So, I've complained a lot lately, about the stress with my DSS's mom. To compensate, let me share what we did, today.
One of my 17-y-o twins had an emergency baptism, before he came home from the hospital. For whatever reason, I never had the other twin baptized. It's not that we haven't attended church. It was partly feeling self-conscious about not being married to their dad, then being a single parent. I don't really know. I just kept putting it off.
Then, when DH and I had our "baby" (now 4), I couldn't really justify getting HIM baptized, when I hadn't taken care of business with his older brother. So I kept procrastinating. Finally, at the start of this school year, I met with our associate pastor, to schedule catching up everyone's sacraments. My DH's best friend would be godfather to both the unbaptized twin and our youngest.
Well, something came up and the the designated godfather couldn't be there, today. So the two dads discussed it and my DH is now godfather to one of my twins; and my ex is now godfather to my DH's and my son.
Adding to this: years ago, my ex's wife became godmother to my DSS (DH's son from his previous marriage, who was also baptized late).
We are weird. Weird, but happy, on this side!