Hi all, I'm new here. Forgive me for not doing a formal intro but I'm kind of in need of answers. I've never come across anyone who was in a similar situation so I'm confused as to the next step to take.
We have been bedsharing since day one. I stay with her for her nap (around 2 hours!) and bed time. I've tried leaving at different times in her sleep cycle to no avail. She always wakes up. I want her to get her sleep so I have been putting off "sleep training" and now it's getting down to the wire and it needs to be done.
I am returning to work in January and will be working evenings. My husband will have to put our 16 month old daughter (18 months then) to sleep by herself. So we kind of have to get her in her crib. She will also have a sitter one night a week, so again, needs to be in her crib for that reason. And after 16 months of absolutely no me time, that might be a little nice too :) Being in bed at 7pm isn't fun.
I nurse to sleep (and back to sleep, she rolls over frequently during the night) but at this point it is purely comfort nursing so I really need to figure out how to stop that as well and get her sleeping in her crib.
I don't want to do CIO. I tried one day of the baby whisperer back when she was 10 months. I was in the room the entire time and she lost her mind. I suppose me being in the room not nursing could have been the reason and maybe it would have worked had I kept up with it. She never napped all day and I eventually gave up that night since she screamed and cried so much that she was hoarse...and didn't calm down for hours. She gets worked up and then it's even harder for her to go back to sleep.
I think she is just a stubborn little girl and knows what she wants. And now that she is a toddler, I know it's going to be that much harder. :(
Any tips or personal accounts you could give me, would be appreciated.
I have a few questions in addition to asking for your miracle cure ;)
1) Should we stop nursing to sleep first and if so how?
2) or should we just do it all at once?
3) She has never slept in her crib. Only a double bed on the floor with me. Should we leave the crib as is, turn it into a toddler bed or leave the double bed?
Thanks so much for all your help.