That night, we tried numerous times, but it made her crazy! She screamed until she was hoarse, she pulled back.. She'd lightly suck once or twice, but she hasn't latched since we were in the hospital. Yesterday, we gave her formula feedings because shed screamed for hours off and on and my attempts to get her to latch were completely futile and just made her mad.
This morning, I pumped for about 20 mins. My milk is starting to come in, so I tried to put her on afterward and I put milk on my nipple and her lips. A couple sucks then but hysterical screaming and pushing away AGAIN!
I want to BF because its better for her, but I am so tempted to say fuck it. This kid wont let me hold her more than a few minutes w/o staring to root and then crying hysterically. My partner gave birth to our 3 year olds, and they were never able to latch. We tried a couple LCs and they were no help. My partner ended up pumping for a year and we supplemented nearly half of what they ate with formula and they turned out ok. Mind you, I don't have the patience or stamina for a year of pumping.
I know she can do it, but how do I get her to persevere and not get frustrated? The longer I make her wait w/o eating, the harder it is to get her to latch w/o freaking out. But if I feed her formula, she's getting used to the quick fix. What am I supposed to do??