Ill try to keep it as brief as possible but in short my husband and I are in our late twenties and have been married for two years now. We don't have kids yet out of choice as we are both extremely busy in our careers (both in publishing) and want to have children in a few years when we are ready and able to do so.
My husbands sister is a single parent of a six year old child. He requires a lot of attention and energy (as I imagine all 6 year olds would). My problem is that hubby's sister has just got a bar job every Saturday evening from 6 till 10. She asked hubby whether we would have her son every Saturday night while she works.
I don't want to sound rude but I feel as though she is asking too much of us! We both work so much during the week we barely get to see each other. By the weekend we are so exhausted we like to relax, maybe get dinner or see a movie on a Saturday. I've tried to speak about it with hubby but he thinks we should just babysit for free because its family but its eating into our quality time together. Hubby isn't happy but he says you do what you have to for family.
There are other family members that could watch her son but as we always treat him well and play games Etc he says he wants to
Come to us which is lovely and flattering but I can't cope with it every Saturday. We don't have our own kids yet for a reason because we enjoy the child free life at the moment so I don't see why we should look after someone else's during our weekend.
Please let me know how to tackle this problem and maybe try and put your perspective on things as a mother. Maybe I'm being too harsh I don't know.