My son will be 3yo this month, and he is not even a tiny bit interested in using either his potty, or the toilet. I guess I'm looking for "BTDT and it worked out fine" stories, advice or ideas.
Heres a little background info, I think some of these may be contributing to his avoidance of it.
*He does not care when his diaper is wet or poopy. He tells me he actually likes to wear a poopy diaper, and sometimes he gets upset when I change one.
*He was in cloth diapers from birth, but this summer we had to switch to disposables because he is a really BIG kid, and the diapers we had just wont fit him anymore. He tells me he likes the disposable more than the cloth diapers, but wont elaborate on why. ( I personally HATE the disposables, and its one of the main reasons I want him to start using the potty! )
*Sometime mid summer, he surprised me one night by asking me if he could pee in his potty. I ran as fast I could to grab it for him, and sat his butt on it and peed. I kept the potty out, and he kept peeing in it, but only at night, right before bed. He didn't want to pee in it any other time. He did this for about two weeks, and then stopped. Went back to no interest in the potty at all.
*He is a poop withholder. He does not like pooping, he says its because he hates me wiping the poop off of him when I change his butt. I have tried switching to different wipes, using different types of cloth, etc. I even tried just changing him in the bathroom and spraying his butt off in the tub instead of wiping, but he says he still hates it. We have to sneak him miralax occasionally (we did try many natural remedies first, but none of them worked) so he doesn't constipate himself.
*I tried using underwear as an incentive. He loves Thomas the Train, so I bought him some with Thomas on them. He does like them, but when I told him they are for when he starts using the potty instead of diapers, there was no deal. He informed me that he would rather pee in his "white butts" (what he calls disposable diapers) than have the Thomas underwear.
*He was a very late talker, only started really talking this spring/summer, and may possibly be autistic. His dad is high functioning NOS, and there are some striking similarities already. I sometimes wonder if this has anything to do with the potty problem, and the poop withholding, but my husbands parents are both deceased and I cant ask him if my husband went through a stage like this.
We talked about the potty this morning. I asked him if he wanted to give it a try today, maybe it would be really fun. He is not going for it. He said, "No Mommy, no pee in potty EVER. White butt ONLY Mommy." -SIGH-
I really really want him to want to use the potty. Help :(
If you made it through that, thanks!!