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Is this hurtful? I have been exhausted which leads to getting really annoyed and than I just...

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My son shares our bed which is something that works for us and we all get the best sleep.

Well a week ago my son got burns on his palms of hands and they've been painful to him. So he's been nursing around the clock on demand. With each day the pain is less and I'm so gentle and understanding of his higher needs right now.

In the last few days, he wakes up and I say "mama asleep" or "go to sleep" in a firm tone not yelling but just a firm voice. Before I say it firm I gently explain that I'm so sleepy and please go to sleep. Usually I nurse a little and than say we have to go to sleep now.

Sometimes he just cries this awful loud shrieking cry and sometimes he is really quiet. He goes to sleep though. NOT cry it out. He just falls asleep not crying and next to me.

During the day sometimes he starts to drive me crazy bc my usually never whiney always happy baby will get so fussy and I can't figure out why. So I say "what's the matter?" But in a tone where I'm gentle but kind of wound up. He dives into me and nurses.

I don't know what I've started but I don't know if its ok or not. I know I'm not hurting him and I still talk about feelings and meet his needs, but I am with him for 24/7 and sometime I feel like I could crack. Especially now that he is always nursing and so clingy. I am not looking to wean and I understand that during illness or injury his behavior is normal.

Is my response ok?

If now what should I do? How do I cope!? I cannot leave him and I don't have a baby sitter. It's only me and my husband works long hours.

I just wonder how to handle what's going on now. Thank you.
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Sounds to me like you're doing great mama! I'm sorry your little one got burned. My DD does the same night feeding in bed thing. I just feed her for a few and unlatch and roll over. She has learned that me rolling over is her clue to go back to sleep. Most of the time it works. I guess I'm lucky in that sense? I would try not to over think things and just go with your gut feeling and what is right in your heart! That always seems to work for me. Good luck mama!

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Yea, mama, you're doing great! Sometimes the best thing do try is just to get through a clingy patch and it sounds like that is a good solution for you. If you find that that ends up being a little too passive and you need a change to happen quicker, there are some things to try but, honestly, sometimes I think even when we're super proactive it's still "time" that fixes the problem. I hope things get better soon, mama! 

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