Will You Find Out Your Baby's Sex?
We knew ahead of time with our first (boy) because we did IVF with array cgh testing. So we know the gender of the embryos before they transfer them. This time we know also and it's a girl. We could have let it be a surprise, but we're just too darn curious. We didn't even wait for an ultrasound later in pregnancy. The RE asked us if we wanted to know and we said yes right away.
I love finding out as soon as possible! It's a huge surprise either way to me - and honestly, the moment of birth is so huge and momentous anyhow, that I can't imagine adding a surprise gender would make it much sweeter (for me). I love celebrating the gender around 20 weeks, being able to plan and shop and name the baby ahead of time. It really seems to help me bond once I can name my baby and really visualize who is growing in there!
I can NOT wait for that this time! I'm another mama with two boys....not necessarily hoping for a girl...I adore my little boys and would love another, but super curious as to who is hiding out in here nonetheless!
With my first, even before we found out the sex, we had a boy name picked, but couldn't for the life of us, agree on a girls name. This time it's the opposite!! We have agreed on a girls name and can't find a boys name. So I just keep thinking we are having a girl. But i would be happy with a boy too! I honestly can't wait!
My husband is the exact opposite. He's lobbying for finding out early. I'm a little charmed at the idea of finding out on the big day, since this is our first. But my husband is absolutely convinced that we're having a girl, so he's like, "What's the point in waiting?" :)
(I, myself, have zero intuition as to what this little babe will be! I've been blessed by a relatively easy (i.e. no morning sickness) 11 weeks thus far, so I don't feel like I have anything to pin "boy/girl" on thus far.)
This will be our first and we are choosing to keep it a surprise. We plan to do a US at about 20 weeks to make sure everything is going good but we will firmly instruct our tech not to hint anything. I can't imagine a bigger surprise in life!
I'm on the fence on this one.
We didn't find out with my daughter, and I was convinced it was a boy (for logical, not intuitive reasons). My main motivation for not finding out was that it seemed to be thwarting the natural order of things. Also, we didn't want people giving us a bunch of pink or blue stuff if we knew the sex. But in retrospect, I think it would have helped my early bonding if I had known ahead of time. (I had PPD and a hard time bonding.)
Hmm. I'm kind of talking myself into finding out this time. But then I'll have to give up my fun search for my favorite names of whichever sex the baby isn't, and I'm really enjoying it!
My daughter, who doesn't officially know that I'm pregnant, was laying near my belly the other day and said, "you have a little girl in your belly." It was startling and fascinating!
Today we were getting in the car after playing at the park, and she started telling me (not in English) how she is going to have a sister and how her sister will be "coming up" soon. I just listened, didn't want to sway her. I think, though, all these thoughts might be her picking up on my thoughts and my occasional conversations about being pregnant (I'm careful not to mention babies and she doesn't really know what "pregnant" means, but she probably sort of knows.) Or maybe it's her intuition coming out! Fun and lovely!
We found out! Maybe my daughter was onto something--it is a girl! The night before I read the result, I dreamt that I was looking at the results and it said (in our home language): pink kitty cat. After that, I woke up feeling unshakably certain it was a girl. My husband felt the same. And it is. We are so thankful--this is what I was hoping for!