I think it really helps to bring up issues like counseling and stuff in place of calm - not in the heat of an arguement, if it can be helped. Maybe on a date night? though that might kill the mood. But if you are going to get to a place where you communicate better, you need to do something. Hugs, I know it must be tough.
If anything, I'm guilty of not communicating enough, because I have a feeling what I want to say would be hurtful, even if it's true. yesterday dh was grumpy, and I called him out on it (not that he's not entitled to his feelings, but when he's grumpy, he isolates himself from me and the kids, which isn't fair to any of us) and all it does is make him grumpier. When I'm in a bad mood, I can't afford to do that - someone has to respond to the kids and be present. He was grumpy because he took Gabe to a paint your own pottery place, and Gabe, upon arrival, was incredibly unhappy and just wanted to come back home. I mean, that stuff happens. And Gabe was tired and maybe not feeling well, who knows. So DH was in a funk the rest of the day. Gabe fell asleep before dinner around 6, woke briefly to have diaper changed around 8, and stayed asleep until 5:30. . . .I don't know. but I think DH is a little happier today. I hope so. I don't like having to walk on eggshells around people.
Carrie: hooray on sleep!
I need to read up on stuff. And I want to try to inject some more structure to our day, I think we all could benefit from it. Not exactly a schedule, but I'd like to have more of a routine than we currently do.
Funny from my mom (who has been watching supernanny) - she thinks that I'm just incredibly lucky to have kids that transitioned from co-sleeping to sleeping in their own beds and rooms so well. I don't know, is it luck? I'd like to think that how we transitioned them to their own beds is a big part of it. They never feel cut off from us or separated - everyone is always welcome in any bed. We never have told Gabe he can't come in our bed anymore. We just gave him his own bed, in his own space. He chose to stay there and have us come to him. So, IDK if it's luck, or what. but I'm grateful either way.