Originally Posted by WildKingdom
I always find it amusing when people say, "Doctors are not Gods!" Yes, doctors are well aware that they are not gods. The reason I find this amusing is because those that say it seem to be most likely to expect doctors to be just like gods. Take, for example, some of the comments that have been made here about doctors not knowing enough about parenting and breastfeeding. Despite my comments about the many hours of training I received, people are still not satisfied that its enough. Kathy feels doctors should be held to a higher standard than all other practitioners. Others seem to want all doctors to be perfect compassionate listeners all the time. Others expect to never receive bad advice.
Wake up people. If you don't want doctors to be treated like gods, then stop expecting them to perform like one.
:( I don't expect doctors to be Gods. But when I go to several OB/GYNs in a row and ask for help with severe vaginal pain during intercourse I was told (I quote): "You need to relax more" "Use some lubricant" and "It doesn't matter how it feels for you anyway--you are just doing it for the man."
I managed to find a lovely dyke. Normally she specialized in incontinence issues (which I don't have) but I saw a picture of her sitting on her Harley in full leathers and I knew I had to see her.
She was the first doctor to seriously look at my vagina. When she did so she and I used a confusing combination of flashlight, mirror, and clear speculum (those things are neat!) to look inside my vagina. She asked me how old I was when the sexual abuse started and how many times I've been raped. I couldn't even answer her because I was crying so hard. My entire vagina is a spiderweb of scar tissue. There isn't an inch of my internal bits that can be visible from the outside that doesn't have multiple scars.
"Just relax more." "It doesn't matter how it feels for you."
The cool doctor helped me. It doesn't hurt anymore. Amusingly the biggest factor in lessoning the pain is I no longer use condoms (woo monogamy) and my husband is intact.
I don't know why I felt the need to drop in that little novel.
Uhm. I suppose to say that yes, there are good doctors. But the ability to go out and pick someone who is going to be a good fit is a great luxury that I have not always had and I greatly treasure about my current life. I see it as one of the biggest privileges I have acquired in moving to the upper middle class from the lowest class.
I think I get a little twitchy about people not perceiving good medical care as a privilege. I have not seen it be a right. It's closer to a crap shoot. Yes, I trust individual doctors--but only after I've done a ridiculous amount of research into that particular doctors pedigree so that I know I am ok with who influenced them.
kathy--I really wish I could do well with just any doctor. The last time I tried to find a GP (it's been a year because my insurance only covers one exam a year and I'm due to try to find another doctor soon) I was told that she wouldn't work with me on my stomach pain or send me to physical therapy for my arms until I dealt with my psychiatric problems. Wouldn't work with me. Then I went to psychiatry and was told that either I start taking this pill she wants me on (I don't remember which one but it has a laundry list of nasty side effects--like they do) and it would necessitate that I stop breastfeeding. Because my kid was over one she was very snotty and dismissive.
She told me that I was "outside the norm" by extended breastfeeding and she would not work with me until I fell into line.
And that was the end of what I could afford to shop for last year. A year later my stomach still hurts and I wrote a book (it's awesome!) and my arms hurt worse.
Almost time to try again. I feel like I'm throwing darts at a dart board with my eyes shut.