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[josie423]

Thank you so much ladies!! It means so much to me! 

[kdorrain]

Chiming in with "not okay" and wanted to say that if you attend a church or other community-building thing where you can find a couple to support you...perhaps a girlfriend's husband can start a conversation about it.  He needs to know that the baby's health is #1.  I have lost 20# this pregnancy (I'm 29+3) and just had a terrifying u/s to see why my baby was palpating so small.  I started out at least 80# overweight (I'm tall too) and so we weren't super worried until baby was measuring small.  Baby is fine (we had an u/s yesterday), but we still need to make sure baby is getting the right nutrition.  Babies need fat for brain development right now.  Even if you had gained 70 pounds by now, what's important is the nutrition your baby is getting.  Not your pants size or how much cellulite you have or how many chins you have during this short period where you are sacrificing for this baby.  I'm still 60+# overweight and DH is actively working to get me eating so that our baby is healthy--he gets that I can lose the weight later, when it's SAFE.

[josie423]

Thanks everyone! I'm so thankful for the support. Things haven't really gotten better. In addition to this there are some other things going on (in short he has some anger issues) and I've worked out a plan with my parents should I need a place to go. I hate that it has come to this, but I have to do what I have to do to protect myself and my children. 

[1234babies]

Josie.  I'll just echo the well-stated thoughts of all the other ladies.  You absolutely do not need to be hearing anything other than positive, supportive thoughts about you or your weight at ANY time in your life, and especially now towards the end of the pregnancy when it's necessary to eat well to keep yourself and your baby healthy.  Whatever decisions you make in the upcoming months so that you and your other children can be in a peaceful, supportive environment will be good.  It's so hard to have big emotional issues or to contemplate change at any time, but during pregnancy it's overwhelming, so many, many thoughts and hugs to you. 
 

[loveandgarbage]

More s to you Josie. Glad you have a plan if that's how it needs to be. I wish you nothing but strength and peace. If you ever need to vent to a relative stranger, feel free to message me :).

[LadyCatherine185]

((hugs)) josie.. I am so sorry you are going through this right now. you will be in my prayers.

[BaMo]

Sending you big hugs, Josie. What he is saying and doing is not right. I see from your sig that you all are a Christian family. Can you go to your priest/pastor/preacher and talk to them about this? Perhaps going to them first alone. Or does your Church have a counselling program/couples retreat that might be of help? Do you have church friends that he would listen to?

It just sends up a huge red flag to me that he is being so controlling over your food intake and how he thinks you should look. I'm keeping you in my prayers.

[buko]

((((Josie)))))

[MaybeJ]

I'm sorry things have been so rough, Josie.  You have had some great suggestions from others and it sounds like you have supportive family you can turn to, so I will just offer some more hugs.