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[Starfish11]

I am thrilled to be pregnant! I do have some apprehensions. Do you all?

My main one is that I gained so much weight with my other two pregnancies. I had terrible nausea and SPD which rendered me just unable to properly cars for myself. I have spent the last year working really hard and have lost mostnodmthenweight and really firmed up. In fact, I became a certified Zumba instructor in September and have a few jobs lined up. So. I am worried that I will gain the weight back. I am not as tired as I was with DS so I hope that I can stick with my fitness and eating goals. I have read about lots of some who do Zumba through their pregnancy. I so hope at the end of this I am proud of how fit I kept my body.

My age worries me a little bit, too. I will be 38 in April. I don't think that's old at all but I know I am considered AMA.

My final one is that I will somehow shortchange my sweet DC while growing this little love bug. I want to be as present as possible but I also know from experience that it is not easy being pregnant with little ones.

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[quantumleap]

It's a little scary to think of loosing the ground you have gained, weight-wise, hey? 

I'm apprehensive about the same things, really, but especially about the weight. I gain a LOT of weight in pregnancy. The first two times, it wasn't *too* bad, because I was slightly underweight to begin with, but it really didn't come off the same way after #2, so I was starting out this pregnancy 20lbs heavier than I did the first time around. And, I also get pretty severe SPD. I'm hoping to keep things a little more under control this time around, because I have this theory that the SPD won't be as bad if I don't gain my usual 70-75lbs! No strategies yet though, as I have never changed my eating habits in pregnancy! I'll have to do some more research. 

[FarmerCathy]

I'm on the paleo diet, started out with this pregnancy.  I gained a lot of weight last time, but was eating a lot of grains and milk (and some sugar).  Both midwives I worked with previous said milk seemed to put weight on mama and baby so, no milk this time.  Hoping it will be better and I will have more energy for keeping up with the fam.  I'm going to give cross country skiing a try and see if that helps.  I'm walking almost every day too.  I need to get a sled for DD so I can pull her around on my walks and then probably an off road stroller.  I don't usually like using strollers, but I think I won't have a choice when I get bigger at least to give my back a break.

I also have worries, but it is more losing my milk, and stuff like that.  I seem to be OCD with keeping the house clean so far.  It's usually the opposite, so that makes me happy.
 

[Starfish11]

Cathy, feel free to come be OCD about my house when you are done with yours

I wish I did not care so much about the weight. My MW reminded me constantly last time that I am growing a baby and give myself a break. Trying to remember that. That's interesting about milk. I was about to kick up my intake for protein and calcium, but seems like I need to stick with almond milk protein shakes.

And I am earnestly praying that SPD does not come back. Eek! Terrible!

[MyKidKissTrees]

Im OCD about my house right now too!  But I feel SO much happier.  I think I have crappy adrenal function so it lifted me right up immediately.  Or maybe its psychological?

I don't really have any apprehensions right now. But Im sure once it gets more real I will start to freak.  I just REALLY dont want to end up missing this babies whole first year with PPD like I did last time.  I will eat that placenta raw if I have to!

[Starfish11]

Hugs, mama. That's rough.

I am feeling restless about my house right now. Like I need a serious shake up in terms if what it looks like.

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by MyKidKissTrees 

Im OCD about my house right now too!  But I feel SO much happier.  I think I have crappy adrenal function so it lifted me right up immediately.  Or maybe its psychological?

I don't really have any apprehensions right now. But Im sure once it gets more real I will start to freak.  I just REALLY dont want to end up missing this babies whole first year with PPD like I did last time.  I will eat that placenta raw if I have to!

I can't imagine having PPD.  I hope you don't have it again.  I ate my placenta raw, cut into small pieces and I froze it first.  Made it into small enough portions for smoothies and had one every day until it was gone.  After the second day I could sleep again.  I wasn't wired all night.  My first pregnancy I didn't consume it and I couldn't sleep for like the first two weeks.

[MyKidKissTrees]

oh thats is exactly how I was planning to do it!  frozen in a smoothie!   haha.

[quantumleap]

Ugh, PPD. Here's to hoping none of us will have to deal with it this time around! I didn't have a full-blown experience with it, and I'm still not sure if circumstances contributed to the ppd, or if the ppd made the circumstances seem more intolerable than they actually were, but either way, not something I'd like to experience again! My heart just breaks for the mamas out there who feel like they've lost an entire year of their children's lives. 

For you placentophages out there - is there a reason you chose frozen/raw over dehydrated? 

[MyKidKissTrees]

I have always heard that dehydrated loses a lot of nutrients.  Also, hormones disappear and breakdown quickly and that is really what helps pick people up emotionally I believe.  But also, I just try to think of a person living in hunter gatherer times and imagine how they would do it.  I think they would probably just take a bite or cook it over the fire that night!  thats my guess.  And I always try to stick with the most fresh manner of eating almost all foods.  As close to how it grew as possible!

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by quantumleap 

For you placentophages out there - is there a reason you chose frozen/raw over dehydrated? 

It's easy and I don't have to pay anyone to encapsalate it and I think it doesn't lose as much in the process and it doesn't taste bad at all.  Here is my post on it:http://cathyanddaveholtfamily.blogspot.com/2011/09/placentophagia.html

[MyKidKissTrees]

Thanks for posting that FarmerCathy!!!  That was AWESOME!  blend in MILs blender!!!  hahahahahaha!!!

[mamaki]

IKWYM.  I am seriously scared about the morning sickness.  I always have it pretty bad for the whole trimester, even on the highest dose of Diclectin.  I already have MS and I'm only 3 weeks as far as I know (not 100% sure when I o'd so maybe further along).  I'm also not looking forward to the weight gain - I have gained at least 50-60lbs each pregnancy (I stopped weighing myself last time because it was too scary, especially when I went overdue!).  Morning sickness SUCKS 

[CraftyMcGluestick]

I am SO excited about this baby, too, but also very apprehensive. My last pregnancy was heck-on-wheels and though I'd like to have a lot of kids, the pregnancy part might mean that this is our last of two. :( I want to be optimistic and I am trying to fortify myself with vitamins and a great diet. Last pregnancy (and so far this one, too) I had all-consuming feral hunger at the beginning that made me eat whatever was available, even if it was less than nutritious. I am trying my hardest to not escape to fast food in my moments of desperation now. But even so, I still have scary flashbacks to the everlasting nausea, PUPPP, kidney stones, 6 weeks of prodromal labor of DS and think: am I CRAZY to do this again?

I also have financial fears for our family. Currently, my husband is less than one year into starting his own business. He is doing better with every passing month, but my income is the primary (and dependable) one for our family. Our son attends Montessori 5 days a week. My job is very travel-intensive and for a long time, I had a nanny who just traveled with me. I also cut back on my travel as much as I could now that he's at a Montessori. Doing it with two (if DS is still nursing; he is now) would not only be difficult and expensive, it would be a killer exhaustion-wise. So I really want to quit my job, but it could be disastrous for us financially. Maybe between now and August my husband will suddenly start making a zillion dollars in his business. I hope he does.
 

[MyKidKissTrees]

I am hoping the same thing!!  My husband needs to WORK ON HIS BUSINESS.  that is where the real money is.  He also has a 9-5.  But seriously, the business is what I wish he would spend time on.  He will ONLY take on word of mouth clients and I hate it because I feel like there are SO many potential clients out there if he bothered to advertise!  ugh!  Yeah we have a similar financial situation and its frustrating.  But Im lucky enough to not work.  Which takes a ton of stress off me.  But it also means I cant help us financially at all.  Its all him. So I feel powerless sometimes!

[somegirl99]

Originally Posted by Starfish11 

My age worries me a little bit, too. I will be 38 in April. I don't think that's old at all but I know I am considered AMA.

I was 38 for my first, I am 41 now.

Originally Posted by Starfish11 

My final one is that I will somehow shortchange my sweet DC while growing this little love bug. I want to be as present as possible but I also know from experience that it is not easy being pregnant with little ones.

I'm worried about this too.

Worried about what will happen with my milk and DS nursing, he's still very attached to it.

Worried about being able to get enough food in, I discovered after DS that was born that I am allergic to soy, I am also off gluten because DS seems to be sensitive to it, and this is on top of being vegan partially because of me being allergic/intolerant to dairy.

Worried about what all the hormonal swings will do to me this time around.