November 2012 Rockstar Mamas! - Page 6

[Baby_Cakes]

The trailer was on its way to the event and crossed over tracks when there wasn't enough room for it to fully pass thru.  While it was on the tracks, the signal came down.  There was no where for the truck to go. :-(

That's why you really should never cross tracks when there isn't enough room on the other side.  Wait.  This whole thing could have been avoided if that driver had just waited.  It's completely senseless.  

Finn has been asleep since 12.  It's already 230.  I love when he takes good long naps.  Makes up for the days Nora wakes him up after only an hour.  

I need to find ways to keep her quiet when he's asleep.  We usually do a project, color, watch a movie, or something.  I have to stay on top of her the whole time and even then, she will make noise on purpose to wake him up.  The other day she was trying to color, and she was bouncing around in her seat.  I mentioned to her she should use the bathroom so she would be more comfortable (she always holds it until she's about to burst).  She got annoyed with me and said, "Quit bugging me!  I'll pee when I'm ready!  If you bug me again I'll wake Finn!"  All mad.  So.  She knows it's my hot button!!!  

It's the one thing that really burns me up more than anything and I always have trouble with yelling when she does it.  Sigh.

She'll stomp her feet loudy by his door, or yell...sigh.  

One day I'll look back and laugh about this, right?  Or wish my biggest problem was when she used to wake him from naps?  LOL.

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 11/16/12 at 11:46am

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

The other day she was trying to color, and she was bouncing around in her seat.  I mentioned to her she should use the bathroom so she would be more comfortable (she always holds it until she's about to burst).  She got annoyed with me and said, "Quit bugging me!  I'll pee when I'm ready!  If you bug me again I'll wake Finn!"... 

One day I'll look back and laugh about this, right?  Or wish my biggest problem was when she used to wake him from naps?  LOL.

I'm laughing now. That is pretty funny!

[EuroMama]

MIL: "I can tell Eddie is eating more table foods because you're not as big around the chest anymore!" Me: "He only eats table food about once a day and still nurses a ton during the day!" MIL: *SILENCE*

[Baby_Cakes]

OMG!  So out of line!!  Ha!   I swear you can't make this stuff up.

[MarineWife]

ugh! does she think he shouldn't be nursing?

[EuroMama]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

OMG!  So out of line!!  Ha!   I swear you can't make this stuff up.

I KNOW!!!!!!

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

ugh! does she think he shouldn't be nursing?

She thinks he shouldn't be nursing past a year. He is not even a year yet, but I will nurse until he weans. 

She makes stupid remarks like this every now and then. She is the same person who said TIME magazine Mom is fake nursing because he breast are way too small to actually produce milk. AHHHHHH!! She nursed her youngest son for 1 year but weaned him right after. If they can ask for it, then they shouldn't be nursing, she says. OYE!!!!!!!!!!

[lyterae]

I'm still apparently not going to be able to keep up here to talk to everyone, I'm friends with a couple of you on facebook, if anyone else would like to find me please send me a message. :)

I am however still hoping to at least stop in semi-regularly, this is twice since summer that's progress! 

[MarineWife]

Hey, lyeterae. As much as you can is fine.

Ugh, EM. I've never had to deal with silliness like that with family or friends. I can't imagine how annoying it must be.

[AnnieA]

I'm so behind! This day has been...ugh. Just hard. Ava is in a bad mood unless she's doing something marginally unacceptable like walking up and down our outside stairs unassisted. This child is testing my limits! She only wants stuff I don't want her to have, especially my cell phone. If she breaks it, I'm SOL. She has like five real, but old, cell phones plus the itouch that she can play with. Nope. Wants my blackberry. I'll try to catch up with everything at work on Sunday.

[AnnieA]

Oh MW, meant to ask. Was last night the first night you and Ethan have been apart? How did that go overall?

[onetwoten]

So busy today! I'd thought I'd stayed mostly caught up, but apparently not!

Ok, just staying on track. 

Carrie- She'll be staying mostly with my sister in law Ash, who was two little girls (4 in Dec and 8). It's kind of a weird setup. My other SIL (with 4 kids, two in school full time) is a SAHM, as is Ash. Their little ones all go to the same montessori and dance classes, so Ash serves as "home base" and Allyson spends her days driving the kids around. So at any time Ash will have no kids in the house, or just Marcus, my 18mo nephew, (he stays at the house while his mom drives the others), or just Leni the 4yo, or might have marcus, leni, Liv (4.5), OR Leni and Ava (the 8yo)  LOL It's a constantly changing house! It'll be nice for her to spend some more time with her cousins. And Ash is pretty into natural foods and healthy eating, and understands not CIO. She's a bit, well a lot, new agey... so she -gets- it when I talk about babies being people, and picking up on our energy, and the difference in "not for Tenley" vs NO, etc etc. I think it'll be a good fit. She's also on my way to work, and partly on  DH's way to work. 

Only problem is she's talked for months about how she'd be happy ot help us out, and watch Ten, and just recently has started kind of 'hinting' that she doesn't want it to be more than maybe 3days a week. So we're going to start out and see what kind of shifts I'm working, and go from there. But she'll be the main caregiver, supplemented by Rob's mom and younger sister, who live like 3 blocks from us. 

Phew! Tired just thinking about it!!

Rob is a bit pissed because when I talked to work, she let me know that I'll probably have to work one weekend a month midnights. She said she'll try not to schedule me when possible, but that I do have to have the availability for it. Blah. I don't want it, but I also understand fairness and union, and I've been on the other end of it. So... whatever, I'll put in my dues, and hope in the meantime that they don't schedule me for them very often. And if we -do- find that it's an issue, obviously I'll tell them, and if it means I quit, then I guess I quit. But I want to give it a shot at least. 

Lauri-- Those days are SO hard!  *hugs* Why is it that they have this innate sense of what is 'real' and what is an imitation? 

Carrie-- you will! When they're teenagers, and sleeping in until 1pm, you'll laugh that they joked about waking each other up! lol You'll WISH they'd wake each other up!

Ugh. I haven't had to deal with any stupid questions about the nursing, or cosleeping, or solids or cloth diapers or anything, not from friends/family. I anticipate that when she hits a year though, and the nursing isn't weaning, people will start wondering. My one SIL nursed to about 15 months, but that beat the next record in the family by about 10 months... so, since I can't even see Tenley being nightweaned at 15 months, should be funny!!

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

Oh MW, meant to ask. Was last night the first night you and Ethan have been apart? How did that go overall?

No, he's spent the night without me before. Once when he was about 2.5 I went to my sister's overnight and he stayed with dh. He was fine and he was still nursing. He's also spent the night at a friend's house a couple of times for slumber parties. He had a lot of fun. Kellen and Ethan both have also stayed overnight with my mom while dh and I had a minivacation.

DH said when they went to bed Ethan initially said he didn't think he could sleep without me but dh talked him into trying. But when dh kind of woke up and rolled over at around 6 am the next morning Ethan was right there in his face looking at him and asked, "Are you awake?" This from the kid who is still asleep here at home. He sleeps until at least 10 am every morning. Just a little anxious to get home?

[Baby_Cakes]

I've been thinking I need a vacation these past 2 days.  When are we thinking of going to myrtle beach again?  

I need a break from DH too.  He's constantly around.  He hasn't travelled in a very long time....Since the beginning of september, I think?  It's just the two of us and we are fine, but starting to irk each other.  (With both of us home all the time, we nitpick each other, and it's so frustrating!)  I try to get myself and the kids out of the house most days, but that's work in and of itself, so it happens maybe 2-4 times a week.  

Last night he started picking on me about the laundry.  I generally get it clean and into bins and USUALLY put away.  But you know, life is life and if I don't get to putting it away so be it.  I don't really care.  He was like, "I want all the clothes put away, just wash it and I'LL PUT IT AWAY."  Ok buddy, you just earned yourself a new job then.  But I know what's going to happen.  He won't do it.  It'll be the same shit different day.  

But at least it'll be his own fault.  

I can't wait to see him sitting matching socks for an hour.  When does he think he'll have time to do all this?  After he gets home at 630 pm?  While we're eating dinner?  Hmmm...

And on weekends DH wakes up with a fire under his butt for "family time family time" when we've HAD family time all week.  I wish he'd take the kids, give me the car, and say go read at starbucks for 3 hours, I got this.  I don't know.  Sigh.  Mama's feeling burnt out.

Sleep is a miracle tho!  May patience (and sex drive!  I knew it was hiding in there somewhere) are back!  Finn slept 11 (straight) hours 2 nights ago, and slept from 9 from 330 with 2 second wakeup (I needed to just give him a snuggle) at 330, and then we slept in til 8.

Yesterday he skipped nap completely tho and then crashed at 430 pm.  I thought we were screwed but he went to bed right on time at 9 so...

Anyway.  Must find coffee.  Also must work out today!!!  Had chinese and wine and chocolate this weekend and I NEED to lose some of this freaking weight!!  Ugh!

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 11/18/12 at 5:58am

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

I've been thinking I need a vacation these past 2 days.  When are we thinking of going to myrtle beach again?  

I've been wondering this, too. I wasn't clear on whether we wanted to go in the spring or wait until next fall. I also wasn't sure if you all wanted to see about timeshares or if you wanted to rent a big house or something.

Let him figure out the laundry. Do exactly what he said, just wash it and leave it for him. Don't ask or nag or tease him if he doesn't get it done. If he does get it done, thank him for it.

I get all gung ho about family time on the weekends but I recently realized that what I really wanted was for dh to spend time with the kids so I could get some alone time. He's never here even when he's supposed to be off work. He just left to go into the office again because he has to prepare some briefs before the Thanksgiving holiday. He was supposed to have a long weekend this weekend because his ball was on Thursday but he's had to go into the office every day. I told him that I guess I wouldn't do any cleaning today. He asked why not and I said I wouldn't do it if he's never going to be here to help me (in a fun teasing way).

Oh, and I got him yesterday, too. We were all sitting in the family room and I was getting hungry but Dylan would not leave me alone for a minute. He refused to sit with dh. So, I said to dh, "You want to make us some bacon and eggs, don't you?" He kind of looked at me funny. I said, "I know that's what you were thinking but you were afraid to bring it up." He said, "You read my mind." I said, "Yes, I've realized that's what you expect me to do so, from now on, I'll just tell you what you are thinking."

I have to make two pies for his unit's Thanksgiving meal for all the Marines and Sailors who live in the barracks and can't get home for the holiday. I'm going to make one plain ol' sweet potato pie and one caramel pecan pumpkin pie. Yum! DH is going to make cranberry sauce and dinner rolls. I'm hoping that the boys and I can help serve the meal. That's on Tuesday evening.

My dad is coming the same day for our Thanksgiving dinner. We're going to have 6 adults because Ryan and his girlfriend will be here and Ryan invited his friend, Devan. He has spent Thanksgiving with us almost every year since we've lived here. He says we're like his real family because he's family is so awful. We're going to have a hug turkey! I love roasted turkey!

[AnnieA]

I need a vacation too! I'm thinking late April/early May. I'd prefer to do a timeshare just from the convenience factor. I think that most of those resorts have at least one pool but I don't know that we can all fit in a unit, right? I'm counting five families, right?

Baby_Cakes, 11 straight hours? That's crazy talk. Like I can't even imagine it, crazy talk! I'm seeing glimmers of Ava getting better at falling back asleep after she stirs from a sleep cycle. Last night, she went to sleep at 7:45 PM. She usually stirs and needs a bottle about 90 mins after going down and then every couple of hours after that. Last night, she stirred a couple times before I went to bed at 11 PM but I didn't have to intervene. She would cry out once, roll over and fall back asleep. I didn't have to give her a bottle until about Midnight. Of course, she stirred and needed milk 3 more times after that but progress, right? She's down to only taking about 4-6 oz overnight. She's drinking more during the day again though. So I guess it evens out.

MW, that's so funny about you telling DH what he's thinking. Since that appears to be what he's expecting, why not? Hahaha! Those pies sound yummy. I'm bringing garlic green beans and apple pie to my mom's for Thanksgiving but the apple pie is just going to be a frozen one.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

I need a vacation too! I'm thinking late April/early May. I'd prefer to do a timeshare just from the convenience factor. I think that most of those resorts have at least one pool but I don't know that we can all fit in a unit, right? I'm counting five families, right?

I think we have me, you, Carrie, Kat and JJ. Can we get a roll call of how many from each family? 5 for me, 4 for Carrie, 3+ for you, 5 for Kat and 3 for JJ. That's at least 20 people! We would have to get at least 2 places. I think some of them do sleep up to 10 but not all of those are private rooms.

I remember why I wasn't sure about the spring. Kat will have just had her baby and may not want to travel. Also, I think if we get into late April/early May it may cost more since that's getting into the vacation season.

[onetwoten]

Carrie--- I'm so glad you're getting more sleep and feeling more like yourself in regards to patience and drive. I can't -wait- for those days. Tenley is sleeping better lately. Not great, but better. But I'm worried that's going to change once I go back to work. Just so many unknowns. 

We will be very much only maybes for the trip now. With me going back to work, and us still working on renos... it's going to be a very fine balance of money/time off required. I want to come, but I also know DH is likely to be very hesitant, and I totally see how point now. 

Ok, so tough talk, that I was hoping to never have. Going back to work on the 26th. I have been and will continue trying to pump. but lately, I can't get anything when I pump. I'm going to try some nursing tea, and oatmeal etc etc, but right now I'm just trying to accept that I might not be able to leave milk for her. So I know this has come up before, but at 1 year (just barely) what would you guys give as a milk alternative? Formula seems weird, but she seems so young for cows milk. And then obviously there's soy, rice, almond, coconut milks. I'll most likely be gone around 5-8 hours. I know from talking to people, there's a lot of babies that just won't take anything during that time, they'll just eat solids, but if she wants/needs something (especially in a sippy right before nap), then I'm so torn what to offer her. 

[MarineWife]

Ryan weaned at just over a year, sometime during his 13th month. I didn't give him anything special, just a regular diet which included cow's milk at the time. I don't really know what's recommended now. I don't expect my kids to drink any milk anymore once they wean but 1 year is a little early for that. Some people give their babies goat's milk, I think. The only other milk I would consider is coconut milk because they others aren't natural. However, coconut milk can't supply the same nutrients in the same amounts as animal milk so I don't think it's worth it as a nutritional supplement.

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by onetwoten 

Ok, so tough talk, that I was hoping to never have. Going back to work on the 26th. I have been and will continue trying to pump. but lately, I can't get anything when I pump. I'm going to try some nursing tea, and oatmeal etc etc, but right now I'm just trying to accept that I might not be able to leave milk for her. So I know this has come up before, but at 1 year (just barely) what would you guys give as a milk alternative? Formula seems weird, but she seems so young for cows milk. And then obviously there's soy, rice, almond, coconut milks. I'll most likely be gone around 5-8 hours. I know from talking to people, there's a lot of babies that just won't take anything during that time, they'll just eat solids, but if she wants/needs something (especially in a sippy right before nap), then I'm so torn what to offer her. 

I would probably try to troubleshoot the pumping problem before looking for milk alternatives. I know that some women say they don't respond to the pump but I seriously just don't understand how that's possible. It's sucking on your boobs. If there's milk there, it's gotta come out, right? Even if the horns are the wrong size? I'm not trying to be hurtful, I just really don't understand. So if you have experimented with different horn sizes and you do compression and massage while pumping and still aren't getting a letdown, then I would watch videos to learn how to hand express. Even if you could leave 3-4 oz for her, that would be great. I'd probably be inclined to give goat's milk before cow's milk or formula.

[EuroMama]

Ok, so tough talk, that I was hoping to never have. Going back to work on the 26th. I have been and will continue trying to pump. but lately, I can't get anything when I pump. I'm going to try some nursing tea, and oatmeal etc etc, but right now I'm just trying to accept that I might not be able to leave milk for her. So I know this has come up before, but at 1 year (just barely) what would you guys give as a milk alternative? Formula seems weird, but she seems so young for cows milk. And then obviously there's soy, rice, almond, coconut milks. I'll most likely be gone around 5-8 hours. I know from talking to people, there's a lot of babies that just won't take anything during that time, they'll just eat solids, but if she wants/needs something (especially in a sippy right before nap), then I'm so torn what to offer her. 

Do you have a hospital grade pump?!!?? Do you know a nursing Mom who could pump for you?!!

I personally would be fine to give cows milk at a year old. What is the age recommendation for cows milk? Its been 10 years ago since the oldest started milk and I forgot. lol