing nothing well (parenting, work, household, relationship with DH.)  Elliott is now sleeping for about four hours now before he wakes up so I'm getting a bit more sleep and generally feel better.  And I'm trying not to be so hard on myself. 

 

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?:(about baby, parenthood, anything)

Everything is new!  DH and I still find ourselves looking at DS incredulously.  On the other hand, it's hard for us to imagine our lives without him.

 

Any new tricks baby is trying out?

DS has recently discovered his feet.  He will roll on occasion but I am really the most neglectful parent when it comes to tummy time.  The ped says he's plenty strong so I'm not too worried.  A not so exciting new skill: screeching.  This drives me crazy.  He can sit up, but will fall over sideways instantly if not supported.

 

General Stuff?

DH would love to be having more "us" time if you know what I mean.  It's not that I don't want to but sorry buddy, I am sooooo exhausted.  My MIL (caregiver for DS three days a week) still drives me crazy, but I think that's just a personality conflict that is impossible to resolved.  She dotes on DS and goes crazy buying toys, plus you can't beat free childcare.  We survived Sandy with just one leak in the house, didn't even lose power.  We were so lucky and I hope the NY mamas fared okay.

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I'm sorry to hear that Jynx, it sounds rough. :(  I don't really have any advice, sorry.  :(

 

Denver, Layla is the same way.  She very rarely lets me know when she's hungry.  She doesn't nurse for comfort either.  Up until very recently she wouldn't even fall asleep nursing.  She just started doing that the last couple weeks and then she'll only sleep an hour or so (it's only during the night so I don't really know how long it is).

 

Baby's Age This Month: She turned 6 months on Monday!

 

How are you feeling/adjusting?:  Great!  She's such an easy baby.  I feel very blessed!

 

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?:(about baby, parenthood, anything)  I didn't think it would be this easy!  I thought for sure I'd have a high maintenance baby since DD1 was so easy, but I think Layla is even easier! 

 

Any new tricks baby is trying out? She loves to throw herself backwards while being held.  She also likes to roll of my lap.  She's going to be a wild one!  Oh, she's starting to sit up too. 

 

General Stuff?  I think she's working on some teeth.  She's been waking every 3-4 hrs at night and been fussier than normal.  And...I'm kinda ready for another one.  The only hesitation is that I don't want Layla to wean yet.  Anyone else ready already?

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MLog- I don't even work outside the home any more, and I don't feel like 'hubby and me' time so much. I keep wondering when my drive will come back, but it just sounds about as exciting as flossing my teeth most nights. I think bfing is seriously effecting my libido.

Soooooo

LOL Sarah about being ready for another babe...

(I think D. is teething also. Been super fussy and gnawing on everything)

 

 

Am I ready for another one?? Yes! but then, No! lol

It switches back and forth depending on the day. I don't want to short change Dodiboo's baby time (adding the boo to her name cause her first name is so google-able and I don't like that!) and I don't want her to wean..I also feel like I am seriously sucking at home schooling this year.

Plus there are little things like, I would like to paint my nails, or..get a haircut (I haven't had one in 3 years, I think?). I would like to take off some of this poundage also..I have a ton of new sewing techniques I am vying to try out.

but.. I suppose I'm ready and maybe will even be hopeful before too much more time passes.

 

We don't try or avoid conception, so I want to be in the position where I'm happy about conception but not so hopeful that I am heartbroken if nothing. It was 5 years between D3 and Dodiboo so she very well could be our last one or I could be knocked up as I type. lol - seriously, I don't know.

I think I would like a son though... redface.gif I have 4 girls and they are so precious and we just love them but...I do think it would be nice to have a son.

I don't want to give birth again though! I'm sorry, I just don't! ack.

 

I am also seriously cramping!! it sucks. Almost every day for a week now. I think every thing is starting to get woke back up, perhaps.

I'll do a PT in the AM just to rule it out.

 

 

Denverduo----I remember just loving going to work because I was able to do my make up and socialize with people and feel appreciated when my youngers were little, but then I remember the mommy guilt and how I still had 'the second shift' when I got home . Its difficult cause being a SAHM has its own sets of challenges...I'm blessed to be able to try out this SAHM business, because I know this is probably just a season in my life so no sense wallowing in the difficulties.

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I haven't been here in awhile and then I checked this thread the other day, typed up a reply and then my computer just...died. So. That was lame. And now I don't want to spend all that time right now re-writing everything I had said (which, do I actually remember what I said? No. No I don't.)

Anyway...we've been busy. We moved to a new town (close to the old city), love our new place with more space for everyone. Baby C is growing fast and super adorable.

But I actually have a question and I'm wondering if any of you moms will know...I encapsulated my placenta, but haven't really taken any. I did it after the PP phase and I was feeling so great, I felt like I should wait until my typical 5 months PP funk set it. Well, DD is 6 months on Saturday and the funk has arrived. It actually started over a month ago when I got my first PP period (oh. joy.). I'm on period number 2 now and just as I had with the other two, PMS has now been kicked into raging psycopath mode. It's out of control. smile.gif Right now, I'm on day 3 and feeling surprisingly okay, but the weeks before...yikes. Total emotional roller coaster.
Anyway...here's my question. The pills have been refrigerated and I believe they're fine and I want to start taking them today. But I read in a few places its bad to take them if you are sick or have an infection...and I am currently dealing with a few (!!!!!) nasty cold sores on my lips courtesy of too much sun and raging hormones. Do any of you know if it would be bad to take my placenta pills with an active bout of those things?


Hope you're all doing well and enjoying your babies. This is such a fun age. DD is almost crawling already!! Where did the time go?
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Hi LHM (and everyone, its been SO long!) - I would recommend taking some extra Vit C and waiting til you get a little better since it sounds like your immune system is working overtime right now. But curious - are you taking a good multi vitamin, or a B-complex? also Omegas w/evening primrose (I take "Omega Woman" from Nordic Naturals) - -I am someone who has had terrible PMS my entire life, and have found that these supplements really do help balance things out, plus - good for hair and skin, so thats an added bonus?

 

I hope to find time for a real update later! Love reading about everyone!

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I haven't been here in awhile and then I checked this thread the other day, typed up a reply and then my computer just...died. So. That was lame. And now I don't want to spend all that time right now re-writing everything I had said (which, do I actually remember what I said? No. No I don't.)
Anyway...we've been busy. We moved to a new town (close to the old city), love our new place with more space for everyone. Baby C is growing fast and super adorable.
But I actually have a question and I'm wondering if any of you moms will know...I encapsulated my placenta, but haven't really taken any. I did it after the PP phase and I was feeling so great, I felt like I should wait until my typical 5 months PP funk set it. Well, DD is 6 months on Saturday and the funk has arrived. It actually started over a month ago when I got my first PP period (oh. joy.). I'm on period number 2 now and just as I had with the other two, PMS has now been kicked into raging psycopath mode. It's out of control. smile.gif Right now, I'm on day 3 and feeling surprisingly okay, but the weeks before...yikes. Total emotional roller coaster.
Anyway...here's my question. The pills have been refrigerated and I believe they're fine and I want to start taking them today. But I read in a few places its bad to take them if you are sick or have an infection...and I am currently dealing with a few (!!!!!) nasty cold sores on my lips courtesy of too much sun and raging hormones. Do any of you know if it would be bad to take my placenta pills with an active bout of those things?
Hope you're all doing well and enjoying your babies. This is such a fun age. DD is almost crawling already!! Where did the time go?
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Patrick doesn't need glasses!!! He has a lazy eye, but the doctor is confident it will go away in the next few months. We're going to be seen again in 3 months. I am so happy he doesn't need them!

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Hi LHM (and everyone, its been SO long!) - I would recommend taking some extra Vit C and waiting til you get a little better since it sounds like your immune system is working overtime right now. But curious - are you taking a good multi vitamin, or a B-complex? also Omegas w/evening primrose (I take "Omega Woman" from Nordic Naturals) - -I am someone who has had terrible PMS my entire life, and have found that these supplements really do help balance things out, plus - good for hair and skin, so thats an added bonus?

 

I hope to find time for a real update later! Love reading about everyone!

 

EPO is good for PMS? 

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Patrick doesn't need glasses!!! He has a lazy eye, but the doctor is confident it will go away in the next few months. We're going to be seen again in 3 months. I am so happy he doesn't need them!

Yay!  :)

 

I just got PP AF #2 yesterday.  So annoying!  AF never really bothered me before, but it's much heavier now and it's just really irritating. 

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Yay Jynx! Though personally I think a baby wearing glasses is just soo adorable. Dont know why, just do.

 

I got AF yesterday! Whooo boy...Postpartum I kept experimenting with cloth pads and wound up sewing about 8 of them, but...uh. yeah. Here we are on day two and I should have sewn more cause my period is bright red, & heavy like I don't remember. I'm not crampy at all though now, weird.

 

Its 3 am and I am going to throw the dipes in the wash and get some sleep. I have insomnia like crazy!!

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For me it has been - I think it balances hormones a bit.
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EPO is good for PMS? 
Yay!  smile.gif

I just got PP AF #2 yesterday.  So annoying!  AF never really bothered me before, but it's much heavier now and it's just really irritating. 
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Yay Jynx! Though personally I think a baby wearing glasses is just soo adorable. Dont know why, just do.

 

I got AF yesterday! Whooo boy...Postpartum I kept experimenting with cloth pads and wound up sewing about 8 of them, but...uh. yeah. Here we are on day two and I should have sewn more cause my period is bright red, & heavy like I don't remember. I'm not crampy at all though now, weird.

 

Its 3 am and I am going to throw the dipes in the wash and get some sleep. I have insomnia like crazy!!

 

my first was like that too!  almost like the bleeding i experienced after birth, minus cramping.  ugh!  this one was a little more normal though. still much heavier than what i was used to. 

 

sorry about your insomnia.  :(  i have a product called a-b calm that my chiro gave me.  it's cal-mag supplement, it helps with restless legs and also helps you sleep.  i sent a sample to a friend who had tried everything for her insomnia and she said it helped.  vitacost.com sells it, if you want i can send you an invite to their rewards program and we can both get $10.  :)

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For me it has been - I think it balances hormones a bit.

i'll have to try it.  for almost two weeks i was crying at stupid price is right every day!  then came the super short temper and rage.  :/

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Hi LHM (and everyone, its been SO long!) - I would recommend taking some extra Vit C and waiting til you get a little better since it sounds like your immune system is working overtime right now. But curious - are you taking a good multi vitamin, or a B-complex? also Omegas w/evening primrose (I take "Omega Woman" from Nordic Naturals) - -I am someone who has had terrible PMS my entire life, and have found that these supplements really do help balance things out, plus - good for hair and skin, so thats an added bonus?

I hope to find time for a real update later! Love reading about everyone!

Thanks rozzie!

In the post-that-got-deleted, I actually wrote something about re-starting taking EPO and krill oil (for omegas) and some B12 and that had helped the PMS. I had to take it for a few weeks but I did notice an improvement in my moods in general.
In the past I have also taken calcium magnesium for PMS and that definitely helps, but I ran out and have been too cheap to buy another bottle.

@onemore - my first PP period was a doozy. You have my sympathies. I personally hate pads and couldn't wait to use tampons for my second period (they told me you're not supposed to use tampons your first PP period?) - but now...I am remembering how much I hate those too. There has to be a better way. That doesn't involve me sewing stufff because that's not gonna happen.

Oh also...Tuesday will be the first time I leave baby with someone else - DH and I have a thing all day that we can't get out of so my parents are coming to watch the kids. Super nervous about the whole thing honestly...but, I don't have a choice. I'm worried that being away from her all day will jack up my already fragile milk supply (hormones are wacky and I left her with DH for a few hours last night and I was engorged when I got home, but only pumped off 2 ounces where I used to get 4 or 5). I have a hand pump but I have no idea if I'd have the opportunity during this Thing to find somewhere private to pump...What do you think? Will my milk supply survive roughly 12 hours of no nursing?

Happy Thanksgiving ladies! smile.gif
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Jynx - That is great news about Patrick's eyes!

 

LHM - 12 hours without feeding or pumping?  I have no idea what that would do to your milk supply by aren't you going to be terribly engorged?  You can always just sit in a bathroom stall and use your hand pump, right?  Good luck!

 

I still haven't had a PP AF.  DS was sleeping through the night early on so I thought for sure AF would come, but since about 4 months he's nursing several times at night so maybe I'll be spared a little while longer.  You all are freaking me out with mention of crazy hormones and super heavy flow.  Of course sleeping more than 2 hours at a time would be great too.

 

Exciting news for us: yesterday I discovered that DS can sit unsupported.  Not for a super long time, but still it was very exciting.  And it was picture day at the dance studio for our upcoming Nutcracker production and during a bit of down time the photographer offered to take some pics of DS and me.  I looked like complete crap (lack of sleep and all and general disregard for my appearance) but somehow he got an amazing pic of DS and me and he's going to give me some prints for free.  I'm keeping it a surprise from DH and will give it to him for Christmas.  So exciting!  I'm trying to remember that part of the day since my day ended up with a couple of moms reaming me out because I didn't make their children the star of the show.

 

Anyway, that was a little bit of rambling, but felt good to share. shy.gif

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Thanks rozzie!
In the post-that-got-deleted, I actually wrote something about re-starting taking EPO and krill oil (for omegas) and some B12 and that had helped the PMS. I had to take it for a few weeks but I did notice an improvement in my moods in general.
In the past I have also taken calcium magnesium for PMS and that definitely helps, but I ran out and have been too cheap to buy another bottle.
@onemore - my first PP period was a doozy. You have my sympathies. I personally hate pads and couldn't wait to use tampons for my second period (they told me you're not supposed to use tampons your first PP period?) - but now...I am remembering how much I hate those too. There has to be a better way. That doesn't involve me sewing stufff because that's not gonna happen.
Oh also...Tuesday will be the first time I leave baby with someone else - DH and I have a thing all day that we can't get out of so my parents are coming to watch the kids. Super nervous about the whole thing honestly...but, I don't have a choice. I'm worried that being away from her all day will jack up my already fragile milk supply (hormones are wacky and I left her with DH for a few hours last night and I was engorged when I got home, but only pumped off 2 ounces where I used to get 4 or 5). I have a hand pump but I have no idea if I'd have the opportunity during this Thing to find somewhere private to pump...What do you think? Will my milk supply survive roughly 12 hours of no nursing?
Happy Thanksgiving ladies! smile.gif

DivaCup, or something like that?  I used one for a few years.  I'm thinking about getting another one, but I don't know.  It was kind of a hassle too.  I am finding Always Infinity pads to be pretty awesome.  They're super thin (like, panty liner thin) and they absorb a lot but don't feel wet.  There's nothing natural about them, but at this point I don't care.

 

I don't think I'd risk going 12 hrs.  That would make me nervous, and you'd be so engorged!  :(  Check kellymom.com or drjaygordon.com

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Jynx - That is great news about Patrick's eyes!

 

LHM - 12 hours without feeding or pumping?  I have no idea what that would do to your milk supply by aren't you going to be terribly engorged?  You can always just sit in a bathroom stall and use your hand pump, right?  Good luck!

 

I still haven't had a PP AF.  DS was sleeping through the night early on so I thought for sure AF would come, but since about 4 months he's nursing several times at night so maybe I'll be spared a little while longer.  You all are freaking me out with mention of crazy hormones and super heavy flow.  Of course sleeping more than 2 hours at a time would be great too.

 

Exciting news for us: yesterday I discovered that DS can sit unsupported.  Not for a super long time, but still it was very exciting.  And it was picture day at the dance studio for our upcoming Nutcracker production and during a bit of down time the photographer offered to take some pics of DS and me.  I looked like complete crap (lack of sleep and all and general disregard for my appearance) but somehow he got an amazing pic of DS and me and he's going to give me some prints for free.  I'm keeping it a surprise from DH and will give it to him for Christmas.  So exciting!  I'm trying to remember that part of the day since my day ended up with a couple of moms reaming me out because I didn't make their children the star of the show.

 

Anyway, that was a little bit of rambling, but felt good to share. shy.gif

Congrats on sitting up!  Layla is so close!  That's awesome that you got a wonderful picture too.  I'm really hoping my sister will get some of us Christmas time. 

 

That sucks about the parents though.  :(  I don't understand why people think that's going to solve the problem.  Why would you be rude and mean to someone you put in charge of teaching and caring for your child?  Seems to me like you'd want to be extra nice to those people.  Ugh.  Sorry.  :(  Mean parents suck.

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I'm so happy that we're still checking in!!

 

Baby's Age This Month: 6 months today! wow.

 

How are you feeling/adjusting?: we're finally starting to accept that we can't do everything ourselves. Kusha is super, super high-energy, physically assertive, and hyper-aware (and, predictably, constantly gets over-stimulated). so even though my husband and I have flexible [full-time] work schedules where at least one of us is home all the time (and more often than not, both of us are home together), we are getting very little done. we also aren't exercising much, cleaning minimally, and cooking is definitely not happening like it used to. at first I was thinking of getting a helper/nanny, but the more I thought about it, the less appealing that sounded, so I'm looking for other kinds of help. luckily we have healthy prepared-foods options here, and got a lead on a good cleaner, so I'm going to try that this week and see how that feels. I'm feeling ok physically - I'd love to exercise, and to eat better (Halloween candy threw me off big time), but at least I'm back to pre-preg size so that's one less thing to worry about, though I'm feeling weak and I'd like to start going back to the gym soon, once we figure out the other stuff. like food, and sleep (which is only very recently getting better).

 

Anything different/new than what you were expecting?: this experience is challenging every preconceived notion I ever had about parenthood. no amount of planning could have prepared me for this kid. I can't believe how much I love him, how perfect he is, and how HARD he is. it's constant. 

 

Any new tricks baby is trying out? sitting up and rolling all over the place. scooting around but no crawling yet. lots of belly laughs <3 <3 saying ma ma ma ma ma ba ba ba ba ba and blowing raspberries when he's especially unhappy with us. and not really a trick, but he's really into our food and has been getting tastes for about a month, and we're starting solids for real tomorrow.

 

General Stuff? I have my moments where I just want to quit school and take care of everything. it's not a great idea for me, I'm pretty sure I'd get depressed if I did that. I've also been thinking if I want another kid at some point. we're spoken about it a fair amount and it seems like neither of us has a burning desire to do this again. we're very happy with this experience and this kid but both worried about potentially having another high-intensity baby and not being able to meet all of Kusha's (and our) needs. time will tell what we'll do. I'm still processing our birth experience and would rather never again be in a position where my uterus would have to be sliced open so there's that, too. 

 

no period here yet! Kusha still nurses throughout the night. 

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Sarah- Send me an invite. I can't do it this payday, but I will next :)

Day 3 (almost day 4) of PP period and it is starting to lighten up. Note to self: Linen, no matter how healing of a fiber - does not make pretty cloth pads after their first use.

 

LHM ---- I would be happy to whip you up a couple sherpa pads if you would like to try them. They are organic, but a very ugly salmon (I suppose...thats what they are called anyway) color. It'd be free, ofcourse :) ...I'm sorry I never got back to you in PM. I got so many supportive messages after Dodiboo was hospitalized from strangers and people that I was just so uplifted and felt loved, but never got back to every one! Pretty sure I didn't to you either.

Anyways, let me know. :)

 


Mlog- Share the pic with us if you get a chance or want to! Would love to see it!

 

Maryam: *hugs* Just keep taking it one day at a time. My first was super intense to the point that until she was completely mobile was finally when she started to chill a bit temperment wise. Shes still my drama mama girl, but in a positive spin - shes super passionate. That kid doesnt do anything without putting her whole fiber in on it..which can be a GREAT personality trait. On the downside, she also shares personality traits with stalkers...so its a crapshoot but mostly GREAT..(we hope) LOL ;)

Hang in there, slowly but surely it gets better. You will have many moons to make great food, and a clean home - this time really is brief (though when you're in the thick of it with HIGH!NEEDS! baby it doesn't seem like it I know). Relax your expectations some if you can! I resorted to a jumperoo, biter biscuits, and baby einstein vids just to get a shower or some moments of peace with her.

If overstimulation or those are out of the question --- what about Pulsatilla 30x from 1800homeopathy.com? I use to use those and chamomile a  LOT with babe #2 who was constantly overstimulated by just breathing (it seemed) **hugs**

 

We have a hellacious storm going on here. Haven't lost power yet, but may. posting this quickly.

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