We have a new-to-us 1yo who tends to be a bit fussy, at least vocally. He was in the gated-off living room with the two older boys (4 and 3) while DH walked the dog and I was finishing getting dressed. I could hear the baby fussing and crying a little but thought nothing of it since he does that when he wants me, and I was just finishing brushing my teeth and then went to get him.
Well, when I got to the living room, DS (4) was BEATING him with a ball. It's one of those soft plastic balls that's mostly holes so it collapses when you push on it. But DS was practically whipping him with it.
I can't believe this happened. DS is known for being so sweet and well-mannered and polite at school, and despite having some issues at home with getting used to being a foster family, he has NEVER exhibited this kind of meanness toward a baby. I'm horrified. And even more so at my reaction, which was to spank him and send him to his room. I don't spank. And of course realize the ineffectiveness of hitting as a punishment for hitting.
Please tell me that I'm not the only one whose "sweet" kid pounds on the new baby, and how you handle it. I can't even think straight right now, I'm so upset.