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[lolliegee]

We haven't told anyone yet, so I'm loving that I can come on here and talk pregnancy talk. It seems it's all my brain is filled with right now, so makes it hard to have a normal conversation with someone. Especially, when they ask what's new!

We know our older kids (almost 22,16 and 11) are going to be very unhappy with the news. Particularly the 16 year old. So, we're trying to address some of the things that they will be concerned about now, before telling them. Our hope is that I don't start having obvious pregnancy symptoms before we're ready. I was nauseous for most of the evening last night. DH is so worried that it'll become obvious before we're ready. Anyone else in a similar boat?

Oh, just have to share...we had a special adults only dinner with my siblings and their partners the other night. One of my sisters and her husband we haven't been able to see very much lately for various reasons. My BIL was being funny and asking all these silly questions to catch up with us. I about spit my drink out when everyone asked if we still had the same number of kids! My DH and I also had an elaborate plan worked out for the wine we knew was going to be served. We made sure we had matching glasses and when he had drank most of his, we swapped them when no one was looking. No suspicions raised. However, one of my sisters who had brought this great dessert with ice cream and this raspberry compote, announced after serving them that they had schnapps in them. Shortly after, my hubby went into the kitchen and I jumped up on the pretense of getting a napkin and swapped with him again. Fortunately, he had eaten most of his. Then he just finished mine off and I only took a couple small bites.

Man, I will be glad when the news is out and I don't have to be sneaky about things!

[itsnae]

We announced yesterday! Finished telling everyone we wanted to tell and therefore posted the announcement on Facebook. There was already a "leak" so we had to tell everyone soon before more people found out not from us. I have a lot of joy now that people know! So fun!

[talldarkeyes]

We told our families and everyone else on facebook on the day we found out, 4 weeks and 1 day, so just about everyone knows now. Having miscarried so many times I realized that it is so helpful to have people praying for you and hoping for the best. People have been so kind and helpful and I am so glad that I have told everyone so soon. I think it will be easier if I do miscarry because the support is already there and I don't have to try to recall who I did/didn't tell. I had an experience with one of my miscarriages where a woman who knew about my pregnancy early on approached me at a social function a few weeks after the miscarriage and started asking about the pregnancy etc. and I just started bawling. She hadn't known that it had ended because I had forgotten to tell her. It made for a rather difficult evening.
 

[InLove2009]

I tested at work, so my boss and one of my coworkers knows. We told my husband's parents and his sister and her family. We are ready to make the big announcement on facebook, but my parents are on vacation until this weekend in Turkey, and I can't get a hold of them! I really want to tell them before we tell everyone else. This will be their first Grandbaby :)

There is also a couple of friends I would like to tell in person before we put it on Facebook. However, I am not sure how they will react. My husband and I are the only ones married out of our group of friends, so having a baby is far from their minds!  

[heyitskalista]

I'm really struggling with this. We lost our last baby at 13 weeks. On the one hand, having people know was great because we had so much support. On the other hand, it was awfully awkward for me.

I think after a good ultrasound, I will feel more cfortable telling.

[dayiscoming2006]

I had an early loss (4.5 weeks) in September. A week after telling everyone. I decided to wait a little before telling this time. I told my best friend and other good friend right away. I told my parents and sister around 5 weeks and after the tests got really dark. Last time, my tests never ended up getting beyond a light-med shade and then faded away. My hubby told his parents as well. 

I'm thinking to wait until 8 weeks to spill the news on facebook. That's usually when doctors will schedule a first appointment because you enter the next stage and are less likely to miscarry beyond that point from what I read. Your still not out of the woods, but I figure good enough. This is the longest I've waited to share the news with everyone. 

[StartingAllOver]

We haven't told anyone yet. It is hard not to, but between the difficulty of telling the older kids (likely not to be happy) and the fact that it is still early (6.5 weeks) we are waiting til closer to the 2nd trimester.

I am already starting to "show" most likely because this is my 4th pregnancy and all the muscles are relaxing super fast. It makes me wonder if I can keep things under wraps for another 6 weeks! The hardest part of not telling is going through the nausea and fatigue without being able to explain to the kids why I need to rest and be left alone for a bit. 
Then there is the whole alcohol side of things. If I truly drink nothing at Thanksgiving, my mother and brother will likely figure it out. I am going to have to sip at a small glass of wine to throw them off the track. 

[Kristen B]

Originally Posted by heyitskalista 

I'm really struggling with this. We lost our last baby at 13 weeks. On the one hand, having people know was great because we had so much support. On the other hand, it was awfully awkward for me.
I think after a good ultrasound, I will feel more cfortable telling.

I am in the exact same boat. Lost a baby at 13 weeks after a good ultrasound with strong heartbeat, etc.  So it's really hard to know what to do. This is such an uncomfortable time. I don't think I'll be comfortable until about 25 weeks though and I know I can't wait that long!

[MonkeyPrincess]

My work was affected by my needing to go to appointments for the IVF so in order to not look unprofessional, I explained the reason to my clients. Then because some people knew and maybe not others, I wanted to avoid whisper down the lane, so I posted it on facebook. That way, people could ask me questions if they had any, without feeling like they weren't sure if they should know etc. I announced I was doing a surrogacy and asked for prayers and good thoughts before the transfer. Then of course, I was getting texts and emails and calls to see how things were going, so I announced on facebook by posting the results of a digital pregnancy test. I waited until we had a nice strong beta number. I announced the twins, too. I am usually pretty private, so that's probably the last I'll be posting about it until the babies are born.

[lolliegee]

Originally Posted by StartingAllOver 

We haven't told anyone yet. It is hard not to, but between the difficulty of telling the older kids (likely not to be happy) and the fact that it is still early (6.5 weeks) we are waiting til closer to the 2nd trimester.


I am already starting to "show" most likely because this is my 4th pregnancy and all the muscles are relaxing super fast. It makes me wonder if I can keep things under wraps for another 6 weeks! The hardest part of not telling is going through the nausea and fatigue without being able to explain to the kids why I need to rest and be left alone for a bit. 

Then there is the whole alcohol side of things. If I truly drink nothing at Thanksgiving, my mother and brother will likely figure it out. I am going to have to sip at a small glass of wine to throw them off the track. 

You sound a lot like me. Older kids that won't be happy, having to hide the fact you're not having alcohol. I did take a couple small sips the other day to help hide it. This is the longest we've gone without telling anyone. I'm feeling very fortunate that my symptoms so far are pretty mild. This is my 6th and if I wasn't a fluffy mom to begin with, I'd probably be showing a little too. One of the few times, my extra weight is a help. Although, if it's twins, I'm sure things will start becoming more obvious sooner rather than later.

[CountryMommy]

We've told a few close friends but not everyone yet. We waited until I was 12 weeks along before telling everyone with our first 2 kids so we will probably do the same this time.

[Angierae]

We've told our children and closest friends. I'm holding off telling the world because I feel like I have to tell my parents first. And I HATE telling my parents. They always react badly, and I don't feeling letting them get me down. But I should probably just get it over with, so I can enjoy the excitement and support I will get from all of our wonderful friends!

[yallcomeback]

A few of my friends know, I've told all my HCPs, chiro, ND, massage therapist...
We weren't planning on telling family yet but the other night I pulled a muscle really bad in my pelvis and wasnt sure what it was at first. So I called my grandma to tell her we might be heading to the hospital and of course most of the rest of my family was there at the time so they all found out. My mom told us congratulations but my dad and siblings haven't called or anything :/
It's definitely different the third time around, than the first or even the second. Not such a big deal to everyone I guess!

[Monkey pants]

I'm 5 weeks 3 days. I'm keeping mum as long as possible. I had a 11 week miscarriage several years ago. This will be child # 3.

[ashleybrook]

we had a 12 week miscarriage and a 5 week miscarriage...but we still told our closest peeps right away. we are so excited, and it's truly all i want to talk about :) even though i do hold other conversations! :) but when we miscarried at 12 weeks i truly was glad we had all the support and can't imagine going through that and having to put on a happy face or not sharing that pain with those i love. i needed those long, comforting hugs.

that being said-- i've told those most important to me...and not employees or acquaintances...but word spreads. :)

[SunnyMuffin]

Have told no one, have no desire to yet.  This was really unplanned, I'd like to wait until after my first appt and after I get a dating scan

[LolaWynn]

We haven't told anyone yet, either. My husband had to tell one person at work to be able to attend our first appt. with the midwife. I have another appointment on December 3, and if we can hear a heartbeat then (at about 10 weeks) then we will probably tell close friends/family. Everyone will know by Christmas, since I won't be drinking at all.

[InLove2009]

We are going to announce it to everyone on facebook thanksgiving day I have a really hard time keeping the news to myself

[dayiscoming2006]

Originally Posted by InLove2009 

We are going to announce it to everyone on facebook thanksgiving day I have a really hard time keeping the news to myself

That's a great idea. 

[lolliegee]

I get to announce to my La Leche League chapter meeting tomorrow (I'm a leader applicant), although they'll be told to keep it quiet. I'm excited because I know they'll be supportive. Sadly, it's my family right now who are likely to be judgemental (my siblings) and unhappy (my older kids). I don't like waiting, I want to share this thing that is so all consuming to be right now. Don't know how I'll hide the no alcohol again on Thanksgiving. My hubby and I are going out this weekend, maybe I can convince him it's time.