Is this your first baby? - Page 3
Dayiscoming, i am wondering more about your sleeping arrangements , if you want to share. I am trying to imagine what may or may not work for me. I think I am outthinking myself, when I look up the option its confusing and complicated for me. Its frustrating to spend so much time and feel so lost. I am a toss and turning sleeper who pulls blankets all night and have very active dreams (&nightmares:( often) . I want to be as close as possible, but i can only imagine being so exhausted. I am already a very tired type now, so here i am worrying again. I want to simplify this. Anyone who wants to share their experiences, i will appreciate it so much, but i might ask you too many questions in return . I need to find my confidence with this, and with everything, thats a BIG everything. Sidecarring a crib if it will fit? That sounds like it will work for until the baby starts moving? Then putting the fourth side up on the crib is the only choice? Meaning you need to get up everytime and pull them out to nurse, which could be unsettling? I started another thread about what can be user to slide open and shut from when your lying down, but it seems to be uninvented and some people trust it to stay without the fourth side. But are they just very aware of baby? I think i am getting depressed thinking about how to deal with this, as far away as it may seem. I dont want sleep deprivation, which sounds inevitable. I dont want to always get up and down, i dont want to always pull a heavy baby out of the crib (and what if this upsets him/her) to not be closer to me. I just dont know what i will do. I didnt want to get upset again, but i just had to see what others are doing to make this smooth.
As far as sleeping arrangements, I cannot sleep in the same room with a baby because they tend to make a lot of little noises when they sleep in my experience and I'm a VERY light sleeper. I do have my husband sleep in the same room with baby and I usually sleep in the living room for the first 2-3 months or so. After that, I feel more comfortable moving them into their own room. My babies have thrived on this. To each their own. I swaddle my babies as well as I find they startle themselves too much in their sleep and never get good rest unless I swaddle them. I usually stop swaddling by the 4th month of life when they are able to get their arms free. Then they will get used to sleeping that way and they aren't as likely to startle themselves awake at that age.
I used a playpen/pack and play with the bassinet feature and I've used a bassinet and transfered to the pack and play. I usually don't switch to a crib until they are 6+ months because they are so small. But, if you only had a crib, you could make that work fine. If you don't want to bed share, don't. I didn't really bed share with my babies too often. They will be fine. I like the idea of someone room sharing when they are very young, but if you have a monitor or leave your bedroom doors open if you have a bedroom on the same floor, you can hear them if they need you if you would rather they sleep in their own room.
Dayiscoming, you sound so much like me. Being that close to baby, I'm up every five minutes for every tiniest rustle. Separate rooms really helps both of us get much more rest.
Oh!And about the body pillows, i wanna buy one. I cant find one that is all cotton, i only see ones that are polyester or organic/wool, or one i found then lost was kapok. Brand recommendations anyone? Anyone else cant tolerate synthetics , i am not familiar with kapok&new things often dont work. It must be truly breathable for me, i get all clammy if it blocks my pores. I dont think i wanna go for the upper end one with the wool anyway cause its wool&i think it'll end up being hot? I love wool,but hmmmm. I searched for hours online, i cant find anything else. I need to get more efficient at figuring things out.
This is my first baby (due beginning of July). We have been reading/lurking on mothering for 3plus years so it feels good to be officially here!
Most things have been going well, but I recently quit my more than full time job, and know that I'll need some support and good place to get ideas.
The one thing I wonder now is about spotting. I know it's normal in some cases...and my midwife says it's common after bowel movements (after constipation) and after <3...both of which are true but I'm on day 3 of light blood and I'm ready for it to go away! I'm 17w0days. Anyone else experience this? How long did it least?
Thanks, and I'm happy to meet you all!
This is our first baby, too! 16weeks6days here and LOVING second trimester!! The first 14 weeks, really, were so tough I'm SO happy to get my appetite - and even some of my energy - back! I've been lucky to have such a patient and supportive husband, I am so blessed.
I've enjoyed reading a lot of the posts on this thread, it's been nice to see I'm not the only one trying not to stress over things! I'm glad I decided to join! Thank you!
Thanks for the tip inlove. I may inquire about that..it would Be great to not be constipated, but better to have the relief of not bleeding everyone's I have a bm! Lol.
@HappyHomestead, It is exciting! I had been thinking of joining a due date club ever since we found out back in early November, but none that I found really called out to me... (Other "baby/parenting" websites seemed to just regurgitate mainstream media ideals and I really wanted to try to avoid that...) and then a friend told me about this website (LOVE IT!) and I saw the photo for the July 2013 club (gorgeous!), I just had to join! lol it called out to me! ..though I was almost afraid that I would be joining "too late" at almost 17wks... so I'm happy to have found another mama in the group who's just joined as well, and it's so funny that we're just about at the same point in our journeys! I've been feeling the need to find support from other mothers who are into "natural family living" because my family is not-so-supportive but I don't want that to stop us from raising our family the way we feel is right (my husband is super supportive, I just need a little extra feedback sometimes, from like-minded people!). So happy to be here!!