Give Thanks for Bajingo Juice! TTC #1 in our 30s November 2012 - Page 2

[Coquelicot]

lilacvioletiris : Thank you for adding me ! I do have a link but I'm not sure if everyone can see... hope it works : http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/405d34

[lilacvioletiris]

dakipode, immigration can be such a pain.  The whole "not knowing" when anything is going to happen was and is the most annoying part of it. My husband came on a K-1 fiancee visa. We had applied in October 2009, he got approval from the Montreal consulate May 2010 and he moved here a week before we got married in July 2010. I messed up his birthdate on his green card application after we got married so that slowed down him getting his green card - he wasn't even born yet when I submitted the green card application, doh - so they sent the whole thing back to us saying we paid too much - because a minor doesn't pay some $90 biometrics fee.  Finally we got it sent off after our return from our honeymoon, even though we mailed it before we left.  He had his green card in hand a year after we first applied for the visa.  We are thankful that we have been married for 2 years already and now we are applying for the updated green card which is good for 10 years. We plan to apply for his citizenship next summer and given the current speed for  processing his 10 year green card we probably won't have the new green card until we apply for his citizenship.  One day at a time.

Coquelicot, yes, that is the link.  I updated your information on the front page.

[slammerkin]

Lilac, good luck with removing conditions. It's so interesting to find other couples who have been through immigration stuff in random places like this forum. :) My DH is from Ireland and we started the K-1 process in March 2010. We will be sending off his ROC stuff in Jan. It's always hilarious to me when people think that immigration is simple and quick. Some very lucky people find it to be so, but most don't. It was 7 months from initial petition filing to his arrival, and another 6 months to green card for us, which I think was pretty quick in the grand scheme of things.

Anyway, good luck TTC ladies. I don't really belong here yet, but I am prepping for when we start TTC in about five months. I am 29 and just finishing a pack of pills, so I am not going to start a new pack and just let my cycle normalize and chart for a few months to get ready. 

[lilacvioletiris]

slammerkin, good luck on your balancing out phase as you get ready for TTC. Hopefully you will get a BFP without too much difficulty. Immigration is a big part of my and my DH's world right now. But hopefully in another couple years, it will be a thing of the past as he be a citizen.

AFM, great news.  DH finally got his educational reimbursement so we are about halfway to our goal of funds needed for IVF. I was beginning to lose hope that he would ever get the money back since it has been so long in processing. Off to another great day in southwest lower Michigan!

[kimble]

Hi Ladies! Just checking in from the graduates to wish you all the best. Welcome new BJC ladies and I hope to see some familiar names over in the pregnancy forums in the coming months!

I am thankful for such a supportive community of awesome women to share things that are to personal at times even for our DH/DPs. Keep up the good work!

I realized the other day that I have a bag of pee sticks that isn't going to do me any good just sitting in a drawer, so I hope one of you can put them to use. there are about 20 Wondfo pregnancy tests, about 10 wondfo ovulation tests, and 2 clearblue digital preggo tests. If you're interested, just PM me and I'll mail them to the first interested gal for free. I may throw in a bunch of ginger candies I got for morning sickness but didn't like as a good luck charm (Ginger people ultra strength Gin-Gins).

Now go make some babies!

 

[lilacvioletiris]

Thanks for the offer Kimble. I messaged you my contact info. Good luck is always needed in this process.

AFM, I am having a Thirty One party tonight - which is a home based business that sells purses, bags, and other organizational tools - I think it will be fun with a few ladies that around me in real life. Last night I finished a little dress that I am trading for a giraffe hat and diaper cover for my sister. She is going to love it. I love sewing. It keeps my mind off the waiting.

[dakipode]

librarygirl: How's your NaNo going? Are you still writing? I'm going to a halfway write-in tonight and we're having an unofficial bar write-in on Saturday, should be fun.

lilac: Good news about the reimbursement! Every little bit counts. Have fun at your party tonight!

AFM: CD41, 19DPO, 3 BFNs. My doc sent me for blood work today so hopefully I will get some answers. The nurse I spoke to yesterday mentioned they could give me some medication to get AF started if necessary.

In other news, I found out this morning a dear friend of mine had her son a few days early on Nov 10th and her SO put up the cutest picture on FB today. Well, of course I'm happy for her, and I've known about this pregnancy, but I still wanted to burst into tears as well. Such is life. The mantra that has been getting me through lately is "This too shall pass".

[JustJenny]

lilac- Congrats on your $$ !! I hope you get to try IVF soon... Thank God for hobbies to keep ourselves busy!  That little dress you made is soooo cute! Wish I had a little girl to put it on - I'd have you make me one :)

Dakipode    It really is a strange feeling to be truly happy for someone and sad for yourself at the same time. Last year both of my SIL's announced pregnancy's around the same time. I was overjoyed and terribly jealous at the same time.  I hope af comes for you soon and you find answers to what's going on. Are you still thinking of doing the IUI next cycle?

[librarygirl]

Originally Posted by dakipode 

librarygirl: How's your NaNo going? Are you still writing? I'm going to a halfway write-in tonight and we're having an unofficial bar write-in on Saturday, should be fun.

lilac: Good news about the reimbursement! Every little bit counts. Have fun at your party tonight!

AFM: CD41, 19DPO, 3 BFNs. My doc sent me for blood work today so hopefully I will get some answers. The nurse I spoke to yesterday mentioned they could give me some medication to get AF started if necessary.

In other news, I found out this morning a dear friend of mine had her son a few days early on Nov 10th and her SO put up the cutest picture on FB today. Well, of course I'm happy for her, and I've known about this pregnancy, but I still wanted to burst into tears as well. Such is life. The mantra that has been getting me through lately is "This too shall pass".

I got stalled out on my NaNo partly because of the nightmares and partly because I realized it was stressing me out, a lot, which isn't good for TTC, as we all know. Trying to get back into things today. And as for being happy about others and still sad- my facebook feed this morning featured 20 week ultrasound pics with "It's a boy!" captions, a lovely pregnancy photo shoot, and a "should we find out what we're having?" question. From three different people. I'm thrilled for all of them but....yeah, I want it to be me! A friend who has been TTC for some time and has had 2 miscarriages in the past year recently posted one of those "ecard" things that said something like, "everytime I hear I woman complain about being pregnant, all I can think is, I wish it was me."

Welcome to the new people!

lilac- yay! glad the money finally arrived.

AFM- CD13. negative opk yesterday but starting to see some EWCM so expecting O tuesday or wednesday. Hopefully before we leave for my parents for thanksgiving. the attic guest room is pretty soundproof and no one would care (they all know we are TTC) but I am weird about DTD at my parent's house. It's just strange. and well....TMI but I am LOUD.

Happy Thanksgiving to all of the Americans! and anyone else who wants a greeting. :)

[lilacvioletiris]

librarygirl, yeah, that ecard about hits it on the head.  Having the hope of getting to the IVF is helping a bit but I keep wanting a miracle to happen between now and then and be pregnant.

dakipode, I hope that the test you are having done are more conclusive so you can move forward.

JustJenny - someday when you have a little girl we can work something out for a cute little girl dress!  Sewing is my favorite form of relaxation. Just great fun!

AFM, getting ready for American Thanksgiving - going to visit with my 3 brothers, one brother's fiancee, 3 sisters and maybe 2 brother-in-laws and my mom over the holiday in WIsconsin. One of my friends bought me an adjustable dress form at a garage sale for $10. Usually they cost $200 in the store!  I can't wait to pick it up on the way to my mom's house.

[dakipode]

JustJenny I told DH last cycle that if we didn't succeed I wanted to do IUI. When I spoke to the doc he seemed to imply that DH's low volume might not be enough and IUI would help increase the odds. I'm tempted to try IUI and then some BDing on top of that just to flood the area with swimmers as much as possible...

librarygirl The guilt is really what gets me. I start thinking: why can't I just be happy for them, why do I have to make this about me? But I can't help it, every time it's a reminder of what you don't have. DTD at your parents' would be awkward, even though it sounds like they are supportive. Hope your O comes soon!

lilac an adjustable dress form sounds like an awesome tool to have!

AFM: no news here. I missed the phone call with test results by 10 minutes and by the time I called her back I got the answering machine. It's so frustrating to try and get a hold of a nurse at my clinic. It pretty much always comes down to leaving a message and then they'll call you back sometime before 5pm... Unless you call after 4pm in which case they'll call you the next day. And since it was Friday I'm thinking they'll call me tomorrow. And with my luck they'll call while I'm unavailable and I'll have to call and leave a msg again... Sorry about the rant, just a bit frustrated because I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant and I just want AF to come so I can move on to the next cycle.
On a lighter note: I think DH and I are going to try one of the fancy Thanksgiving dinners the local hotels put on. It's just the two of us and we usually go to Cracker Barrel but DH said he wanted to do something out of the ordinary this year so maybe we'll give that a try.
Have a happy week everyone!

[TeamViddy]

Hi Ladies,

November has been quiet on this thread!

Lilac, glad to hear about the money... Bring it on! Good luck with everything.

And so they sent the whole thing back to us saying we paid too much - because a minor doesn't pay some $90 biometrics fee

-- LOL! Sounds like a Kafkaesque bureaucratic messup! So funny that they caught it because they thought he was a minor.

Dakipode, It sounds like the IUI might be a good option. And the hotel Thanksgiving sounds lovely! Your avatar makes me think that you're very sophisticated so it's funny to think of you going to Cracker Barrel. I'm not knocking it-- Cracker Barrel is pure manna from heaven to my mom. I haven't had chicken in 20 years but she claims the chicken fried chicken is transcendent. I just imagine you are in some very stylish clothing with a neat bun on your head, chowing down on biscuits and gravy :).

Also, you asked about the baby registry... The thing about the Amazon baby registry is that you can't look at it unless you click on registries, and then baby registry. It's not in your face, and it can be out of sight, out of mind. I can just do my regular shopping and not be reminded of the lack of baby. But whenever I do need the registry I'll have done the research and shopping already.

LibraryGirl, nice thing about NaNo is that no one is counting on you to finish. No contract to fulfill, just fun. So if you want to take a break that's totally OK :) ... I can't imagine the cluster headaches. It sounds so much worse than Mr Viddy's migraines.

Coquelicot, hello! Welcome.

AFM, I am on CD 27. I had 3 32 day cycles after my pregnancy but the last few cycles are back to my normal clockwork 28. Temp was still up this morning and my boobs are puffed up; they usually un-puff the day before AF. And we got 3 BD's in during my fertile window. Unheard of for us!! I'm feeling like it wouldn't be totally unreasonable to POAS tomorrow morning. Unlike most months, there is a reasonable possibility that I might actually be pregnant. We'll see!

I've been super distracted with life recently. Lots of good stuff in the works!

[TeamViddy]

Another month of false hope. AF came full-blow this morning, not a minute late on day 28. She didn't even grace me with a half day of spotting to keep me wondering for a while. Womp womp.
 

What I didn't mention yesterday is that I started talking to a health counselor recommended by one of my mom's friends. I also went into my OB to get a thyroid and hormone workup. Six months from my loss and still no good reason to think that one of us might have a fertility issue, 15 cycles with no pregnancy since we stopped using protection.

[TeamViddy]

Going a little crazy here with the posting, but I just talked to my OB. All of my thyroid and hormone levels are 100% normal. Hm. I kind of wish there was something to blame this on.
 

[dakipode]

TeamViddy I laughed out loud when I read your comment about me being sophisticated! I'll take it as a compliment. I'm sorry AF found you. I can relate to wanting to find a reason, something, anything that indicates that it's a factor that is within your control and it's not just luck (or lack thereof). I chose to go see the specialist fairly early on because of that. I wanted as much reassurance as possible that we were doing everything within our control to "get it right"

AFM, cross posted in Saner TTC thread: you ladies must think I'm a total idiot who can't read an HPT but I swear my two cheapies and my expensive one were all negative! However, according to the bloodwork I am miraculously pregnant! It's very weird and the last 24 hours have been a total mind fuck because I also happened to unexpectedly have to euthanize my cat last night. So last night at the emergency vet I hadn't told DH yet and I thought: I can't tell him here... I'm totally conflicted about feeling happy and sad at the same time... I'm due at the fertility clinic for an ultrasound next week to confirm that there really is something there. I don't feel pregnant at all. I was completely baffled when the nurse called me with the result

[TeamViddy]

Dakipode, fantastic! Good luck to you! It sounds difficult, complicated, and exhilarating. Our close friends were over 40 and assumed they wouldn't have kids. About 4 years ago they had to put their cat to sleep, and a few weeks later they found out they were expecting. Their little girl is this glowing, magnetic firecracker; gorgeous, friendly, and truly special.
 

[lilacvioletiris]

dakipode, Yeah!, time for a happy dance! I am hoping your ultrasound shows what you have been hoping for!

[dakipode]

TeamViddy and Lilac Thanks for the encouragement. I wish you ladies a speedy BFP!

[lilacvioletiris]

Hope that everyone who is in the United States has had a great Thanksgiving!

[doularebekah]

dakipode - Congratulations!! Wow, what amazing news! I'd been thinking of you and checking in here to see what your results are, I'm so pleased for you both! 

TeamViddy - I'm sorry to hear that you're not getting any luck with finding answers. I totally know what you mean about wishing something came back negative or wrong, so at least you'd have an answer or something to pin it on. It's a rough road this TTC journey, for sure. 

lilac - I can't remember if I already said congrats on the reimbursement or just thought it, but if I didn't - congrats! Having that money must be a huge load off for you both as you look toward IVF. Of course, still crossing my fingers hard that you'll get knocked up in the mean time 

AFM - By tomorrow I should know if I've O'd and our timing was pretty good this month, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much. I'm always so calm up until this point!