This is my last pregnancy, my third child. My husband will be getting a vasectomy after the baby is born. In different circumstances, like if my mother lived with us, or if I was wealthy enough to have an au pair, I would have more children. I'm still in my twenties, so I think it is hard for me to say goodbye to never having another child because I have so many fertile years ahead of me. I'm praying that I have twins, so that I can feel done after this pregnancy. That said, there are many things I'm doing differently this pregnancy because I know it is my last. Here is my list:
-this time my mother will not be at my birth. I love my mother, and she has been at my previous two births. Since my last child was born I have had a bit of a catharsis of all the ways that my relationship with my mother is dysfunctional, and this has led to tremendous personal growth for me. I think part of my process of letting go of this dysfuntion and not perpetuating it will be to not have my mother at my birth.
-this pregnancy I will take my prenatal vitamins and I will nourish my body! I will work preventatively to not get anemic. And beyond that, I will not overeat. Last pregnancy I had terrible gallbladder issues because I was overeating so much, not to mention I balloned up to 185, when I am normally 135. It was not a healthy pregnancy gain, it was an I'm overeating because I'm depressed weight gain. This pregnancy I will eat when I'm hungry, but not overdue it with portion sizes.
-I'm going to buy the $70 woven wrap that I deemed to be too frivolous last pregnancy. On that same line, I'm buying a baby hammock because I want one, not because we need one.
-At this birth I will have a professional photographer. I may even get more professional photos a few weeks later when the baby isn't as wrinkly;)
So, if this is your last pregnancy, what are you doing differently because you know it will be your last?