A little bit of history. I was abused as a child, very severely. The expectations put on me, for just about everything, were very high. And if I didn't meet them, the consequences were brutal. So I don't have a very good frame of reference, when it comes to my own children.
My question is, what are/should be reasonable expectations for a 3-year old and a 6-year old?
Alternately, what types of responsibilities do/does your children/child have, if they are similar in age to my children?
Sometimes, I feel like I expect too much, but other times, I feel like I'm being too lax, for fear of expecting too much.
I realize I'm starting a little later than I should in trying to figure all this out, but lately, it's really been bothering me, not knowing what healthy, age-appropriate expectations are.
For example, DD (6) sometimes likes to wash dishes. So I let her. But I feel like maybe making that a regular chore would be setting too high of expectations, so I don't *make* her.
This is really difficult for me. Thanks in advance for any input/opinions.