How to deal with intimacy and post-baby "badges of honor?" (single dating)

[Mama Soltera]

...among other things. And I'm not talking about stretch marks. I'm talking about a (yes, I'll just say it) hemorrhoid that never went away after the last pregnancy. I'm very embarrassed and self-conscious about it and I'm wondering how the rest of you single and dating moms deal with things like this? I would love your thoughts. And I am specifically talking about single mothers. I know it's not really an issue when you're partnered with the man you had the pregnancy with (btdt).

[LorenaAZ]

Why not get it removed?  In some cases, it can become thrombosed.  It's a very quick same day procedure.  You get injected with a local anesthetic and it gets cut out.  End of story.  I had it done right after DD's birth because mine hurt so badly I could barely sit down.  

[contactmaya]

i think they are common enough that your date wont even notice.(he probably has it himself) Even if youve never had a baby, chances are, your body isnt perfect. And if it is perfect, you wont think its perfect. 

Point is, you could always just keep the light low :-)

[Mama Soltera]

Aren't there common complications with this surgery? And can't they just come right back? Maybe the person I know who had the surgery had a much worse case than me but they were in severe pain and immobile for days and then they came back anyway. 

[Mama Soltera]

Originally Posted by contactmaya 

i think they are common enough that your date wont even notice.(he probably has it himself) Even if youve never had a baby, chances are, your body isnt perfect. And if it is perfect, you wont think its perfect. 

Point is, you could always just keep the light low :-)

Thank you. :D