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Weekly Chat Thread - Nov. 8-14

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Since today is November 8th (and my 31st birthday!) I thought I'd start a new weekly chat thread. Let's chat it up:)

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Happpy 31st birthday :) are you doing anything nice for your birthday? xx

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Happy Birthday SB! Hope you enjoy it!

 

To continue from last week's thread, we just moved into our house in April and have been so pleased with our neighbors. I would say we've made friends with the people on either side of us, and will stop and chat with most people on our block if we are out at the same time. I haven't had this experience before and really do enjoy it. I think it has to do with the fact that our block is mostly families with elementary school aged kids, so we are all about the same age and have similar lifestyles. DD is friends with all the kids on the block, so that encourages it too.

 

I've had a little spotting a couple times this week and trying not to freak out. Spoke with my mw and feeling a little more at ease, but I am still a bit nervous and hoping it will stop. I am so tired today because this kept me up last night. I was planning to tell DD this weekend, and now I'm worried that maybe I shouldn't. Ugh! I am 12w3d now so should be in a better place, but I am still tentative. Right now I'd just really like a nap!

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We've lived in this neighborhood for a year. I still don't know any of the neighbors to say more than a quick "hello" which actually makes me quite sad. I do think it is partly the way the houses are designed. There is usually only one window at the front on the ground floor and it is usually people's dinning rooms (if used the way the house was designed) and the majority of the front of the house is taken up with the garage door. So people don't spend time outside in front of their houses, and we also seem to be about the only people who use our screened in back patio (our houses are built in squares around a retention pond, so all the back patios face the pond, and if people would use them we might have a better chance of taking to people.) It just seems like most people are too busy to be neighborly around here, and it doesn't help that they mostly enter and leave through their garages in their cars. Maybe as the boys get older and are more able to play outside with other children we might finally get to chat with some of the other neighbors. I would love to discover a few mama friends here in the neighborhood.

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As I said in the last thread, we are finally starting to be more friendly with our one neighbors on the one side now that their son and my DD really enjoy playing together. It is hard for us at least since DH and I both work FT to have time to have any friends, but I desperately want more Mom friends, so I'm going to be reaching out more during this pregnancy. There is also a couple with 2 DDs that go to our daycare and their oldest and my DD are very close at daycare, so I'm hoping to reach out to them more too.

Just called my insurance company to ask about breast pumps and if they were providing for those and the details. The lady was very nice and told me it won't go into effect until 1/1/2013 and they wouldn't have details until then, but yes they would be covered to some extent starting next year. So I'll be calling back in January to get the details because I was planning to get a new pump anyway as mine is already a refurb replacement for a broken pump, so with twins I definitely want a new one and if insurance will cover some/all of that, then I definitely want to go that route. So I was excited to hear that and wanted to share with any other moms in the States who might be thinking about buying a pump.
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Insurance covers breast pumps???? I had no idea! Thanks for sharing Katie! I'll have to call up mine and see what the deal is, so awesome!

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Insurance covers breast pumps???? I had no idea! Thanks for sharing Katie! I'll have to call up mine and see what the deal is, so awesome!
Yeah, it's part of either Obamacare or one of the breastfeeding measures he pushed through, so like mine, yours may not start until next year, but worth checking out!
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Happy Birthday!jumpers.gif  I hope you have a wonderful day!  Do you have anything special planned?

 

Well that makes me feel a little better that I'm not the only one that doesn't hang out with my neighbors. We've lived here for two and half years.  There is an older man next door that we chat with when we see each other.  The time he came home drunk and asked DH if he was a Samuri (Dh was warming up for softball with a bat in the garage)  kind of threw me but he's nice enough.   He buys things from garage sales and then has garage sales with the items.  It's kind of funny but he actually finds good things!  The neighbor on the other side has a little girl who is with him part time but he gives us the creeps in a way we can't quite put our finger on.  We chat a little or smile and wave mostly.  The girls played sidewalk chalk with his daughter one time.  There is a couple across the street with a 3 year old but they smoke and we are all super sensitive to that so there is not much I can do about it. shrug.gif   I am hoping to take them things to

 

That is great that your insurance will cover a breast pump! Hooray!  Are you hoping to get a hospital grade pump?  That seems like it would be really helpful with twins.

 

I can't remember who was talking about getting warn out easily in the last thread but me too!  I went to Target (didn't even wander the whole store) and Costco and now I feel like I need to lay down for 2 hours!  Last night I had to send my parents back to my brother's house at nine because I was so wiped out. 

 

I ordered some shea butter and I am going to try my hand at making some lotion bars and belly balm!  I am so excited to see how it comes out!  My hands are dry and cracking so I am most excited about that.

 

People are starting to ask me about what the kids want/ need for Christmas...What are you all planning for your kids?  I am at a loss.  Art supplies are good but we already have a lot because MIL cleaned out her classroom and gave us a lot. love.gif  The ILs are very giving so they already have a play table, lego table, kitchen, dollhouse and castle. They are great toys that are all really nice but we don't have room for anymore big things.  All I can think of are games and some magnetic dolls (like paper dolls my four year old won't destroy).  I'm at a bit of a loss.  Help!

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Thanks for the lovely birthday wishes! Nothing really planned for today, actually took my little one to the dentist this morning:) But he had a sleepover with his Grandma and spent all day yesterday with her, so I got to sleep in and read and be lazy. It was

awesome:) As much as I love my ds it is still nice to have a break once in a while:)

 

And I can relate to all those who don't know their neighbours very well, we have been living at our current apartment for a year and a half and sort of know a couple people. It always take a while and since this will be the first year that I haven't moved since 2003(crazy!) we are just staring to feel settled in.

 

As far as Christmas prezzies go, CoBabyMaker, I know what you mean. My little one has so many toys that I get kind of overwhelmed at the thought of more. But something we did last Christmas was instead of more stuff, we got a years pass

to Science World for our family. Is there a place or activity that your kids would like? Maybe something they could do with their Grandparents?

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We moved here three years ago and only really got to know our neighbors when the power went out in an awful windstorm.  One of the neighbors has a generator that automatically kicks in so their house was check-in central for the neighborhood with hot food and showers!  Otherwise we all live on such big wooded lots that we never see our neighbors!

CoBabyMaker we are kinda in the same boat as you with regards to Christmas!  Not only was my mother-in-law a kindergarten teacher until this past June but my father-in-law makes furniture!  I kind of dread what they are going to come up with to give us this year!  I keep an Amazon Wishlist for my daughter going so that I can collect ideas all year long which helps a bit. 

 

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I can't remember who was talking about getting warn out easily in the last thread but me too!  I went to Target (didn't even wander the whole store) and Costco and now I feel like I need to lay down for 2 hours!  Last night I had to send my parents back to my brother's house at nine because I was so wiped out. 

 

Costco wears me out when I'm NOT pregnant, never mind now!!

Ok, finally checking in!!  I've had a pretty busy week at work, and I've been zonked by the end of the day most days.

 

We live in a neighbourhood that is kind of in transition.  There are a lot of rentals still (since we live close to both a university and a technology institute), but now there are more families than students and fewer homes are being used as rentals, more are being lived in by the owners.  Since more families started moving in, and since having DS, we've gotten to know our neighbours way more just as a function of hanging out in the front yard so DS can play with the other kids rather than in our fenced in, very private back yard.  I wouldn't say we're "friends" but all the immediate neighbours are "friendly" and I would be comfortable borrowing a cup of sugar kind of thing.

 

Christmas...DH and I are not sure what to get DS.  He doesn't have much interest in toys (prefers my tupperware drawer or playing in the sink) but does LOVE his sandbox and trucks.  Someone on another board suggested the idea of 3 gifts "Something you want, something you need, and something to read".  We might do that as a tradition.   So we are thinking of getting him a really good quality dump trucks or the like, maybe a few books (he ADORES books) and maybe a "big boy bed" since we're going to need the crib back for baby (it's currently converted to a toddler bed).  We are also Waldorf friendly and trying to stick to most of the Waldorf ideas re: toys and media so this limits what we consider to be "approved" items.  Also, we're trying to live more "simply" and not focus on stuff (I've completed the 2012 in 2012 decluttering challenge and now I just want to get rid of even more stuff!) so the idea of more toys is not appealing.  

 

What I'm really wanting to do is convert our office downstairs into a playroom for DS, so I can set things up better (like our Waldorf preschool room with a reading nook, a little "home" with a kitchen, table, and doll beds, etc.)  Do you all have playrooms?  If so, how old were your DC when they started to use it?  Or, if not, did you have one growing up?  We always played in our playroom in the basement as kids, and didn't have toys in our room.  Sometimes toys migrated upstairs, but they lived in the playroom.  DH is sure DS won't play there, since he and his brothers never wanted to stay in the basement as kids. 

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We have a very small house (3 tiny bedroom ranch) so unless we follow through on our idea of finishing the basement (I give it 50/50 odds right now) there will be no play room until we move in ~5 years. I never had one as a kid - our toys went all over the living room and when we got older we mostly played in the bedroom (bro and I shared). I was always jealous of my friends who had a play space though, and was frequently over at the neighbors playing in their basement. I loved that in the summer!

 

I kind of wish we got a bigger house when we bought about 2 and a half years ago, but live and learn. We looked at plenty of them and ended up with one of the smallest ones we saw because it met other key criteria of budget, general location, not too many steps to get in, and a full bathroom and something which can serve as a bedroom on the first floor for the rare occasions when my mom might be there.
 

Our neighborhood is a real mix, with some families with older kids (from grade school to high school), young childless couples like us (so far) and retirees. We don;t see them much except when we are all out doing yard work. I have been meaning to bring them Christmas cookies like my mom does but haven't followed through on that yet - maybe this year. It would be nice to get to know them a bit. We live on a pretty well-used street with no sidewalk in our part and few lights, so it's not like we are strolling around but that's another thing I may force myself to do.

 

When do you all start Christmas shopping? My MIL has a habit of finishing by thanksgiving which I have always found odd. My family is more of the last-minute Christmas eve end of the spectrum.

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That is great that your insurance will cover a breast pump! Hooray!  Are you hoping to get a hospital grade pump?  That seems like it would be really helpful with twins.
I dunno, I actually had a hospital grade pump for the few days when Ameda was shipping me my replacement pump (they covered the rental which was great when my motor went out when under warranty) and I didn't find it extracted milk for me any faster/better than my Ameda Purely Yours double electric. I know a lot of folks think they are way better and the motors certainly hold up better, but eh. Also, they are not nearly as portable as a personal double pump and I actually traveled with mine quite a bit and hauled it back and forth from work every weekend. I still have my Ameda from last time, but I want to use it as a back up only as it was a refurb so I don't expect it to last my whole pumping time.

I'm not sure what to have people get DD for Christmas, she has so much already! I do want to get her a small play kitchen and maybe some toys/accessories for her one doll and she does need clothes. She could probably use a big wheel or something like that for the summer too. Maybe some more disposable-ish stuff like coloring books, stuff she could use and throw out so it doesn't accumulate so much.

For my Christmas list, I just want people to buy me stuff for the twins. My siblings will, but my Mom doesn't like buying stuff unless it is strictly for me. I'm going to see what I can talk her into though because I really don't need much of anything except $$ to pay for daycare and twin stuff, ya know? And I know they will buy stuff for the babies anyway, so I'd rather they not spend too much on us. At least they can afford it, but I still don't like people spending too much on me.
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I dunno, I actually had a hospital grade pump for the few days when Ameda was shipping me my replacement pump (they covered the rental which was great when my motor went out when under warranty) and I didn't find it extracted milk for me any faster/better than my Ameda Purely Yours double electric. I know a lot of folks think they are way better and the motors certainly hold up better, but eh. Also, they are not nearly as portable as a personal double pump and I actually traveled with mine quite a bit and hauled it back and forth from work every weekend. I still have my Ameda from last time, but I want to use it as a back up only as it was a refurb so I don't expect it to last my whole pumping time.

That's interesting.  I wasn't really sure what the difference was between a hospital and regular pump.  That would be a pain to transport if it was larger.  I quit letting down for the pump after about 2 or 3 months with both babies before so I guess it's good I am at home.  I can pump for an hour and just not let down which is frustrating. It sometimes helps if I have a glass of wine while I pump.  Ha!    I also have issues with excess lipase so that's a pain.  DD1 never cared but DD2 never wanted my pumped milk.  Sorry, that's a random info-dump.  It's not a huge issue for me since I don't work but it would be nice to have the option sometimes!

 

Thanks for the Christmas present ideas!  I feel like DHs family thinks I am mean because I don't want more random toys.  yikes2.gif  The girls play with what they have now, it's manageable, they are nice toys and they know how to clean them up.  With another baby coming I already feel like one of the big toys is going to have to go.  I think I may ask for money for a children's museum membership.  Ours is a bit run down which drives me nuts but the kids don't care and love it.  I also just found out they have a story and craft time which is great because we can't go to the library (DD1 is sensitive to mold or something there.  She gets a respiratory illness every time we go and it was getting worse each time.)  I think that and some games maybe.

 

Kimble, I finished my Christmas shopping before Thanksgiving one year and I loved it!  I haven't done it since then but it was so nice to not have to deal with crowds or worry about it.  I keep saying I will do it again sometime but haven't been that organized yet.

 

We do not have a playroom anymore.  When we first moved into this house we did and I loved it.  I had my sewing machine in there too and it worked really well for us. DD could play and I was right there but still able to work on things.  Then DD2 got old enough that she did better with her own sleep space so all of the bedrooms are taken(basements are uncommon in our area).  I miss it but it's just not an option right now.  DD liked it though.  Whenever people would come over she would immediately want to show them her play room!  I give playrooms 2 thumbs up.  It sounds like you would make it a great space and not the dreary basement your DH might be thinking of.

 

My parents visit is actually going pretty well.  I actually had a nice time chatting with my mom this afternoon.  That was so nice!

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That's interesting.  I wasn't really sure what the difference was between a hospital and regular pump.  That would be a pain to transport if it was larger.  I quit letting down for the pump after about 2 or 3 months with both babies before so I guess it's good I am at home.  I can pump for an hour and just not let down which is frustrating. It sometimes helps if I have a glass of wine while I pump.  Ha!    I also have issues with excess lipase so that's a pain.  DD1 never cared but DD2 never wanted my pumped milk.  Sorry, that's a random info-dump.  It's not a huge issue for me since I don't work but it would be nice to have the option sometimes!

My parents visit is actually going pretty well.  I actually had a nice time chatting with my mom this afternoon.  That was so nice!
Sorry about the lipase problem, I was lucky not to have that! Yeah, it can be much harder to let down for the pump, I was lucky to not have that problem either, I just had a very efficient body so I couldn't skip more than the occasional pumping session here or there. But yeah, the hospital pumps tend to have much higher suction capacity, so if you need it, it's great, but I never even maxed out my double electric, not even close, so it wasn't much advantage to me. My boss was actually very impressed with my compact double electric, his wife had only ever had the hospital rentals so he was expecting me to have a huge pump. We're engineers, so he was checking out my pump smile.gif

Glad the visit is going well! We are having gorgeous weather this weekend, high 60s and sunny, so we already went to the park once and plan to go probably once more today and definitely tomorrow. Probably our last warm weekend!
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Insurance covers breast pumps???? I had no idea! Thanks for sharing Katie! I'll have to call up mine and see what the deal is, so awesome!

YEP! Mine paid for mine 2 years ago. It was awesome! I got an Avent
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I can't remember who was talking about getting warn out easily in the last thread but me too!  I went to Target (didn't even wander the whole store) and Costco and now I feel like I need to lay down for 2 hours!  Last night I had to send my parents back to my brother's house at nine because I was so wiped out. 

 

I ordered some shea butter and I am going to try my hand at making some lotion bars and belly balm!  I am so excited to see how it comes out!  My hands are dry and cracking so I am most excited about that.

 

People are starting to ask me about what the kids want/ need for Christmas...What are you all planning for your kids?  I am at a loss.  Art supplies are good but we already have a lot because MIL cleaned out her classroom and gave us a lot. love.gif  The ILs are very giving so they already have a play table, lego table, kitchen, dollhouse and castle. They are great toys that are all really nice but we don't have room for anymore big things.  All I can think of are games and some magnetic dolls (like paper dolls my four year old won't destroy).  I'm at a bit of a loss.  Help!

I think that was me that was talking about being really worn out still at 15 weeks (today). I ordered some Floradix on Thurs and it came today already. It tastes a lot better than I thought it would. Hopefully it works cuz this is getting ridiculous. I sleep from 10 pm to 7:30 am, give or take, and my pregnancy insomnia has gone away and I am still needing to lay down for an hour or so after having breakfast and then again after having a more decent breakfast around 10. Today I had to take an hour nap just so I could stay awake for a 1 year old bday party at noon!

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Sorry about the lipase problem, I was lucky not to have that! Yeah, it can be much harder to let down for the pump, I was lucky to not have that problem either, I just had a very efficient body so I couldn't skip more than the occasional pumping session here or there. But yeah, the hospital pumps tend to have much higher suction capacity, so if you need it, it's great, but I never even maxed out my double electric, not even close, so it wasn't much advantage to me. My boss was actually very impressed with my compact double electric, his wife had only ever had the hospital rentals so he was expecting me to have a huge pump. We're engineers, so he was checking out my pump smile.gif

Glad the visit is going well! We are having gorgeous weather this weekend, high 60s and sunny, so we already went to the park once and plan to go probably once more today and definitely tomorrow. Probably our last warm weekend!

That's too bad about the lipase issue. I had the opposite or different problem I guess. DD would drink my pumped milk but not after it had been frozen and then thawed. I read somewhere that if you don't have a certain amount of fat in your milk, it won't keep in the freezer. My frozen milk did smell rotten after it was thawed, too. I probably won't pump at all this time. I am lucky to have a lot of pro-breastfeeding folks around me. Except for one aunt-in-law who asked in disbelief if I was STILL NURSING HER? at my baby shower when DD was 8 WEEKS old.

 

Oh Quinalla, I didn't see you are in the midwest. We are in MN and have the same weather you are having. It was gorgeous out but is suppose to be a high of 28* tomorrow. Brrrr. cold.gif

 

As for Christmas presents, DD is getting flat out spoiled this year! She is the only grandchild, but still, sheesh! She already got a trike that was suppose to be for Christmas but she is already trying to ride it through the house. She is getting a play kitchen from g'ma and g'pa, and therefore getting a huge set of play food and pots and pans and utensils. She was also going to get a doll house but I found this thing called kitty-cat park and comes with a bunch of kitty figurines and random cat stuff but is designed like a cat park. She is a cat nut but our dogs ((EAT CATS)) so she can't have a real one. She is also getting some cardboard stacking blocks for fort building and what not, and a plush nativity set. Those are the only things I know about but I have seen at least 3 huge toy catalogs come to MIL's house so who knows what else she will be getting. Also, Dh is the oldest of 4 boys and his 2 brothers that had serious girlfriends both got broken up with in the last 3 weeks so MIL has been doing some retail therapy to soothe herself, lol.

 

Cobabymaker - How is your sickness going? Has it lessened at least? Mine is mostly gone and so is my heartburn but I have my moments still.

 

AFM: I ordered my doppler and pregnancy book on Wed and they both came by Friday!! I went to use the doppler and it actually worked great! I think baby hates it though. S/he shot over to the opposite side of my uterus as soon as I touched it to my stomach. Got a few readings that were all around the high 150's, almost 160's. Is that a girl heart rate? Does anybody have any evidence that you can tell gender based on heart rate?

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Our Christmas shopping is done, except for stocking fillers. We did ALL of it last Saturday. Because my family is all still in Scotland I just order everything for them on the UK Amazon website and have it delivered to my mum. Then my mum's gift I send to my sister. This year my brother, sister and I are all doing family portraits for my mum, so we went last Saturday to have our portrait done at JCPenney. (And found out after the photo session that they are doing a special "no sitting fee" for the whole of November.) So we also got a framed copy for DH's parents and got a free 8x10 that we then bought a frame to go with for DH's brother & SIL. We got the boys an outdoor play gas grill toy on clearance a few weeks ago and got them a few extras last week. DH's family aren't big on presents and we'll probably just get a check from my in-laws and gift cards from DH's brother & SIL. My family are big gift givers, and I like giving gifts. I also like to make gifts, but last year I made my MIL a hand sewn lap quilt, and she told me to not make her anymore presents. I think she feel awkward because you can't put a price tag on hand made so she doesn't know how much to spend back to keep it equal (she is obsessed with spending exactly the same amount on everyone, "got to keep it equal.")

 

BaileyB, I have heard that a high heart rate means a girl, but DS1 was always in the 160 range, so it didn't work for us. Neither of our boys liked the Doppler and would hide from it. That is part of the reason we decided to just get a fetoscope. We have it but can't start trying to use it until about 20 weeks, as it won't work before then.

 

I never knew that insurance would pay for a breast pump, not that it matters to us as we bought one last year when we were expecting DS2. After all the issues I had trying to feed DS1 I wanted to make sure we had a pump to nip the issue on the bud if it started with the new baby. Fortunately I hardly used it as my milk was much fattier and DS2 thrived on my breast milk. At 14 months he is outgrowing 2T clothes that fit his 29 months older brother perfectly. DH jokes that I have miracle grown in my milk second time around.

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We bought DD a kitchen set from Ikea, along with a few kitchen accessory things. That will be basically all she'll get (she's still young). Last year we did "something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read" for DH and I and it really helped to cut back on useless gifts. Will do the same this year. I also started an Amazon wish list with items for all 3 of us so I can give that link to the grandparents. They like to buy, but need guidance...

 

I already have a breast pump, but have heard such good things about the Hygeia brand. If I can get one for free, I definitely will!

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Thank Bailey, I am starting to do better actually!  Praise the Lord!  mornings are actually pretty good now.  I still feel a bit icky in the evenings but I have actually cooked and eaten a somewhat normal dinner for 4 days in a row now.  Quite an accomplishment!  I am still scared to go off the Zofran because it was so bad last time I went off it.  I go to the doctor on Tuesday so I guess I will ask about it then.  At this point I feel like I may as well take it until I feel good. 

 

Lynann, That is awesome that you are done with your Christmas shopping!  I usually like to make some things as well but I don't think that's going to happen much this year.  I really want to make some hooded capes for my girls but that will probably be it.  I was hoping to make them for my nieces too but I don't think it's realistic.  SIL asked if I would make her a skirt for Christmas and I think I might still try to do that. 

 

It snowed here the last few days so we played in the snow this morning which was fun.  We made a snowman and then DD1 knocked it's head off.  I shoved the head back on and stuck the carrot in the top and told her it was a unicorn now.  Getting things to stick in for the face was frickin' hard and I didn't want to do it again. orngtongue.gif DD1 and I had a little snow ball fight which involved me tossing snowballs at her tummy and her flinging unpacked handfuls of snow at me.  She had a blast and was giggling lots.  Love that.  Then we had to go inside and make hot cocoa because that's what Curious George does after he plays in the snow!  Tonight we had dinner with my family which was fun even if dinner didn't turn out very well. 

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I dunno, I actually had a hospital grade pump for the few days when Ameda was shipping me my replacement pump (they covered the rental which was great when my motor went out when under warranty) and I didn't find it extracted milk for me any faster/better than my Ameda Purely Yours double electric. I know a lot of folks think they are way better and the motors certainly hold up better, but eh. Also, they are not nearly as portable as a personal double pump and I actually traveled with mine quite a bit and hauled it back and forth from work every weekend. I still have my Ameda from last time, but I want to use it as a back up only as it was a refurb so I don't expect it to last my whole pumping time.

 

They cover breast pumps...oh my that is great!

 

I used a hospital pump with DD and then went to the high end Medula and regretted it.  I really think it may have played a part in the short period of time I was able to BF, only 5 months.  I stopped the hospital pump about a month before and then I was not producing enough and we were back on the BF every 2 hours at 4 1/2 months and DD losing weight.  After a consult with BF nurse at the hospital, I should have just bitten the bullet and gotten the hospital pump again.

 

I am thinking abut a hospital grade pump again...I really want to BF at least a year this time, maybe longer.

 

Editing to add on...

 

DD is going to be 7 and she has Christmas and Birthday (New Years Eve) within 6 days of each other.  We are going back to the US in 9 days (SO EXCITED) and the family has asked what they should get since we will be moving out of Japan just 3 months after Christmas, possibly sooner.  We have been focusing on giving DD the EXPERIENCE of something rather than a toy, for instance we are thinking about her b-day gift from us being a trip to Tokyo Disney Land (not cheap, but something everyone will enjoy).  She also loves books, loves to read in bed every night but books are not what we want to buy right now!

 

I don't know what to tell them.  I just went through her toy box, she really doesn't have much, she loves Disney Cars and Disney princess.  I ordered an 18" doll for her today from Target that is like an American Doll but much more affordable (and I don't have to have a panic attack every time I think DD might have left it somewhere or done something horrible to it).  I don't think the family really likes the idea of gift cards and such even though she is getting into the apps on the IPad and is starting to want to play computer games.

 

I sat down with DD and tortured myself while we went through Target, Walmart and ToysRUs websites to compile a list of potential items she might want.  It is very heavily weighted with doll stuff (unusual for DD, not a single Cars item).  Unfortunately these items really shouldn't be bought until we get back so we can avoid shipping it twice and the risk of damage (pretty high).  She also asked for a bike again, I can't get her that for sure until we return.

 

Her father's family is heavily into the giving of gifts of (mostly useless and cheap and not thoughtful) toys and I can't convince ex husband that what she wants are toys she can bring with her instead of toys she leaves behind for nearly 11 months of a year.  Last year it was a suitcase full of toys (it was both b-day and Christmas) that I decided I would bring back to Boston so all I paid was the excess luggage fee but still...he doesn't get it.  I tried to get him to give me a list of what he wanted to get her along with the gift card, but I think it must be all about the opening of the gifts which DD always seems uninterested in said gifts by the time she gets home (we still left quite a bit at my parents and she never asked for them again so I sent them back to his house).  Ex even FORGOT it was Christmas morning and DD had to remind him because he didn't put the gifts out!  And yet, he continues to ask me what to get her, and doesn't use the info!

 

I don't know what to tell them or the ex, but I really think I need to be insistent that if the item isn't electronic for the IPad (my IPad, of course, she doesn't have one) or a game for her LeapFrog handheld then it will have to stay at my parents house until we go back in March.  Of course, it is ME who gets to enforce that rule with DD, not my family or ex-husband, because it is me who will have to pack it back to Japan and then back to the US and pay for all the shipping!  Ugh, so frustrating.  If the IPad were not so darn fragile and pricey, I would get her one and solve this problem.


Edited by jacquelinej - 11/11/12 at 4:48am
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