Mom A announced to our group that we have a new student and that the family does not vaccinate. She questioned whether our policy allows for non-vaxers. Public school students (or I suppose their parents/guardians) in our state may sign a waiver in place of turning in vaccination records. Our tiny-privately funded school has the same policy, so there's no confusion here. It was just a question, not a judgement, however inappropriate for the forum (about 20% of our small school was there, really none of whom have any information or interest in this aspect of school administration.)
My real concern arose when Mom B voiced her frustration that others in our school would now be more susceptible to whooping cough and that it would be our responsibility to disclose the family's non-vaxing status to others in the new student's class and in the younger sibling's nursery. Mom B's child is in the new student's class and her youngest child also uses the sibling nursery on occasion. Her kids are always sick, and for prolongied periods, so perhaps she's more fearful of disease than the average person. Either way... Ugh.
Now first of all, Mom A should never have connected a name to a medical scenario before such a large group of parents. But, now it's out there. I'm appalled because I don't want this sweet new family to be or feel judged for their valid and lawful decision or offended that their privacy has been so badly violated.
I can't seem to find any information on disclosure of non-vaxing status to other families in a school community. I have to assume that it is illegal and unethical to disclose vaxing status of a child by name (or otherwise) unless a child (vaxed or not) comes down with a communicable disease, right?
And secondarily, I'm just so offended for this poor mama whom I helped bring into the school, in part by promoting our warm and welcoming community of parents. Do I owe her an apology or a heads up?