I'm hoping some of you can give me some advice about what to do with regards to having my 4 year old DD evaluated. She has been struggling in school and at home since she was about 3. Last year she was in two nursery schools and was unhappy in both. Her teachers voiced concern and I started the process with the school district who made an observation and determined that an evaluation was not necessary. So, I brought her to have some preliminary cognitive testing done but not a full eval. The testing showed that she had some language issues, sensory issues and possible ADHD, in addition to a high IQ. She began speech therapy in June and OT in September. She also started a new school this fall. The new school has been wonderful. The teachers are experinced and mature and know exactly how to handle her. However, they are expressing concern, as is the director of the school. It has been recommended to me to have her evaluated by the professionals that are working with her. So, I had a consultation with a child psychiatrist who (without meeting my DD) hypothesized that she may have OCD, a Tic disorder and ADHD!
I contacted a few places about doing an eval and they are about 4-6k and last 2-3 days about 1.5-3 hours each time. My husband and I both think this is overkill for our DD. She is a very happy, bright, imaginative child who has some quirks. However, I don't want to sweep these issues under the rug. These are some of the issues. The school is concerned primarily about her emotional issues. They voiced concern about her imaginary friends taking on a new level "gock wants me to be mean" and making up names for herself. Also, if she doesn't want to say hello to someone she will tap her throat and pretend she lost her voice. The teachers also mentioned that she tends to try to poke the other children's faces and she screams at someone when she wants them to leave her alone. At home, she has some peculiar behaviours as well. She will only wear panties at home. Clothing has been a battle for some time now. She tends to become fixated with a movie she has seen and act out the movie, which includes wearing the "right" clothing for the movie. For example, now it's the princesses and she will only wear dresses because "princesses only wear dresses". During down time she will gallop back and forth in the family room sort of whispering to herself and says she's playing a "movie". After working with a behaviourist I have gained some great tools in dealing with her and our home life has become so much calmer. Anyway, I'm leaning toward revisiting the evaluation question in the spring and putting it on the back burner. I'm just wondering if any of you have been through something similar with your child/ren and would love some insight.
Thanks for reading!