Thinking about leaving my husband and doing this on my own- need help - Page 2 « Back to Group Discussions

[SweetMama34]

I just wanted to come in and offer my support. Good for you for giving yourself space and safety. I've had to leave a relationship before that I really, really didn't want to walk away from, but knew I had to. While it was amazingly difficult and painful, it proved to be the best move I've ever made. My life is so different now - so full and rich and SAFE - I wish I could hold every woman's hand as she navigates similar waters and just SHOW her how strong she is, how much better things can be.

Keep on keeping on....you're doing well.

[JNajla]

Thank you for the kind words of support and advice.  I stayed at the motel for a week and didn't communicate with him, which sent a very strong message.  At first he thought that I was trying to play games with him, but then he realized that I really wouldn't come back if things continued the way that they have been, that I'm not afraid to leave everything behind and start my life over WITHOUT him.  He has admitted wrong doing and agreed to individual and couples therapy.  I wrote up, presented, and made him sign a contract agreeing on what he can/cannot do (no yelling, fighting, acting irrational)- sounds crazy, I know.  So, I'm temporarily back in my home and so far, he has been nothing but pleasant and cooperative.  I have an 'emergency plan', bag packed in my trunk and extra clothes/ toiletries in my locker at my gym and a friend on standby so I will leave again if anything should happen.  I don't feel stressed and have felt good the past 2 weeks and have been sleeping at night.  Thank you again for your kind words and wisdom. 
 

[circle vortex]

That sounds great! I am glad he is will to get help. Hope it remains positive. 

[Sweet Huck]

JNajla, you are a rock star. : )