Hi everyone, I need some help and I am short on time, so hopefully I can get my point across -
My ds (27months) has been getting very angry lately. Well, he has always been high needs, fussy, cranky, clingy, etc but these last couple of months he has been lashing out at us/things/hurting himself because of his anger. My dh and his family have an awful temper, so I'm sure that the "temper gene" has been passed on to him. I need help focusing and redirecting that anger/energy. Any good books for that? I have the Spirited Child book, and oh does that fit him to a T!
A few things he does when he is angry - Say I offer him a snack -
Me - "Victor, would you like some pretzels?"
"NO! No pretzels."
Me - "Ok." (start to put them away...)
"I want pretzeeeeellsss!!!" then throws himself on the floor or makes fists and punches (as well as a 2 year old can) the air or tries to hit me, or his brother or anything near him, really.
He does this for all types of foods, toys, crayons, potty time, etc. Sometimes I feel like sticking to my guns ("You said you didn't want XYZ..") and sometimes I give it to him after all ("Oh, so you did want XYZ.") Sometimes I feel like he is stepping all over me. Where and how do I put up some boundries?
Also, lately, he will get so mad he will just pee. Right then and there. Just a bit because he didn't full have to pee. He isn't completely potty trained, though. I am sure it is because he is just soooo angry he doesn't know what to do. When my dh gets this mad, he looks like he is going to explode. My ds probably feels like he is going to burst, so he just lets go and ends up peeing a bit, but is this a sign of anything serious? Does anyone know?
He is sensitive to dairy, and we are milk and cheese free now, and working on replacing butter. This should help, I hope.
He is also obsessed with nursing. It is all or nothing, there is no middle ground for him. For a while, I had a "only when the sun goes down" rule and it was so nice, but then he got sick and needed to nurse, so that went out the window. And now that he is much more verbal than he was just last month, it is hard to cut back on nursing, because now he tell me "I need num-num." I *need* to wean him, for my own personal sanity, (I nurse my dd as well) but I worry about the effects it will have on him. If he had his way, he will nurse every hour and eat no food. He does not sleep through the night, although when I have no dairy he sleeps better.
I need some help with his anger. Someone please direct me somewhere. I am so tired