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post #21 of 254
OMG, Ava and her bags! I love that! It is so cute.

I have no idea about Christmas presents. We have so much stuff already. I don't need anything. I really don't like it that people insist on buying me something. Really, if I say I don't want/need anything, save your money. Donate it to a charity in my name. Don't get me a useless gift card that I will never use because I can't stand going in the store.
post #22 of 254

Yeah, we managed to cancel the gift exchange with DH's side of the family this year. So I just need from my mom, my dad, and then one of my siblings (gift exchange on that side). I'm really leaning towards the gift cards. Especially Ikea! lol But I'm sure I could spend some money/gift cards on new clothes too! 

 

Tenley's harder because she will be getting from my mom, my dad, rob's parents, and then 6 different aunts and uncles. My family is ok, but his family is =notorious= for buying WAY too much. It's not uncommon for his mom to spend over $200 I would say on one child. Which is fine... when there's one of them. But there's 7 grandchildren now. Not only is it SO much money, but it takes forever to go through all the gifts! lol We spend hours sitting and trying to convince the kids to keep opening, and keep opening, and keep opening. 

post #23 of 254
We usually are just scraping together enough money for christmas presents for the kids so we don't usually do anything for each other or other grownups. Last year, DH surprised me with my Nook. I'd probably ask for gift cards, massage certificates, free babysitting, etc. That's so crazy about the knitting lady MW. People are crazy.
post #24 of 254
Oh another gift idea would be a year membership to a children's museum if you have one close by. Or a zoo. Something like that.
post #25 of 254
Those are good idea, Annie. I hadn't thought of something like that.

I don't really concern myself with how much money other people spend. That's their issue. I don't feel any obligation to reciprocate but dh does. It drives me nuts because he thinks I'm being rude when I say I think it's silly to buy gifts for all the adults.
post #26 of 254
OK I thought of some things I would ask for if I were in your situation JJ. I would love to have a soda stream machine. Do you guys have those in Canada? I love seltzer/sparkling water and it carbonates tap water. Brilliant! Would also request a big crockpot, giftcard to Starbuvks, Barnes and Noble giftcard, magazine subscriptions (love O and Real Simple!)...stuff that I like but wouldn't necessarily buy for myself.
post #27 of 254
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OK I thought of some things I would ask for if I were in your situation JJ. I would love to have a soda stream machine. Do you guys have those in Canada? I love seltzer/sparkling water and it carbonates tap water. Brilliant! Would also request a big crockpot, giftcard to Starbuvks, Barnes and Noble giftcard, magazine subscriptions (love O and Real Simple!)...stuff that I like but wouldn't necessarily buy for myself.

 

These are great ideas!  We have a seltzer maker that just takes co2 canisters that can get refilled at like sports authority.  It's great to have!  We add some fresh lemon juice or lime juice sometimes, it's so refreshing!

 

Also doing the zoo membership for the kids.  

My inlaws give a lot, but since ours are the only grandkids, I think it's fine.  We do one present for each grown up.  I like doing that.  It doesn't have to be a big gift, but something nice they like. We usually give liquor, or a gift card, or something.

 

I love getting magazine subscriptions!

 

Coffee clubs can be nice too!

post #28 of 254
Soooo awesome first six hours last night, and then she barely slept the next 5 hours, and has been SUCH a grouch all day long. Vaccine related? She glad a shot Friday am. She was fussy all day yesterday too
post #29 of 254
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Soooo awesome first six hours last night, and then she barely slept the next 5 hours, and has been SUCH a grouch all day long. Vaccine related? She glad a shot Friday am. She was fussy all day yesterday too


Very well could be from the shot. Which one did she have? Ava was a mess after the DTaP.

post #30 of 254
Yep, I agree with Annie. Have you tried giving her something for pain?
post #31 of 254
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Poor T and poor you!!  Hang in there.  Maybe tonight she'll play catch up.

 

Had a great day!  Went for a good run (HAD to clear my head.  Been so upset about a few things...) with the baby, just over 3 miles.  Then came home and occupied the kids, and DH and I snunk in a shower together.  OMG we haven't done that in AGES.  LITERALLY.  Then made dinner while chatting on the phone with a friend, had some wine... ah.  Nice Sunday.

 

Looking at a busy week tho! Glad I got a nice sort of relaxing day.  Hope you all had a good weekend too!

post #32 of 254

I saw that run log Carrie! Good job! I'm jealous. I miss running, but at the same time, I can't seem to get the motivation to get out there. 

 

I haven't given a painkiller because it was so long ago. Maybe I will try tonight. Worth a shot!  Ironically, it was the dtap shot + polio. The adacel one. grrr. 

post #33 of 254
I can see how it may take a few days for any reaction to be at it's worst. It's like getting a cold. You start out with a little sniffle or a mildly scratchy throat and 3 days later you feel like you've been hit by a truck.

I'm the same way about exercise. I just can't seem to get motivated to do it. I did some yoga while in the backyard with Dylan today. The neighborhood kids were like, "What are you doing?" lol.gif

Dylan has been so fussy and clingy. I don't know what's going on. A growth spurt, maybe, because he wants to nurse constantly but only for a very few minutes. It's driving me crazy because I can't do anything. As soon as I think he's fine playing or whatever and try to do something else, he comes to me fussing/crying and wants to nurse again but only for a minute.

DH has fallen asleep in the chair in the living room. He thinks he's helping by not going to bed. Yeah, thanks. lol.gif
post #34 of 254

Weekend was good (minus my sister) and so busy! Well, she broke her leg, which I am honestly sympathetic about, I am sure she's got plenty of pain, and pain killers. But, she came with us to IKEA - we got her a wheelchair - and it was going Ok, until we started talking about plans for Sunday - we had tickets to the Panther/Bronco game that starts (kick off) is at 1 pm. She lives like 45 minutes away from the stadium. Asked what time we needed to leave, she's like, oh, around 11:50. I said, um, no. I was thinking we wanted to GET there around 12. have time to find our seats, wander around, get some lunch, etc. She and her husband have been to games before and left at that time. I explained, hello - you are on freaking crutches, we likely will need to park a good bit aways to avoid paying heavily for the priveldge, we need to factor in extra time. She grumbled and whatever. and then said, well, I guess we can leave a little earlier than usual from church. Honestly, I hadn't intended on GOING to church with her. I don't think any of us did. But she never misses a Sunday. Ever. I told her even our pastor takes vacation, it's ok to miss a sunday now and then. but whatever. I understand she and BIL have responsibilities at church, but everyone needs a break. . . . So this made her all grumpy. And then on the way out of IKEA she asked about names, and I told her baby would likely be Theodore Lewis. She was pouty, I was like what? You have always said you had dibs on Andrew (dad's middle name) and I don't care to use it, so NBD. She said she wanted them BOTH. She has never, ever, ever, ever, expressed an intrested in Theodore. When Norah was in utero, she was bummed about out name choice then too, bc she wanted to use Eleanor and call a baby Nora for short. Again, prior to my announcing the name, no mention of this. She has mentioned Andrew, Abana, Abigail .. Christopher, but never Theodore or Norah. I told her (at IKEA) that she who has baby first, gets naming rights. That shut her up.

 

We ended up leaving church just after the worship music, traffic was HORRIBLE on the way to the game. NO big suprise there, and then, of course there was a crazy wait to get in (something with increased security, which we were told was atypical) So we didn't even get to our seats until 1/2 way through the first quarter. The seats were good, the game was good, Broncos won. But my sister . . . .enh. *sigh*

 

Norah did fine at MILs over the weekend, though she fell off MIL's bed once (though honestly, she may have been just trying to slide off and fell on the way down. she does that) and it freaked MIL out. I told her, NBD, that happens. Now, if Norah were a newborn, different story. I missed her bunches, but it was easier to not have her with us for the game.

 

Gifts: We buy for the kids, obviously, and get my sister and BIL a gift, my parents a gift, DH's parents each a gift. That's it. we typically don't buy for each of the kids in the extended family. The aunts and grandparents do though, and that's fine.

 

More fun family stuff: on the way home after getting Norah, MIL calls and says her sisters wondered about invites to Gabe's party. 1)they never were invited to his first 2 parties that were family/friends affairs 2) his party is at a children's museum, it's mostly for his friends  . . . It honestly didn't occur to DH or I to invite them. I told MIL they are welcome to come, adults are free, but we had to limit the number of kids. And didn't invite any kids from that side of the family bc Gabe never plays with them. Whatever.

 

(I hate this time of year for family drama)

 

MW: I say growth spurt, unless he's coming down with a cold? is his nose stuffy? mine would nurse like that when their noses get stuffy.

 

Carrie - glad you and DH got some time together, and a good run! that's awesome!

 

JJ: glad to see you on here more often - we miss you and Ten!

post #35 of 254
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I hate HATE name drama!  They should just be happy for you.  She isn't preggo right now so you obv get dibs on whatever name you want to choose!  

My sister (back when we were speaking) did that when I was pg with Nora before we knew boy/girl.  She emailed me saying she always wanted to use the name Nathan so could we please not use that?  I was like WtF?  Ok fine.  I wasn't even planning on using that anyway, lol.  It's not a family name or anything, just a random name she wanted to use!  LOL!

 

Weird about the party.  You think they'll go?

 

So - my run really cleared my head yesterday.  I've been so upset about this whole friend drama, the fight she started with me during the storm.  I've just really been eaten up about it.  Idk.  I'm sensitive that way I think.  Anyway finally I came to a conclusion that I'm not ok leaving it as never speaking again.  I just can't do that again.  I've cut so many ppl out of my life.  Maybe I AM  hard to deal with.  Idk.  So, last night I just went and liked a few of her pics.  Baby steps, you know?

 

This morning I come on and her New Best Friend wrote this huge long outpouring sappy status about how much she's thankful for (you know that 30 days of thanks) her Best Friend in the whole world and how good a friend she is, and how life changing it is to have such a good Best Friend.  And of course I can see it b/c she tagged her in it, so it's plain as day.  

Talk about OUCH.  Ugh.  

 

Part of me also feels like maybe this girl wrote this stuff on purpose, to be petty and mean.  I HATE drama.  I don't want any.  So whatever I do, it has to be the least drama inviting thing.  

 

I'm being so dumb about this.  I feel like I'm stalking an ex.  I feel like I just cannot shake this feeling of being left out and I'm just having trouble moving on.  Which is dumb for a few reasons...most of which i have amazing friends now too, way better than this girl.  LOADS BETTER.  But she's my oldest friend.  I have to accept things have changed and can't go back the way they were, and just grow up and move on.  My feelings are my feelings but I can't keep going on like this.  

You guys agree?

 

Anyway, Target today, meeting up with my friend and her kids and getting some groceries.  Let the week begin!  More coffee first!


Edited by Baby_Cakes - 11/12/12 at 7:39am
post #36 of 254

I am not a fan of Drama. I avoid it all costs. I haven't ever completely cut a friend off, I just withdraw. I also don't have a lot of "old" friends . . I have a couple I keep up with on facebook, but that's it. But I think it's one reason I had very few girl friends growing up, I just can't deal with drama.

 

DH's family is all drama, all the time. I am so glad to live on the other side of town from them. Most of them live within minutes of eachother in a small suburb, so they are all up in each other's business. I can't deal with that.  Every family holiday the last few years has had some cloud over it - we can't celebrate at this person's house, bc she won't let this other person in the door, and vice versa. It's ridic. Get over it people. I don't know if it's because I didn't have any geographically close extended family growing up, but I just don't understand or know how to deal with this type of stuff.

 

I hope you have a good day!

 

Because I am curious, did you find out whether your other friend had a VBAC or a RCS? It's one of those odd, none of my business questions that's been lingering in the back of my mind.

 

IDK if the new BFF is trying to start drama or not, or maybe she is just one of those ridiculously effusive people?

post #37 of 254

MW: got the socks! and the ball - they are all adorable, and thanks for thinking of us! I am fairly certain the socks will fit, but since my kids can't keep socks on in near 80 degree weather, I will wait until night time to try them on and get a pic.

post #38 of 254
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I am not a fan of Drama. I avoid it all costs. I haven't ever completely cut a friend off, I just withdraw. I also don't have a lot of "old" friends . . I have a couple I keep up with on facebook, but that's it. But I think it's one reason I had very few girl friends growing up, I just can't deal with drama.

 

DH's family is all drama, all the time. I am so glad to live on the other side of town from them. Most of them live within minutes of eachother in a small suburb, so they are all up in each other's business. I can't deal with that.  Every family holiday the last few years has had some cloud over it - we can't celebrate at this person's house, bc she won't let this other person in the door, and vice versa. It's ridic. Get over it people. I don't know if it's because I didn't have any geographically close extended family growing up, but I just don't understand or know how to deal with this type of stuff.

 

I hope you have a good day!

 

Because I am curious, did you find out whether your other friend had a VBAC or a RCS? It's one of those odd, none of my business questions that's been lingering in the back of my mind.

 

IDK if the new BFF is trying to start drama or not, or maybe she is just one of those ridiculously effusive people?

 

 

That's what I'm doing.  Withdrawing.  I don't go out of my way to talk to her, she doesn't seem to want to talk to me either about daily stuff, so that's that.  I think rather than cut her off (which to me IS drama) I'll just fade and let her fade.  But I really am nosey and want to chat with her about things like we did.  I miss that banter.  Oh well.

 

So my other friend - she ended up with another c section, but not for lack of trying!  She went into labor on her, own, water broke on its own (right AFTER they lost power.  She was so so so nervous).  Couldn't get ahold of mw or doula for hours.  Went to the hospital (w/no power, laboring at home was tough she said.  No distractions, no lights, couldn't get in the tub, etc).  Finally got doula and mw, labored amazingly for 30 (!!!!) hours, got to 10.  Pushed for something crazy like 3 hours, baby would NOT descend.  M was exhausted.  Baby was posterior and her mw talked to them about her options.  I think she said they could do an epidural and continue pushing but she wasn't sure if baby even WOULD descend b/c of her position.  So, she opted for another section.  

She's happy tho.  She's happy she got to go into labor and not be induced, she got to work thru labor, and although she wasn't able to vbac she doesn't doubt her body anymore like she did the first time.

post #39 of 254

woot! I am so glad she got her TOL! I mean, another c section sucks, but at least she tried, and she knows her body isn't broken. babies are stubborn about positon, especially if your water breaks early in labor - it seems that makes it easy for them to get stuck. I am glad Norah was able to move around a bit, bc she was stuck in a position that wouldn't work.

 

My oldest friend is no longer local, and isn't on FB much, so we email every few months. I miss the closeness, but honestly, we are just in different places in our lives right now. Both moms and main breadwinners . . . but you know, different ways of doing things, different interests and priorities.

 

Gabe's party is Saturday! I am not ready. oh well.

post #40 of 254
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Yes, I hear you.   I'm actually really glad that my Nora rotated as well.  She was posterior.  11 hours into active labor, at 8 cm, I was stuck and nothing was happening but a lot of pain. My water had already broken and man.  I was done.  My mw had me lay on my side and blow thru ctx for about an hour.  It was excruciating!!!  All of a sudden I just felt "something happening" and Nora rotated into anterior and boom - I was 10 and pushing within a few min.  thank goodness, you know?  If she hadn't turned, I probably would have been a transfer that snowballed into a section.

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