A Saner TTC: Frosty Moon - Page 4

[coati456]

Dakipode, Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you!

I'm also really sorry to hear about your cat.

Sparklemaman, you are a great source of quotes. TTC is teaching me a lesson about how I can't plan everything.

Xerxella and mirpmama, I know what you mean about trying to plan 9 months ahead. Last year I was thinking, oh that wouldn't be a good time because of my conference, etc. I'm with you now Xerxella. If it happens, the rest of life can be planned around it.

Sphinxy, sorry AF showed up, but sounds like you are going to have a nice break. Those are important.

AFM - I got my hysteroscopy scheduled. I have to wait until mid-January due to scheduling issues. The next two months will be an exercise in patience. On the bright side, this will also be kind of a break I hope. Since the doctor told me that the polyp creates a high chance of miscarriage, we're not going to try very actively in the meantime. In the back of my mind, I still know I'm due for O this weekend though.

[beckerooo]

Congrats dakipode!!! So happy for you! Hope all goes well! And sorry about your cat. I know that had to be hard.

[nettlesoup]

Do you mind if I join in here? I really like the idea of this group, especially since I've stopped obsessing over things and am having a more relaxed outlook. And also, congratulations Dakipode!

Last month I had an unplanned pregnancy. I had every symptom possible and after the initial surprise DP and I became very excited about the prospect. Sadly AF came on Halloween so that was the end of that. But the experience made us realise that another baby would be nice, and I think our daughter would love to have a sibling. So we decided to start actively trying.

So now I'm having symptoms again but this time not quite as many or as strong as last time. For some reason I have it in my mind that lots of strong symptoms early on is a bad thing, but I might be wrong. But due to last month and my miscarriage in February I'm being very cautiously optimistic in case it happens again. I really hope this one sticks, if indeed I am pregnant. I should be able to test at the end of the month. It's nice not obsessing or worrying about it, and I feel a lot happier for it.
 

[Xerxella]

Nettle soup- welcome!!!! i hope you find peace here. Just FYI, lots of post ovulation symptoms are the same as pregnancy symptoms because both sets of symptoms are caused by an increase in progesterone.

[nettlesoup]

Thanks. The thing is I never get any symptoms of ovulation and barely anything for AF either, so the presence of these symptoms is very unusual. But time will tell!

[GISDiva]

I've been MIA because of holiday travel and spotty Internet...I finally have time to log on tonight and I thought "I just know someone is pregnant on here and I really think it's Dakipode.". And voila! Comgratulations! Sorry about your kitty though, how rough! I often think that a BFP is going to come with the passing of our cat, is that weird? She's elderly, she's had a brush with cancer, and she's a total pain in our asses, but that day will be sooooo very hard, whenever it is.

Welcome LilyKay, and how true about conceiving the first as opposed to the second. I am so busy and stressed out and mostly there's not much to do about it other than take it a day at a time. Life was just so damned *leisurely* compared to now!

Welcome to all the other newcomers too, I know there were a few I missed. Hope everyone is doing well wherever they are in their circular journey that is TTC...

AFM: O time here, although not sure exactly when, I ditched the OPKs this month with the travel and whatnot. We got it on at the in-laws house out of necessity, good thing the TV is always loud there. Lol!

Goodnight all, sweet baby dreams.

[dakipode]

Hey all,
Apparently the universe wasn't done messing with me. After some excruciating pains Thursday night and still feeling pretty lousy on Friday I was diagnosed yesterday with an ectopic pregnancy and given drugs to terminate...
Talk about odds: according to the little flyer they gave me at the clinic only 1-2% of pregnancies end up being ectopic! I bought a lottery ticket on the way home...
It's weird because the pregnancy never felt real in the first place. I'm tempted to call it a very long wait for AF just because that would be easier to wrap my head around. I'm sad but I'm also glad I only got my hopes up for 4.5 days, as opposed to if I had known sooner that I was pregnant.
So I'm back to hanging out with you lot and I'm glad to be in good company!
May we all get our BFPs with positive endings soon!

By the way, Xerxella, what really convinced me was the numbers, the doc told me they were 85 last week Friday, then 563 on Monday, but then this Friday they were only 606. Even if it wasn't an ectopic, which he said they could never be 100% sure about, it seemed to me that based on those numbers the pregnancy wasn't going to make it anyway.

[JustJenny]

dakipode-  So sorry.  You sound like you are dealing with it well. 

[beingmommy]

Dakipode, I am so sorry.  That just doesn't seem fair!  

[SparkleMaman]

Oh Dakipode, words cannot express how sorry I am. This is SO NOT FAIR!! And yes I know, life is truly not fair. I am reminded of this fact (which my mother rattled off incessantly as I was growing up in response to my many observations of, that's not fair) far too often. I am glad to hear you seem to have a healthy perspective. I hope you are able to take time to grieve and process your feelings and are able to find peace and comfort. Hugs. You are in my thoughts.

[dakipode]

Sparklemaman I probably have mentioned this before: one of my favorite cartoons shows Calvin and Hobbes walking side by side. Calvin is complaining to Hobbes who then says: You know, life isn't fair. And Calvin replies: Yes, but why does it always have to be unfair to me?!

GISDiva your comment about the TV being loud had me laughing so hard! Hope you got the timing right!

nettlesoup so sorry to hear about your losses earlier this year. I hope things work out for you this cycle.

coati sounds like you're taking it all in stride. While it may not be what you planned I hope your short break gives you some breathing room and time away from the crazy emotional rollercoaster we are all on.

mirpmama I feel the same as coati and xerxella: i.e. when it happens doesn't matter so much because I just want it to happen already. Have you had the chance to test?

sphinxy I hope you find peace of mind in December.

AFM: I think I am part Vulcan. My rational mind is very good at keeping the emotional side of me at bay. I know that there will be another day, another opportunity, and all is not lost. I think part of what people mourn is the loss of possibility, knowing that the things you imagined would happen some day won't ever happen. But I am open to whatever comes. I am reassured that we are capable of getting egg and sperm to meet properly and I put my faith in the odds that next time it will be a healthy pregnancy with a happy outcome.
Being a part of this group has helped me tremendously and I thank all of you ladies for your support!

[Xerxella]

Hugs dakipode. The whole loss thing really does just suck. My second loss was, as the doc called it, a PUL ( pregnancy of unknown location). The numbers were low and slow the whole pregnancy and they never saw anything in the uterus. I'm so sorry.

[Lidamama84]

I'm so sorry, Dakipode

[GISDiva]

Boo.  That really sucks, Dakipode.  I agree with your outlook though, at least you know can get pregnant.  That's a good way to look at it, even though it still stings horribly.  ((((hugs)))

[nettlesoup]

Sorry to hear teat Dakipode. I hope you have much more luck next time.

[John16n33]

Hi everyone! Is it okay if I join?  I am not technically TTC until next month, but I am hoping to be able to do so in a stress free, sane way.  Earlier this year Dh gave me one month and one month only to TTC, and if we didn't succeed I had to wait until he was ready.  Well he surprised me last summer and told me that we could start trying in December, so here I am-less than one month away from TTC (currently on cd 14 of my last WTTC) cycle and already I am starting to stress about not getting pregnant.  I am hoping y'all can keep me calm :)

[Lidamama84]

Welcome, John16n33! We're currently not TTC either, but I think we'll start in Jan. I have certain moths I don't want to TTC, because of birth dates, so we'll be skipping December (September), March (December), June (March), and September (June)....and if we're still not pg by then...then birth dates can go hang, haha!!

AFM, I did something crazy yesterday, in the interest of staying sane, lol....I got a pixie cut!! I know, short hair isn't earth-shattering, but it's a huge change for me, who has only ever had long hair I love my new do, but it sure feels weird...like, I'm missing something!! Anyway, I'm going to have fun shocking everyone I know over the next month, cause only a few ppl knew I was getting it done

[Xerxella]

Welcome John!

Lidamama - pictures!!! Pictures!!! Lets see it! I'm on the verge of something hair drastic like that. Good for you!

AFM - 7 dpo according to fertility friend, but I think I'm really 6 dpo. I feel really good about this cycle so that means its bound to be a bust! LOL. We've been having a great time with the kids on vacation so it's made the 2ww fly by. I wish I could take a vacation every 2ww! Good luck all.

[GISDiva]

, John16n33!

I hear ya' Xerxella, I think we timed things pretty darn good this month, which means I am not getting my hopes up.  

Welcome to the short hair club, Lidamamma, I bet it looks great!

[John16n33]

Lidamama- I bet the haircut is cute!  We also won't be trying during certain months because of birthdays.  Mainly November (August) and June (March) because those are when Dh, mine, and Dd's birthday's are.  I am still up in the air about whether we will try next October (July) if I am not pg by then because my family has a ton of birthday's then.  But we'll see.