Give Thanks for Bajingo Juice! TTC #1 in our 30s November 2012

[lilacvioletiris]

Conceiving  #1 in  Our  30's November 2012

est. 2006

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Username	Age	TTC since	Chart	month posted
BuffyAnne	35	12/11		7
ConiferOD	34	6/12		11
Coquelicot	30	4/12		11
CvillleC	33	10/12		10
dakipode	33	1/12		11
doularebekah	30	09/11		10
JustJenny	36	5/11		10
Jumblepuff	31	10/11		7
librarygirl	32	5/12		9
Lilacvioletiris	36	04/11		11
Lee'sGirl	32	07/12		10
LivingSky	32	04/12		8
LottieLee	28	4/12		6
magoodoggy	36	4/12		6
PoorUglyHappy	32	05/10		10
sabrinabella	32	3/12		10
suzmo	31	2/12		7
Taxlady	35	08/09		7
TeamViddy	30	08/11		10
Tickletoes	36	08/10		10 (bfp 10/29/12)
unuselyriver	30	08/12		9

Pregnant Graduates

Fall 2012 Bajingo Graduates Thread!

2013

• bebelove ........................ at age 35 after 19 months EDD 6/15/13
• Espion............................. EDD 6/8/13
• MrsSanders1.................... at age 31 EDD 6/13
• megmoira......................... at age 31 after 4 months EDD 5/13
• AmandaLynnH.................. at age 30 after 1 months EDD 5/13
• Kimble............................. at age 31 after 8 months EDD 5/13
• MargaretAnn.................. EDD 5/24/13
• Brendalee......................... EDD 4/22/13
• MainCoastMama............ EDD 4/18/13
• mayday............................. EDD 4/8/13
• chocolatechip................... EDD 3/29/13
• Scruffy Too ................... at age 31 EDD 3/13
• Ncat................................. at age 31 after 12 months EDD 1/13
• pitchounette ..................... at age 31 after 14 months EDD 1/13
• Tropicalfever ..................... at age 28 after 2 months EDD 1/13

2012

• sweetmilk......................... at age 32 after 8 months EDD 12/12
• wantabeanbrat................... at age 30 after 1 month EDD 11/12

Mommy Graduates 

2012's

Ramzubo , FrannieM , Hokievol, Jessimaca , RosieL , Chapluqa , BellaWithBaby, Bel718 , Calycanth ,CA Country Girl , dandylez , scowgirl , bootsvalentine , reelala, lakeruby , Andaluza , ericaf , calpurnia , mole , catheleni , nemrac , femmeknitzi,
 

2011's 

Jenne, IHeartMyFamily, jtc77, rmiriam, Neuromancer, amp4piano, Shabbers, cb718, lauraska, Blanca78 , Elonwy , Nutter , Bolobear, Shyentist, meander, annaconda , Fertilemyrtle , LivingSky , Tear78 , HDSM, Teetina, ValH , JlyGrnMgt, nmouse, Gemini13, cristinimartini, tank , hykue , birdielee

2010's 

Monarchgrrl, orandalady, grateful301, kmlcu, mollytommy, Adorkable, Pixelgeek

2009's 

violet_, Suka, CareCare, Sju88b, shantiani, Peace+Hope, lissame72, KikaKika, Masel, zenproofstella, Wanting2BaMom, jacappell, joyakshi, Octobermoon, EarthMamaToBe, Cellist, berryblndgirl, beth28, carmen358, marinak1977, makeminepink, humptydumpty, Lillitu, Catubodua, PoetryLover, cocoanib, welshwife08, Katie34, lilviolet, starkyld, Poetgirl, Somegirl99,Taylah, Houla055 

2008's 

Amahrey, jencat, Ms Sig, christigpa, ~sweet pea~, Nashvillemidwife, artsake, kJad29, elspethshimon, heinz28, nonsenseprecious, nalusj, musiclady, quasar & smartycat, tourist, penstamon, amymckinney, corikodjo, honeybunny65, fjkelly, tiggernorton04,sky_and_lavender 

 
2007's 

Hazieluna, ATD Mom, Brightside, K9sarchik, Amberbella, Shibababy, jpiper0430, MajorGroover, Grace24, Hezzy, CowsRock, Kharen, Nico DeMouse, xenon, SarahJen, Suzywan, Phillybama, jentina, Jujubie, Writerbird, Melanie_rabbitbarn, Cicely_m, PinkOrchid2,Cking, Mandy 74, Anouk, GISDiva, Raingyrl, ChristyM26, Starlightsound, Palma, Rhon, 11yrsNoKid, Desilou, Nony,AngelaM, hae703, Radiowave, FiberLover, Scalpel, Zucchini, Funnygrace, VeganCupcake, Illaria

2006's 

Farmama, PiePie, Dctexan, Greengrey & Beckyphry
 
 

List Maintenance:
 

This #1 In Your 30s Thread welcomes everyone who's interested to participate in this thread. You are welcome to come and go as you are able, just please be aware that in order to keep the list of members manageable, the username of those who haven't participated in the thread within the last 6 months will be removed. If your name is removed, you are always welcome to rejoin the thread at any time. Graduates are listed indefinitely for the joy it brings!

Threadkeeping:
 

Members are most welcome to take a turn at threadkeeping for a month. It is easy and fun. All help you need will be happily given.

Edited by lilacvioletiris - 11/11/12 at 5:02pm

[lilacvioletiris]

So what are you grateful for this month? For me, I am grateful that DH and I have enough sperm frozen and waiting for us when we save enough money to go through the IVF procedures. I am grateful that we have been able to pay off some credit cards and get our finances in better form as we look forward to getting pregnant within the next year.

A new month is a great thing to be thankful for!  Please share.

[librarygirl]

Hi everyone,

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile. Work has been crazy, I've been in another cluster headache period, and for awhile, forums were adding to my stress so I just had to step away. Hopefully I'm back for a bit now.

I am thankful for such a wonderful family- parents, sisters, brothers-in-law, in-laws, everyone. I have an amazing clan.

As for TTC- I'm 11DPO and trying to resist testing until Tuesday (AF usually comes 12 DPO). I am telling myself that I'm not pregnant this cycle, over and over again, because I got so upset last month and I don't want a repeat of that. Just usual PMS symptoms, but nothing to indicate that it's "just pms" or "maybe pregnancy-related" so far. I did do a due-date calculator and discovered that if I am pregnant this cycle, babe would be due July 17th....11 days after my sister's wedding! I thought when we weren't pregnant last month that we were clear for her wedding but I guess not. Guess we'll see what we'll see.

Hope everyone is doing well and we all see BFPs really soon!

[ConiferOD]

Hey there, so this is my first time writing...but have been reading loads of threads for the last few months. I went off the pill after being on it for 18 years!!! That scared me a bit tbh. Went of the pill in June 2012 and ttc.
I think my cycle is finally somewhat normal, although my AF has only lasted for 1.5 days for the last 2 cycles. That's very short for me, so I have mistake. It for implantation bleeding each time as they were so light.
So now I think I am 7dpo...but not 100%. Possibly anywhere from 7-10. i think there was a very faint line with opk 7 days ago, but it wasn't FMU.
If I have a 28 day cycle, then AF is due on Wednesday. If I go by the chart predictor, af should start Friday.
Tbh, I am feeling disappointed and a bit frustrated. I wish I knew what and where my body was. I keep trying to trick myself to think that I am ok if I get bfn and timing would be perfect if I conceived next year. But it's just a coping method to numb my disappointment. I'll be 35 in January...that magic number.
I don't know if I can wait until next weekend to test...but I don't want to get my hopes up too early only to see a bfn.
Sorry for blabbing...but I don't want to be a moanie joanie to people that don't understand.
Loads of pregnant bellies all around me...hopefully I catch some of that dust

[dakipode]

Hi ConiferOD, I understand the disappointment. Your whole life you've been led to believe that having unprotected sex once will absolutely lead to pregnancy so you diligently take whatever prevention measures work for you. Then, one day, you say: "this is it, I'm ready!" and lo and behold, getting pregnant is a whole lot harder than you thought... Keep your chin up, it will happen!

librarygirl, sorry to hear you've been dealing with those headaches again. Did you get some good BDing in? Best of luck to you!

lilac, I like your attitude. We all have lots to be grateful for. I try to remind myself that none of my problems are REAL problems, i.e. I can afford the roof over my head, put food on the table every day and I'm in a loving, supportive relationship. The rest is just variations on the same theme: if only ... I would be so much happier... right? I am thankful for this community. I keep repeating this because I want you all to know how much your support here means to me. It's great to have a group to share my thoughts, fears and frustrations with, knowing that I am not crazy for thinking these things, because you all have been there too.

AFM: I think I'm in the same spot you were in last cycle, librarygirl. I'm totally obsessed with symptom spotting and entirely convinced I am pregnant... Not only will I be extremely disappointed if I'm not, it would also be a surprise. And if that fateful day comes, that little nagging voice in my head will be there saying: "I told you so, you shouldn't have let your hopes get up so high..." But that won't be till next week, so until then I'm "pre-pregnant", my term for probably pregnant just haven't been able to confirm it yet! Ha!

I think part of the reason why I'm so hopeful has to do with the fact that this was the first Clomid cycle. I guess I want to believe that it helped because if it turns out I'm not pregnant, well then what's the point of taking it if it didn't make a difference?

[ConiferOD]

Hi Lilacvioletiris,

I'd love to officially be a part of this thread. I don't have a chart, but I am 34 and trying to conceive since June 2012. I'd love the company

Dakipode,

Thanks for your reply, you hit the nail in the head there. Well, my impatience got the better of me and I took a test this morning...bfn. But not surprised...I was joking the gun.

How are you ladies feeling this week? I'm ok, just keeping myself occupied with the gym and other activities to keep busy and positive. Life is great, and it's always important to really appreciate who and what we have

Hope you all are having a fab day xx

[lilacvioletiris]

daikipode, our thankful attitude will get us to go far and when we are pregnant and then finally holding our little ones in our arms we will be thankful for all the support along the way.  I am looking forward to that day more and more each day.

librarygirl, hoping that you have good news.

coniferOD, I have added you to the list.  Welcome to the thread!  I hope you stay here is short and that you get your BFP soon!

AFM, expecting AF in a couple days.  Not feeling anything out of the ordinary so figured AF will turn up right on time.

[dakipode]

Well, of course after declaring yesterday that I feel pregnant a pre-AF symptom showed up today... Lilac, maybe we'll be cycle buddies, I think AF is due for me on Thursday.

[TeamViddy]

Lilac, thank you again for the new thread! Sounds like things are looking up for you in 2013.

Dakipode, there's still a chance, right? Will you try clomid next month if you didn't get pregnant this month?

Librarygirl, good luck, thinking of you! This is totally unsolicited, but have you looked into any sensitivities or allergies you might have? Mr. Viddy used to get migraines every single week. Then he was doing some research and found that a list of common migraine triggers was really similar to common allergens. We changed our diets a bit after that, and he takes an antihistamine if he is drinking wine or eating certain cheeses. I know advice can be annoying if you are not asking for it-- but hope this is helpful :)

AFM, I am on CD 12 and we've BD's twice since my secondary fertility symptoms showed up! Alright. This might be the cycle. I need to temper my feelings, but winter is sad and dreary for me. Maybe that BFP would give me something to dream about.

Speaking of which, there are two things I've been collecting since starting to TTC. They are both things that I can put away and not look at if I don't want to. One is an Amazon baby registry. Sometimes when I'm derping around the internet I research baby stuff and find the best options and add them to the registry. I enjoy it, and I doubt that Mr. Viddy will veto any of my choices.

The other is that I have a birth/baby songs collection. They're all gentle, kind, hopeful songs. This one is not released so I can't add it to a playlist in its current form. But it is so touching, and the artist writes that she can't play it without crying because she loves her daughter so deeply. So, grab a tissue and listen... http://youtu.be/Qqe3o-LYvCY

[doularebekah]

Thanks for the new thread, Lilac. We don't celebrate Thanksgiving here but I wanted to join in anyway - I'm incredibly grateful for the time I've spent with Tynesha Rose (my aunt and uncle's little girl, my sister/cousin and the little girl we moved to help care for) over the past few months, and that we were able to have her at home with us, sedated and pain-free at last when she passed away last week. It has been such a shitty week in so many ways, I'm pretty heartbroken for my aunt and uncle, and also for myself, but that we got to all be there with her in her final few days was the greatest thing. It's still pretty mind blowing to me that things like this can happen and that doctors can't fix everything, despite knowing this intellectually it's hard to fully understand emotionally. She's at peace now though, thankfully.

I think the stress of all this has made my cycle go a little nuts. I marked the spotting I had down as AF like I mentioned I would, and then started heavy bleeding again 20 days later! Maybe it's the metformin messing with my hormones? Thankfully I'm feeling much better with taking that though, so I'm going to keep going. Currently at the beginning of a new cycle and am trying to take things slowly. 

TT - I am so, so excited and happy for you. Those numbers are beautiful and I am crossing my fingers tight for a happy and healthy nine months!

[JustJenny]

doula - I am so sorry for your loss.   Death is such a stressful time....wishing you and your family peace.....

Welcome Conifer-

librarygirl, dakipode, lilacvioletiris- and anyone else- wishing you bfp's!!

AFM- AF came yesterday. So on to cycle 20 for me....

[dakipode]

Librarygirl, I paused for a second when I read cycle #20 for you. It makes sense though after I did the math and I realized that I really do have long cycles, since I'll be starting #10 in November. Good luck to you!

doularebekah, I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family much peace and comfort in this difficult time.

TeamViddy, I will probably try Clomid again but I want to speak to my doctor first. The only time I saw him in person was back in July when I started looking into my fertility and I have questions about why the medication didn't do anything to speed up O. Frankly, I'm a bit disillusioned with the amount of attention I've gotten, or lack thereof. I feel like I'm just a number, just another patient who's gotten her routine Clomid prescription. Then again, I'm not sure what else they could be doing for me since I declined to do an IUI this cycle.

That's interesting that you started a baby registry. Do you find it helps put your mind at ease? I think it would just end up frustrating me every time I look at it.

AFM: I pretty much decided this morning I'm not pregnant and had a good little cry about it. Taking the day "off" to write, I consider it a bit of a treat, even though I'm also writing under duress now (NaNoWriMo).

[lilacvioletiris]

doula - I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I hope that you and your family can find some time to grief and celebrate the life that the little girl in your life had. I will pray for you all because loss is always difficult.

dakipode - I am hoping that you will be able to find some solace in your writing - the English teacher at my school is having   all our 8th through 12th graders participate in the NaNoWriMo. It will be interesting to see how it ends up.

TeamViddy, I hoping that around Thanksgiving you will be giving lots of thanks for a BFP with a higher amount of BD that happened 2 weeks before :)

JustJenny, you and I are almost tied with numbers of cycles - I am almost to cycle 19 once my AF comes.  My temp dropped this morning so probably tomorrow or the next day.


 

[doularebekah]

Thanks for the kind words everyone :) My aunt and uncle never could have kids, and after raising my sister and I their adopting T came as quite the surprise to everyone! The house is pretty quiet now, which has been hard to get used to but we're slowly starting to get back into a rhythm. I've always laughed at what a cliche it is to say 'one day at a time', but now I know how really true those words are. 

dakipode - how're you doing? Any sign of AF yet? Fingers crossed she stays away. 

JustJenny - Fingers crossed that this is your lucky cycle!

AFM - still pre-O so nothing really exciting here. I've been really good at taking my metformin and vitamins (iron, B complex, Vitex), so that feels good. My temps are crazy all over the place, but I'm going to chalk that up to the stress and PCOS for now. 

[dakipode]

doularebekah, I wish you peace and love and the time to heal. I hope as that as you slowly work through your grief your body will fall into its normal rhythm again. Sometimes the predictability of ritual can help.

AFM: still waiting on AF, pretty sure it's coming since I took a test a few days ago and it was negative. Wondering if Clomid helps lengthen LP, this is the longest mine has been so far.

[lilacvioletiris]

Doula, I hope that each new day brings you more peace and renewal.  Hopefully the metformin will do the trick for you.

dakipode, I hope your lp is lengthened with the clomid.  I hadn't heard that it was a side effect but hopefully it means good things for you.

AFM, AF showed up Thursday night so I am on CD 3 of cycle 19.  DH says that he workplace told him to come back on Monday to get his educational reimbursement.  I hope that it comes then so we can put the money in the bank for our IVF cycle next summer.

[Coquelicot]

Hello everyone !

I'm new to the forum (actually I registered a few months ago but haven't been really present). I'm happy to be here and can't wait to hear about all of you.

I am 30 years old, since August (DH is 29), and we are presently in my 7th cycle of TTC. I never thought it would take us such a long time to conceive... I try to stay positive, but it's hard not to imagine the worst sometimes !

Here's my chart so far this month :

 

Baby dust to all of you !

[librarygirl]

Originally Posted by dakipode 

Librarygirl, I paused for a second when I read cycle #20 for you. It makes sense though after I did the math and I realized that I really do have long cycles, since I'll be starting #10 in November. Good luck to you!

AFM: I pretty much decided this morning I'm not pregnant and had a good little cry about it. Taking the day "off" to write, I consider it a bit of a treat, even though I'm also writing under duress now (NaNoWriMo).

I think you've confused me with someone else. I'm only on my 4th cycle trying. and yes, another cycle. AF showed up right on time. I knew before I even got out of bed that morning. But I am also a Wrimo! I'm the ML for my region, actually. How's your novel going? Mine was going along nicely but it veered from romance into paranormal thriller and now it's terrifying me. I had a horrible nightmare last night and it was directly related to my novel. I think I will have to stop. I'm not sure I can continue to write it! I am sure a local incident influenced the nightmare, too. A little girl was hit by a car and killed on Friday evening. She was a regular library patron so I did know her. We live in a small, tight-knit community and Olivia's death has really hit hard. Hit-and-run deaths were a theme of my nightmare, along with ghosts and serial killers (from my novel). I need to go back to something a little happier to write.

On happier news- the weather is beautiful so puppy and I are going to the park in a little bit, it's almost Thanksgiving so I get to see my family really soon, and DH is super excited about TTC this month. I picked out my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding (and she even commented that it should work as maternity dress if needed- my sister rocks and is super supportive about us TTC- she loves babies and can't wait to have her own).

TeamViddy - I can't tolerate artificial sweetners, dairy, bananas, alcohol, or MSG. All of them escalate my clusters from "painful" to "debillitating pain". Clusters are cyclical and have no known

cause, really. But I can usually continue to function and go on with life during a cluster period if I'm careful with food.

Doularebekah - I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you continue to heal.

ConiferOD - Welcome! I hope your stay here is short!

[lilacvioletiris]

library girl, I think it is JustJenny and me who are at the top of the TTC charts for number of cycles - she just started #20 and I started #19.

coquelicot - I will add you to your thread. I hop your stay here is short and that you get your bfp soon!  Do you have a link to your homepage for fertility friend? You picture was just a jpg, not a link.

AFM, another day of fun.  DH's sister just got engaged this weekend.  Her fiancee is from the U.S. and she lives in the far reaches of northern Saskatchewan. It took my DH and me 9 months to go through immigration proceedings so he could move to the U.S. We have tried to tell his Dsister that but she thinks it will be just a couple weeks and she can move to the U.S. and get married.  Um, no. It will be interesting to see how the next few months go for her. 

[dakipode]

Librarygirl, sorry about that, yes I did mean JustJenny. Good luck to you with cycle #4 though!

How sad that there was a hit and run in a small community. I hope you all can support each other in grieving.

The writing is going ok for me but I think the introductions are going to take up 40K and the middle and resolution 10K all together... Oh well, that's what editing is for, right?

Lilac, when I applied for my fiancee visa it took a few weeks. In hindsight we were crazy to assume that it would go through so fast but it did and I already had my flight booked... There was more paperwork to be submitted once we got married and that dragged on for months. I think it took 2 years till I finally got a green card.

Coquelicot:

AFM: Still waiting... Apparently Clomid can lengthen LP and is sometimes even prescribed specifically for that reason. Boobs have gone down so AF is probably right around the corner.