First U/S - Page 2
here we are: if you have thyroid issues, you could be considered high risk based on that. You should be OK if it is well taken care of. I would want an ultrasound if I was in your situation. Pregnancy isn't always fun, so you may have to just do what you gotta do. But, it is ultimately your decision. It would be nice to have a good handle on your dates and if they think you could be further along then you should find out for sure either way in my opinion, just so they have your EDD set the right way. Sorry you have to go through all that trouble.
Coming back b/c i am having trouble processing what happened at my ultrasound. Unfortunately i am feeling violated and want to let it out! I was in so much pain from needing to pee and having to drink all that water, which was definetly like 4x too much for my petite bladder , so i couldnt think a straight thought once i arrived. I could barely get on the ultrasound table, she had to remind me to straighten my hips. All i wanted was for it to done, and to never have had to do it. The woman doing it asked me if i wanted to look at the screen, i said no , i just want to pee, she pushed a couple times saying it would be my last chance for a while and so on. Then she wanted me to walk down the hall to pee, b/c the bathroom didnt have the pee window for samples, by that time i was like NO, i am not walking again. It hurt so bad on the way there with my car shaking. Then the Dr asked me if i felt better after "seeing the baby" which i didnt see. I explained i was glad i hadnt been pregnant the month before and he said they shouldnt have told me that and he was sorry. We talked thru some other confusing issues about my thyroid, but i was too upset and sore and wet in my pants from leaking (TMI ?) and all of a sudden hungry to ask why this had been necessary. He seemed to notice i wasnt feeling very open , and continued to ask about how i felt about being ready for a baby and how involved the father is,and what are his feelings..this all annoyed me more. I thought the ultrasound was important in terms of my thyroid and making sure the dating helped me aim for javing the correct dosage for my med. The nurse said it was so i could recieve "appropriate" care, i didnt want to recieve inapproprirate care. Almost out of battery uh oh.
here we are--so sorry you went through this and felt it was so traumatic. you absolutely have the right to say no to tests and ultrasounds that you don't feel comfortable with. there is a book i'd like to recommend to you to figure out what is appropriate care for you--it's called gentle birth, gentle mothering. written by dr. sarah buckley. she doesn't say what you should do, but gives you things to consider on topics such as ultrasound. and a lot of standard tests. she also has an interesting perspective as a doctor who has had many homebirths herself. i personally haven't had an ultrasound because there is debate over their safety...and i haven't been in an emergency situation that i felt it would help out. everyone needs to make their own decision...so i recommend doing some research to find out what you think! anyways, i know you can find peace with the past if you use your experience to help you decide what you want in the future. much love and blessings as you process your experience.
I hope you are able to get some clarity soon. Try to calm down. Getting really upset over the small things isn't going to help you or your baby. If you would feel safer with another provider, go that route.
here we are-- i think people have all different ways to handle these situations. some completely trust what the doctor/technician says and follows them without thinking. others use the doctor/technician as a source and do a lot of other research on the side...and then there are many variations of those...and those who do not use doctors/technicians at all. i don't think there is a right way for everyone...but i do think it's up to us to find the way that we are most comfortable with...the way that we think best supports a healthy us and a healthy family.
i think the worst thing we can do to ourselves is act like a group we are not-- for example for one who likes to be completely without the use of doctors/technicians to blindly follow them--it would go too much against spirit and cause the most heartache. and vice versa--if you are someone who feels good in a doctor/patient relationship where the doctor leads...then do this!
i personally like to leave technology out of it as much as possible when it comes to health and pregnancy/birth...but this is just me. i also like look to a midwife/doctor there as for extra support...and not the one who knows all and tells me all i need to know. i think and act as if my health is up to me--because i think it is to a great extent. i too have had miscarriages and realize we don't control everything. i also feel like i know my body really well...and have a good idea of what it needs--and when i need to ask for input. find what works best for you and as the other ladies said...focus on what brings you peace. this will be your best support and your guiding light, in my opinion. i hope you have found my input helpful...as that is how i wish it.
I just scheduled my first US for next week! I am so excited! I can't wait to hear the heart beat! And then I will know if there are twins in there or not. When I told my mom she pointed out that they run in our family, and DH looked quite shocked. I guess he didn't really believe me when I said there is a chance.... :)
I just scheduled my first US for next week! I am so excited! I can't wait to hear the heart beat! And then I will know if there are twins in there or not. When I told my mom she pointed out that they run in our family, and DH looked quite shocked. I guess he didn't really believe me when I said there is a chance....
How exciting! When and how far along will you be?