Gender: find out or surprise? « Back to Group Discussions

[skycheattraffic]

So what are you mamas planning to do? Find out the gender or keep it a surprise?

I'm firmly in the surprise camp. We have some gender neutral onesies and sleepers to get us started and a fair chunk of DD's old clothes. If we have a girl, we are fairly well stocked and if it's a boy we will be ok for a few weeks until I can do a little shopping. Everything else (toys, diapers, carseat, swing, etc) we pretty much have and they are not gender specific so I won't have much to get (except boy clothes if needed). The nursery will be gender neutral again. DD's room is green and we have little ocean touches here and there. Our spare room is blue and I think we will go with a night sky theme
What are your plans, ladies?

[kolszewski]

I wanted to be surprised but since this is the 4th and final, DH wants to find out so we can get rid of half of our storage bins and reclaim the attic. We'll see!

[InLove2009]

I am finding out! There is no way that I could wait nine months before knowing :) I am very impatient :P

[SunnyMuffin]

This  pregnancy was unexpected and we're really tight on money so I think it would be smart to find out.  For example if we find out its a boy then I can breathe knowing we'll be able to reuse all the clothing (same season as my first son born in July), and if its a girl, I'll be able to slowly pick girl stuff up off CL, mom swaps and tell the grandparents/relatives because they'll be excited to shop and buy girly things.

There will be no nursery, baby will be staying in our room until we find a bigger place so decorating isn't a consideration here 

[lolliegee]

Definitely finding out. With our first, we waited, but every other time, we've found out. It seems that each kid has a specific wish, so finding out sooner rather than later, helps them have time to adjust if it's not the sex they're hoping for.

[dayiscoming2006]

Find out if possible because I'm impatient. :) But, no extra ultrasounds just to find out. If they can tell at the 20 week one, then great. I have gone the majority of 2 pregnancies without knowing. With my DD I knew from about 24 weeks. I am really hoping for another girl though. If it's a boy though. That's cool. :) Just as long as baby is healthy. If it is twins like I've been kind of pondering, I hope one is a girl. I have 2 boys and 2 girls names already picked out and ready to go so, I'm set. 

[skycheattraffic]

I guess I'm part of a dying breed lol. No matter who I ask, EVERYBODY is either finding out or surprised/annoyed that I'm not. I didn't think I was THAT strange lol

[dayiscoming2006]

Originally Posted by skycheattraffic 

I guess I'm part of a dying breed lol. No matter who I ask, EVERYBODY is either finding out or surprised/annoyed that I'm not. I didn't think I was THAT strange lol

I did try NOT to find out with my second. But, they made me get an ultrasound in Romania and I found out like 3 weeks before he was born because the tech blurted it out. 

[wrenmoon]

I'm part of the surprise crew too, although my dreams have told me every time whether I'm having a boy, girl or miscarriage. There are so few true surprises in life, babies are just full of potential surprises, gender, personality, which family member they come out looking like...I love the anticipation.
And because I can be an impatient person I actually appreciate the reminder that I'm not in control, and settle into surrendering to what is coming. Practicing surrender has been a gift brought to me by my children.

Now if that stinkin dream would come already!

[MonkeyPrincess]

I prefer a surprise, and would choose not to find out if these were my babies. But I think the parents want to find out, and that will be fun too! :)

I am fairly confident one of the babies is a girl, and if pressed, I'd say the other is a boy (but not as certain).

My first I found out because it was too exciting not to! My second we found out because we had already set the precedent. While I would have liked the surprise with my third, I was certain he was a boy from the very second I knew I was pregnant, so it wouldn't have been a surprise anyway and my husband wanted to see if I was right - I was. ;-) With my fourth, I was expecting my daughter, but a few weeks into the pregnancy, it didn't feel like "her" anymore. Everything I wrote was "s/he" from then on, and it was a boy! My last baby was the daughter I had been expecting before, we joke that he jumped in line in front of her. ;-) I knew she was who I had been waiting for so while I didn't find out via ultrasound, it certainly wasn't a surprise either.

[skycheattraffic]

Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 

I did try NOT to find out with my second. But, they made me get an ultrasound in Romania and I found out like 3 weeks before he was born because the tech blurted it out. 

OMG I would have been fuming!! I'm sorry you had that experience

[skycheattraffic]

Wrenmoon you described my feelings perfectly! The anticipation, the surrender... We will have the baby we are supposed to have and the rest we will adjust to as it comes.

Wow MonkeyPrincess, you have some intuition! I had a feeling DD was gonna be a boy and I'm thinking this one will be a girl lol. We'll see if I'll be 0 for 2!

[heyitskalista]

We will not find out. My husband delivers our babes and he likes to be the one to announce! It's a special moment! Of course, with the last two, I already knew so it wasn't a surprise to me. This one though, I have no feeling either way so it will be fun to be surprised at the birth!

[CountryMommy]

Our first 2 were surprises and so will this one be.

[skycheattraffic]

Yay! More surprises

[oregon2010]

I'm torn! Our first was a surprise (which I was sure she was a boy) but it was really hard for me to wait :) This is most likely our last baby and we have all these clothing bins and I kinda want to know so I can either get rid of them or get them out and I think it would be fun to tell my daughter if she is having a sister or brother.  But I loved not knowing last time so people did not buy us a lot of pink or blue.  Hmmmmmm......:)

[SunnyMuffin]

Ok i'm starting to lean towards surprise.  If getting girl clothes is my only reason for finding out, that's a pretty dumb reason. 

[dayiscoming2006]

Originally Posted by SunnyMuffin 

Ok i'm starting to lean towards surprise.  If getting girl clothes is my only reason for finding out, that's a pretty dumb reason. 

LOL, you can just go pick up some girlie clothes after baby is born if you need them. 

[skycheattraffic]

See I got a fair bit of DD's wardrobe in greens, blues, oranges, etc - especially the small sizes. In a pinch even the pink stuff will do just fine for a boy once I have to layer in the fall or winter. There's tons of photos of DH in his sister's pink hand me down pjs as a baby .

[SunnyMuffin]

Plus, all my son wore was short sleeved onesies, never pants. it was way too hot.  You don't really need real clothes until the fall