I have been browsing some related threads here but can't find exactly what I'm looking for so I'm hoping I can get some help with this by just asking directly. Sorry if some of these are silly questions! Bear with me, I'm very new to this all!!!
My husband and I have been praying about adoption. We've always been very open to it but it's really been on our hearts lately so we are just beginning looking into it more. Of course, we can't afford it on our own. We have looked into several adoption aid programs, but are there any that people here have experience with and/or recommend?
My big question though is that because we are a non-vax'ing family (none for my children, I was fully vaxed until college, and DH is *mostly* up to date, being a paramedic), will that hurt our chances? (and the other way around, will it put us on some sort of radar since the US isn't very friendly toward non-vax families??) I understand we may be required to vax and continue vax'ing our adopted child. While I hate that, I feel like I would rather proceed with the vaccinations if it means being able to offer the child a safe, loving family in a healthy home. That said, though, even if we're required to continue vax'ing, is it possible to override that with a medical exemption of sorts? (I'm not even sure of the validity of "exemptions" for adoption so sorry if that's a dumb question!) While we rarely go to an actual doctor (each of my children have only been once or twice, and only for the paper trail...more on that in a second), she is very much against blanket vaccinations and said that if we ever needed a medical exemption, she could absolutely find a reason for one. I'm assuming she could do the same for our adopted child (and for all I know, there may really be a serious medical need to delay/avoid vax's for the child who comes home with us), but do "they" even allow that?
And on that note, as far as medical stuff, even when needed we don't "see" a doctor. My FIL is an MD (and my MIL an RN turned naturopath) and they live across the road from us, so if we ever need anything we just go straight to them. Will our lack of medical records harm our chances? Is there anything health-related I should be aware of?
Lastly, unrelated to the medical aspect, we live in a fairly small farm house. (no indoor pets though) Tons of outdoor space (34 acres of it LOL) but our house is only 1200 sq ft- 3br 1bath. I obviously haven't looked into this much, but how much does that play into the picture? Right now we only use 2 rooms for sleeping and they are small (about 12x12), the other is an office/schoolroom. (ack...while I'm on that note, there isn't any issue with homeschooling adopted children, is there? My aunt has done it for years but I've never given it much thought until I just wrote that) Anyway, our 3 children "share" one bedroom though they co-sleep a lot. Would we have to utilize every room as a "bedroom" in order to meet requirements? Pretty sure our state is 4 children per room (so 2 bunk beds works perfectly, actually). Do they go by that?
Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this and a HUGE thanks to anyone who takes the time to answer! LOL Again, I apologize if my questions are redundant or just plain dumb. ;) We have only JUST begun looking into this stuff and it's sort of overwhelming, and a lot of my specific concerns aren't mainstream enough to make easily accessible info!!
Edited by 1babysmom - 11/3/12 at 4:51pm