My therapist says I need time away. I don't have friends to hang out with, I don't have any dating prospects, my career is slowly growing and not too lucrative right now, and I am breastfeeding the baby. If I want to "go out", I need to go through the hassle of:
- find something to do that doesn't cost money
- make sure I have the gas money to get there
- find an acquaintance that I could go with
- texting about 300 people about babysitting
- get caught up on housework so I don't get behind (and I usually start out behind in the first place)
- get both me and baby ready (DS goes to school daily and spends every weekend with daddy so I wouldn't go out when I have him) including making sure enough diapers are washed, etc.
I also work 9 to 5 on Saturdays, so I couldn't stay out late on Friday night, and wouldn't want to spend all day away from DD, then all evening. Basically, it all just seems like a huge hassle. And I don't have much of a desire to "get away" in the first place.
If anything, I'd like someone to come over and help take care of the kids so that I can catch up on sewing projects, housework, whatever chores need to be done instead of babysitting anyway. I work 22 hours a week, so it's not like I never get out and about--I also do things like Babywearing International and La Leche League with DD.
I do have a desire for a physical relationship with a dude, but don't want to take the time to get to know someone (see above), so I might as well put that off for now. My theory is, I may be able to "have it all", but certainly not at the same time. Right now I am a mom.
Anyone care to critique my situation? Are there benefits to getting out that I'm not seeing, or do some people live a healthy, well-rounded life with their children?