My son's teacher pulled me aside when I went to pick him up on Friday and told me that she wanted to talk with me--that it was something good. She said something like, "I was talking with another teacher about [your fourth-grader] and she said that maybe he would do better in a school with more resources for gifted children."
Apparently my son is having some behavioral issues about which we weren't entirely up to date. This is the second year with this teacher (the school has looping) and I think some of these issues might have been present last year. On the other hand, we're in the middle of getting divorced, and as mellow as we've tried to make this on our precious only child, it's very stressful for him.
I do not know whether the teacher realizes that, as a public school teacher, it is really not OK for her to tell a parent that the school doesn't have resources to teach her child. I don't think she fully explored the implications of what she was saying. (I, on the other hand, had them explode in my fool head immediately!) We all really like this school for a lot of reasons, though it's not a perfect environment. Obviously.
OK. Here's my question. This has always been my worry about having a child labeled gifted, and why I've been hesitant to do that with him for so long. I guess it happened without me doing much about it.
He's really good at math and he's got some other obvious intellectual gifts, but he's not an especially strong reader. He improved his reading after a long struggle, and I've been very proud of his persistence and cleverness coming up with methods of scaffolding, himself. (He took recorded books out of the library and read the texts while listening to the recordings, "for fun." What a guy.) Now his teacher wants him to read easier books so he can write and talk about them more easily--even though his reading level comes out higher on standardized tests.
Even though he was like, five or six grade levels ahead on math, he's still not doing that well with language arts.
He has huge anxiety around writing, and apparently his classroom behavior has deteriorated. He's not disruptive, I don't think, just kind of spacey and not as consistently polite and respectful to his fellow-humans as in past years. He has also tried to get out of work he finds boring or anxiety-provoking, especially homework. (he also absolutely sucks at Hebrew--he goes to Hebrew school two afternoons a week, and can barely remember the letters after five years.)
What do I need to do here? I can't homeschool him in this divorce situation. I emailed my STBX and I think we're going to try to meet together with the teacher. Do I press for a neuro-psych eval to find out if there is an LD? Send the kid to a therapist to cope with the stress of the divorce? (Gotta get logistical buy-in from dad for that, so haven't acted on it.) Ask my parents for money to send him to a private school for gifted kids? Urgh. What are some actions you do or don't advocate, and what things do I need to keep in mind?