I think it's best to not take these things too personally, unless you find fault in yourself. I think most people are responding to their own pain when they post things like that. I find posts about Christmas and birthday buying difficult because I cannot shower friends and family with the gifts I would like to and it is difficult in my life with my particular friends and family members to express that love and affection in other ways. In my immediate family, I just wish I could buy things that I would like to give, because that would make me happy. But when I read long posts about the huge expenditures and extravagant holidays I do feel sad about what I am not able to do.
I can understand that, but this was a very differnt situation. This woman could buy everything my family owns, probably including our minivan, and it wouldn't really hurt her, financially. And, I wasn't posting a lot about our plans - simply said that I was behind on my shopping.
I've actually decided not to engage with her anymore until after the holidays. We had another...not really a fight, but she got really weird...over having kids vs. being childfree. I have no problem with people choosing to be childfree and was very clear about it (she was talking about how people judge her like she's a freak, because she's a woman who doesn't want kids, and I agreed with her completely). This ended up with another bizarre comment about Christmas and shopping and how the fact that she "refuses to buy into" the idea of Christmas gifts is another reason she doesn't want kids. For whatever reason, this is obviously a big deal to her right now, and I'm just not going to get involved in these conversations, yk?
It has nothing to do with the poster, so "I" don't respond, but I can totally see how this friend of yours is just venting, not judging you.
Oh, she was judging me. She's one of the most judgmental people I've ever met - and often over really weird things. But, I'm over taking it personally. She's obviously got some issues about this stuff, and anything I say about Christmas, kids, etc. is going to push her buttons right now. I have a feeling she may have blocked my Facebook feed for the holidays, which would probably be best for her, honestly.
Why don't you send her something nice.
I can't afford to send her anything that would fall under her definition of "nice"...and I don't think she'd want it, anyway. Sh'es really, really negative about Christmas gifts, in all forms. I don't think she exchanges gifts with anybody, including her partner, nieces and nephews.
I'm guessing the holidays depress her a bit, like they do many people. There is so much energy all around about making, buying, giving ~ and it does get or can get overly materialistic. But, try to see that people post about themselves, not about you.
Thanks. I knew that already, but I really figured it out after the whole parent/childfree thing a couple days ago. It was really, really odd.