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post #21 of 66
11/15/12 at 5:13pm
Thread Starter 
Have you posted on the pregnancy boards with a title like "pregnancy with...(whatever illness you have)"? You can even google it and see what you come up with. If your endo said that your pregnancy would be dangerous you probably should be seeing a high risk OB. I find it either encouraging that your OB seems to not be over reacting because I find many do overreact and end up stressing mom out unnecessarily OR he just doesn't have experience with people with your health issues. I would see what his track record is regarding that.

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post #22 of 66
11/15/12 at 6:00pm
I meant it i could know about sucess for mothers WITHOUT meds. And Whoa to the chart, double whoa. I am right up there, on that chart. Now since i am all about researching, it makes me think why is this chart more reliable than others. Researching everything is driving me a bit nuts, because "it may not be a trusted source". What is a trusted source? So, the chart was saying DPO, should i just guess from Oct18 ? Did my bloodwork day25 then, which tgee isnt a number for. But my guess is my # would be almost the highest! And then it says from day of conception, can it be the same as DPO? That one , there was such a difference between the 4wk & 1-2month, i think might be right on the line of that with my 2nd#..I am seeing the potential for twins. I am more concerned about doing the ultrasound asap but sill dont know what to do about meds. I want to go to my ultrasound tomorrow now, in case i hve twins. Hopefully, the Dr will have more of a stronger opinion about meds then. If there was no doubt about the meds, i would be less worried in a way. Now, can i say in my worried state, that everyday counts and i dont want those risks happening x 2. Will my thyroid be doubly challenged with twins? And, b/c the man Dr said i could take the med whenever like at night, i did for two days then the woman Dr said no only in the morning, so i called the pharmacist that night before taking it and she said morning. She said skip that night and start next morning. She said it can disturb sleep, and i have been so worried about what to do, staying up. When i researched on a website it said new study shows night is better greensad.gif , because no food can disturb it absorbing for longer and maybe some other reasons & that everyone (or maybe almost everyone) in the study absorbed better that way. I dont know, i don't have a very scientific brain. I do know everyone matters and we're all different and at the same time the same. I don't want to ask WWYD, but now i worry maybe i have twins that need more med. I will ask the nice pharmacist.
post #23 of 66
11/15/12 at 6:24pm

here we are: I guess if you can go in for an ultrasound, do that. And express your concerns to your care provider and see what they say.

post #24 of 66
11/16/12 at 7:48am
I now know i wont need my med increase for at least one month no matter what. Do i need to have an ultrasound just for dating? If it is twins, it wont affect my med. Could something be wrong b/c of my hcg numbers & they just arent saying it? Do people with higher numbers get recommended ultrasounds earlier? Sounds like they think i may be as much as 12wk, instead of 5 or 6, just as a possibility, but i dont think so. I just dont want an ultra sound now. She said there was a chance they might not be able to see the baby, do they mean it might be a molar or something? Is vaginal ultrasound really that much better to see? I dont want one. I have endometriosis and pentration hurts me, pregnancy is supposed to change that but i dont know when it will kick in. If i tell them i dont want it, will they give me a good reason to need it if important or just let me decide? The abdominal one i am supposed to drink 32oz of water during my ride there with my wobbly car and then not go pee until after, and i know thats going to hurt too. Dont know if i can just forget this. This is why i didnt want anyone to know i am pregnant yet, making me paranoid something is wrong. I have my med, why do i need to get an ultrasound and why do i need another appointment already? Because of my thyroid? I am tired of researching. How do i know if i am high risk?
post #25 of 66
11/16/12 at 8:27am

here we are: if you have thyroid issues, you could be considered high risk based on that. You should be OK if it is well taken care of. I would want an ultrasound if I was in your situation. Pregnancy isn't always fun, so you may have to just do what you gotta do. But, it is ultimately your decision. It would be nice to have a good handle on your dates and if they think you could be further along then you should find out for sure either way in my opinion, just so they have your EDD set the right way. Sorry you have to go through all that trouble.

post #26 of 66
11/16/12 at 9:38am
Thank you Dayiscoming for your support and reassurance.
post #27 of 66
11/18/12 at 9:40pm
Just coming back, thinking about how i dont want to get the ultrasound this week..and wondering what will happen or what i wont be aware of if i did decide to cancel..What is pulsating that TallDarkaEyes mentioned? Just pushing the vaginal probe. I am so upset about it, i remember getting this vaginal probe ultrasound once and then had a misscarriage.I always kind of thought it was connected b/c they pushed so hard, i felt like they disconnected the baby. I am afraid. I am just so stressed ever since going to the Dr and sharing the news, feeling like everyone is on the lookout for problems but not wanting to upset me and maybe not explaining why i need what. It doesnt help that the two providers i have seem to be conflicting, and they are both new to me. I started a thyroid thread as someone suggested, thank you. I guess i will post there to see if my issues might be specific to that.
post #28 of 66
11/19/12 at 4:33am

I would explain your concerns with the ultrasound to whoever is going to give it to you. Hopefully, they will be as gentle as possible based on your concerns. 

post #29 of 66
11/19/12 at 5:59am
Thread Starter 
The pulsating is actually sending the ultrasound waves at the baby which accounted for very little of the actual procedure. Most of the time the screen was frozen and they were measuring. My point is that it wasn't constant. I have also had 3 miscarriages and none of them had an ultrasound. Like Dayiscoming said, discuss your fears with the u/s tech prior to having it done. If they are using low resolution doppler, which they will, there should be no issue with harming the fetus.
post #30 of 66
11/22/12 at 4:50pm
Coming back b/c i am having trouble processing what happened at my ultrasound. Unfortunately i am feeling violated and want to let it out! I was in so much pain from needing to pee and having to drink all that water, which was definetly like 4x too much for my petite bladder , so i couldnt think a straight thought once i arrived. I could barely get on the ultrasound table, she had to remind me to straighten my hips. All i wanted was for it to done, and to never have had to do it. The woman doing it asked me if i wanted to look at the screen, i said no , i just want to pee, she pushed a couple times saying it would be my last chance for a while and so on. Then she wanted me to walk down the hall to pee, b/c the bathroom didnt have the pee window for samples, by that time i was like NO, i am not walking again. It hurt so bad on the way there with my car shaking. Then the Dr asked me if i felt better after "seeing the baby" which i didnt see. I explained i was glad i hadnt been pregnant the month before and he said they shouldnt have told me that and he was sorry. We talked thru some other confusing issues about my thyroid, but i was too upset and sore and wet in my pants from leaking (TMI ?) and all of a sudden hungry to ask why this had been necessary. He seemed to notice i wasnt feeling very open , and continued to ask about how i felt about being ready for a baby and how involved the father is,and what are his feelings..this all annoyed me more. I thought the ultrasound was important in terms of my thyroid and making sure the dating helped me aim for javing the correct dosage for my med. The nurse said it was so i could recieve "appropriate" care, i didnt want to recieve inapproprirate care. Almost out of battery uh oh.
post #31 of 66
11/23/12 at 12:45pm
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Originally Posted by here we are View Post

Coming back b/c i am having trouble processing what happened at my ultrasound. Unfortunately i am feeling violated and want to let it out! I was in so much pain from needing to pee and having to drink all that water, which was definetly like 4x too much for my petite bladder , so i couldnt think a straight thought once i arrived. I could barely get on the ultrasound table, she had to remind me to straighten my hips. All i wanted was for it to done, and to never have had to do it. The woman doing it asked me if i wanted to look at the screen, i said no , i just want to pee, she pushed a couple times saying it would be my last chance for a while and so on. Then she wanted me to walk down the hall to pee, b/c the bathroom didnt have the pee window for samples, by that time i was like NO, i am not walking again. It hurt so bad on the way there with my car shaking. Then the Dr asked me if i felt better after "seeing the baby" which i didnt see. I explained i was glad i hadnt been pregnant the month before and he said they shouldnt have told me that and he was sorry. We talked thru some other confusing issues about my thyroid, but i was too upset and sore and wet in my pants from leaking (TMI ?) and all of a sudden hungry to ask why this had been necessary. He seemed to notice i wasnt feeling very open , and continued to ask about how i felt about being ready for a baby and how involved the father is,and what are his feelings..this all annoyed me more. I thought the ultrasound was important in terms of my thyroid and making sure the dating helped me aim for javing the correct dosage for my med. The nurse said it was so i could recieve "appropriate" care, i didnt want to recieve inapproprirate care. Almost out of battery uh oh.

here we are--so sorry you went through this and felt it was so traumatic. you absolutely have the right to say no to tests and ultrasounds that you don't feel comfortable with. there is a book i'd like to recommend to you to figure out what is appropriate care for you--it's called gentle birth, gentle mothering. written by dr. sarah buckley. she doesn't say what you should do, but gives you things to consider on topics such as ultrasound. and a lot of standard tests. she also has an interesting perspective as a doctor who has had many homebirths herself. i personally haven't had an ultrasound because there is debate over their safety...and i haven't been in an emergency situation that i felt it would help out. everyone needs to make their own decision...so i recommend doing some research to find out what you think! anyways, i know you can find peace with the past if you use your experience to help you decide what you want in the future. much love and blessings as you process your experience.

post #32 of 66
11/25/12 at 9:04am
Thank you ashleybrook, i hope to get this book soon. And i am working very hard on finding peace with the past and what already happened with the ultrasound. Now i want to know all the details of the risks, even though it will be hard.to hear since i cant change it. Unless there is someway to change it, or at least not wanting to believe thoses risks will happen to me and the baby. I dont want to upset anyone by bringing up the risks. And.i dont understand, WHY did my health care provider not tell me about this?? Is that.not their job, to inform me? I hope i can find answers as to why this was necessary, but.i.beieve it is partly a mistake. When the nurse said it was my choice, i felt like she was frustrated with my hesitation to "decide". I didnt understand if it was a choice or not, because i felt she was recommending it yet not explaining why, and that made me feel something was wrong. The more i panicked, the more she seemed to realize she was suggesting upseting things. Like saying i could possibly be pregnant the month before i was, so i wanted time to think about if that was a tru possibility, meanwhile remembering the painkillers i took. And she was probably pushing for the conversation to be done or to book me an app. Later i called the emergency after hours # to an endocrinologist trying to find out if and when my med would be increased if i were further along or having twins. Then i felt more like the hormonal pregnant person going a little crazy, but i felt no one was answering my questions so i could understand what needed to happen and why..the receptionist called my providers and came back saying we would.go from after my ultrasound, which i hadnt scheduled yet, making me further think it was necessary...was it necessary? Maybe...just thinking to myself. If i could only understand it all. And why would the ultrasound person offer to me to look and hace it take even longer, isnt that adding to the risk? Again, i.dont mean to sound alarmist. I wonder how others deal in their minds about this kind of stuff. Do we just hope for the best no matter what? Focus on the positive?
post #33 of 66
11/25/12 at 10:36am
Thread Starter 
Why wouldn't you want to look at your baby? What risk? The ultrasound isn't going to cause you to miscarry. I have had three miscarriages and NEVER had an ultrasound before them so I have no idea where you are coming from. I have also yet to see any compelling "research" that there is a risk in a couple minute doppler ultrasound. In a one hour ultra high resolution ultrasound, maybe. In the future if i were you I would ask your Providers, flat out, what are the risks of this procedure? You cannot expect anyone to tell you something when you don't ask. Yeah, they probably should anyway, but I am sure that many of them probably assume that you are okay with it because you aren't asking.

I hope you are able to get some clarity soon. Try to calm down. Getting really upset over the small things isn't going to help you or your baby. If you would feel safer with another provider, go that route.
post #34 of 66
11/25/12 at 12:08pm
I agree with everything talldarkeyes said. You have to take contr of your care.

Breathe, mama! There are a ton of things that you can get worked up over, if you let your mind to there. It's not worth it though!
Just relax and enjoy the ride! smile.gif
post #35 of 66
11/25/12 at 12:25pm
Just wanted to chime in on u/s. I know people have some issues with it, but being high risk, I have had to have multiple ones with all my pregnancies. I have had five pregnancies (not counting this one), with multiple ultrasounds and I have five very healthy children. I try to look at it as just extra chances to see my baby before they're earthside. I really recommend trying to relax, just like others have. As a parent you're going to have so many decisions to make that if you start out this stressed over everything, you won't be able to enjoy being a mom. Do your reading, decide what kinds of things you're comfortable with, but remember that flexibility is is key. Life throws us things that, if we remain flexible, we are much better able to handle and stay relaxed.
post #36 of 66
11/25/12 at 8:08pm

here we are-- i think people have all different ways to handle these situations. some completely trust what the doctor/technician says and follows them without thinking. others use the doctor/technician as a source and do a lot of other research on the side...and then there are many variations of those...and those who do not use doctors/technicians at all. i don't think there is a right way for everyone...but i do think it's up to us to find the way that we are most comfortable with...the way that we think best supports a healthy us and a healthy family.

 

i think the worst thing we can do to ourselves is act like a group we are not-- for example for one who likes to be completely without the use of doctors/technicians to blindly follow them--it would go too much against spirit and cause the most heartache. and vice versa--if you are someone who feels good in a doctor/patient relationship where the doctor leads...then do this! 

 

i personally like to leave technology out of it as much as possible when it comes to health and pregnancy/birth...but this is just me. i also like look to a midwife/doctor there as for extra support...and not the one who knows all and tells me all i need to know. i think and act as if my health is up to me--because i think it is to a great extent. i too have had miscarriages and realize we don't control everything. i also feel like i know my body really well...and have a good idea of what it needs--and when i need to ask for input. find what works best for you and as the other ladies said...focus on what brings you peace. this will be your best support and your guiding light, in my opinion. i hope you have found my input helpful...as that is how i wish it. 

post #37 of 66
11/27/12 at 12:56pm

I just scheduled my first US for next week! I am so excited! I can't wait to hear the heart beat! And then I will know if there are twins in there or not. When I told my mom she pointed out that they run in our family, and DH looked quite shocked. I guess he didn't really believe me when I said there is a chance.... :) 

post #38 of 66
11/27/12 at 2:36pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by InLove2009 View Post

I just scheduled my first US for next week! I am so excited! I can't wait to hear the heart beat! And then I will know if there are twins in there or not. When I told my mom she pointed out that they run in our family, and DH looked quite shocked. I guess he didn't really believe me when I said there is a chance.... smile.gif 

How exciting! When and how far along will you be?
post #39 of 66
11/27/12 at 5:04pm
Well guys... Had my first u/s today... Not looking good greensad.gif it looks like I have what they call a blighted ovum. Getting another u/s from another place. But looks like no baby greensad.gif
post #40 of 66
11/27/12 at 5:17pm

Oh no, mama...I am so sorry!  I will be praying for positive results at the next u/s.  Hugs!!
 

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