My son will be 3 in January and has mild, high-functioning ASD. I have two questions about potty learning, and very open to all suggestions.
- Is now a good time to try?
- What are your favorite strategies?
The background is that he had some interest a few months ago, was sitting on the potty occasionally, both with and without clothes, and peeing in it a few times. I suggested underwear, he was very excited, picked out some with cars, we put them on, and as soon as he peed in them and realized how they felt wet, wanted no more to do with either underwear or potty.
Next we tried going naked. He held it for a long time, was very uncomfortable, and finally went on the floor. A few minutes later he went on the potty. He looked up with a huge smile and said, “I learned to pee on the potty!” But he has never tolerated it since. Major upset if anyone suggests the potty, or underwear, or going naked.
In the last couple weeks, he has seemed more amenable and open to things in general (though not to the potty). Knowing that toddlers/preschoolers often cycle in and out of more easygoing moods, I’m wondering if I should seize this opportunity to try again, perhaps more assertively? In general I lean more toward the “waiting until they are ready” approach, but I know that doesn’t always work the same way for kids on the spectrum. Am I going to have to push the issue at some point, and if so, are we at that point now?
I would also love suggestions on what strategies to try. I want him to feel good about this.
At daycare they get stickers for going on the potty – he likes seeing kids get stickers, but hasn’t seemed motivated by them himself. In the past he has responded well to kind of a cold turkey approach – eg one day his beloved bottle just “wasn’t around,” and he really never asked for it. But the resistance already in place regarding the potty makes me think that may not work here.
Finally, from the time he could pull himself to standing, he has always, always pooped standing up. How in the world is he going to transition to pooping on a potty or toilet?
Thank you so much!