I know it sounds weird, so here's the background. My daughter will be 5 in March and has never sung a note in her life. Not even one. She refuses. I have always sung since she was a baby. My mother sang to me. I thought it was something all children do, but she will not. She didn't even when she was a toddler. I have never pushed the issue with her at all, but any time I have ever asked her to sing with me, she clams up and gets upset and quiet and will not do it, so I don't pressure her. I just say "that's okay. You don't have to sing if you don't want to."
I have asked her before why she won't sing and she will say "I can't sing as well as you, Mama," (I am NOT a good singer) or "I can't sing." She has even said her voice isn't pretty, but I have no idea where she got this idea from. No one has ever said it to her and I have always told her that her voice was the most beautiful sound to my ears. No dice.
I don't care if she wants to sing or not. I'm not interested in making her do something because *I* want her to, it's just that I'm worried about her. It seems odd. Don't all children sing? At least sometimes?
She isn't on the spectrum and is very intelligent and very verbal. She started talking at 6 months and has hardly stopped to take a breath since. She started reading at 3 years old and is pretty fluent at reading now, so it's not that she's not verbal enough or not interested in reading/speech. She is also super outgoing.
Would you be worried? What would you do? Do you think asking her if she wants to go to singing classes for kids would be pushing her? I wonder if singing with a group of other kids would help her open up, but I'm scared that she will just refuse to sing with everybody else.