Hello. My wife and I have been together for seven years. Married for two and a half. We had our first child (planned) four months ago. He is wonderful and we both love him very much. She is a natural with him while I am learning something new every day. She has her own business and when I am home she is at work and when I am at work she is at home. Two days a week he is with a baby sitter while we both work. Anyways, you get the point that we both spend a lot of time working/with our baby. Very little free time to ourselves right now.
She has been very grumpy the past few weeks. Every little thing I do sets her off. I am a good husband and she will even admit it. Everything I do is to make life easier on her when she is home with the baby. I do almost all of the household chores so she can relax with him while she is not at work. She realizes this.
Today she said that she first realized that she "hated her husband" and knows she has no reason to. Her mind is really messed up and she doesn't understand why she harbors so much resentment for me when she shouldn't at all. She immediately called her OBGYN who is either going to call her back or call in a prescription for her. So she realizes that she may have PPD (even though the more I read I think she may have PPSD). She took the first step in getting better which is great but it is still really really hard to hear your wife say that she hates you for no reason.
A. I need to know what I need to do to help her. Stay away from her? Help out more? I do everything for her. I go out of my way to make her days better. I am too the point now where I don't know what to do! Either way it is the wrong decision and she ends up pissed off at me.
B. How do I deal with this on myself? It's really hard to have your wife hate you when you are supposed to lean on each other during these times. How do I not harbor any resentment for the way she is being towards me?
Anyone who has been there and back, please help me understand how to help her and help myself.