Ugh, so I'd gone dairy free for a week or two (as well as avoiding legumes+brassica family, chocolate, caffeine, and peanuts). My DH and family bought into the idea that what you eat doesn't affect baby's digestion and so everyone thought I was crazy for restricting myself. DD's demeanor became much more pleasant/comfortable throughout the week, but DH convinced me it was probably due to her getting older, not me abstaining from dairy. On Saturday night I had a salad with goat cheese and a chocolate containing some dairy (chocolate was ruled out as a cause of fussiness by that point). Then yesterday I had a ham sandwich with cheese and butter, as well as buttered potatoes. DD has returned to an intense level of fussiness so I'm thinking it's most likely the dairy. I'm just so mad at myself for not holding to my mama intuition and for believing DH & MIL over my own gut feeling. Glad I didn't let DH persuade me to go out for milkshakes, though.
Poor DD is just so uncomfortable. And you know what? Poor me! We're in for a long fussy week and I'm on week 6 of not having slept more than 1 hour at a time. I'm feeling fat, lonely, and tired. Plus my supply is going crazy. One day DD eats all day long and the next she spaces feedings out a few hours at a time. My boobs have no idea what to do so I'm enforced and terrified of getting mastitis again.
Sorry for the rant! I don't have any mom friends to confide in.
totally get where you are on this!
the dairy was so key for me and i don't regret it. especially since my babies are so much easier and happier. and yes, they get fussy in the evenings, and no, there isn't always an answer, and i'm tired tired tired of seeing 3am, but he's back asleep by 5 and we both doze til 8am these days (yay hubby). and DS2 does sometimes seem to be on me for 3-5 hours in the evening w/ almost no breaks. and one day he eats like he's starving, and the next i'm pretty sure he hasn't eaten a thing and it's all my fault. but since he's not my first, none of this is surprising at all! nor do i think anyone else knows any more about my baby than i do!!! though i'm grateful for support and encouraging advice or direction,
as for the fat lonely and tired, OH YEAH. but i'm willing to bet gold coins that you are the most beautiful thing in the world to your baby, and probably are holding yourself to a crazy idea of what you should look like right now. i always feel huge about now, but others always tell me that i look like i never had a baby. not to me! but your body just produced another human all formed in itself. and it will go back down, not as quickly as you may like, but it will! i often wonder why do men have the bigger bodies, but we're the ones that share our organs, our torsos, and our most intimate parts to make these new people!
my husband is encouraging now, but he's not always the best mirror for me (thank goodness my house doesn't have any full-length mirrors that i have to encounter) and i just need to wait and accept my body for where it is now.