Ha ha...my DH wants a fourth. « Back to Group Discussions

[abouttobe5]

Seriously?!?  We're only 4 weeks in and he's already talking about not having his planned vasectomy so that we can have a fourth.  I'm still in the babymoon phase myself but pretty tired so I'm not sure if I'm ready to even think (or consider) a fourth baby!!!

I think he's absolutely crazy...

[Dahlea]

Funny-I won't mention it to my husband because he's adamant about 3 being it, but I've really changed my mind and want a 4th too lol.

[fayebond]

DH and I have an agreement: all conversations about the number of future babies cannot be taken seriously until I'm no longer pregnant and the baby is sleeping well (around 7 months for DD).  If he's not really ready, I'd respect that and call it a conversation for six months from now.  

[babychak]

Ahh, I can't think about another baby just yet either. They say that you forget the pain of childbirth...I am still skeptical!

[marmo]

I already want a 3rd, just over 2 weeks post partum,but DH is DEAD SET against any more.  I told him he's in charge of birth control in that case.

[finnegansmom]

Originally Posted by marmo 

I already want a 3rd, just over 2 weeks post partum,but DH is DEAD SET against any more.  I told him he's in charge of birth control in that case.

Ha, that's exactly the conversation we had after our 3rd...he was going to get a Vas....put it off,, yada yada yada.... I just had my 4th 2 weeks ago.  It took "one time". 

So this time he needs to deal with it - I'm too old to go on the pill and I don't want anything surgical, and to be honest, I've been dealing with pregnancy and childbirth and nursing for 6 years straight so it's his turn to pony up.  I wouldn't be dead set against a 5th, although logistically it's not really a good idea but I know my dh doesn't want anymore.  I wish I had more time but my bio clock is running out of steam....

[mama_y_sol]

I'm usually not ready to talk about babies until the "baby" is 3 years old!!!

After 2, DH was ready to stop.  Now that we have number 3, his appt with the urologist is in two weeks.  He's pretty dead set against #4, and I agree it would be very very hard for us with 4 kids, so I think the vas is the right decision for us.  

[Evolmama]

Originally Posted by marmo 

I already want a 3rd, just over 2 weeks post partum,but DH is DEAD SET against any more.  I told him he's in charge of birth control in that case.

Lol that is exactly my case. Except I would be sad if he got a vasectomy- but I don't think he will!

[lovetolaugh]

Yep...same here!  Baby #4 is just 4 weeks today, and I'm wanting "just one more".  I said that same thing after #2 and #3!!  And poor DH was ready to be done after one.  With my bio clock ticking, time is not on my side, but maybe...just maybe...

[finnegansmom]

Originally Posted by Evolmama 


Lol that is exactly my case. Except I would be sad if he got a vasectomy- but I don't think he will!

My husband was all into the Vas for a while but then, on his own, he read "something on the internet" and now is dead set against it...

so you can tell him to do his own research if he brings it up so he knows the risks, etc.  Whatever my husband read was enough for him to change his mind about it.

I think we're going to end up using NFP as BC once I get AF back, which usually isn't until 10-12 months pp anyways.

[Evolmama]

NFP is what we used... But then I got stressed or whatever and ovulated late and we ended up with surprise ds sweet surprise ds

That research/side effects idea sounds great!! DH is VERY anti surgeries and unnecessary procedures so I have a hard time believing he will actually go through with it!

[faithsstuff]

I have to admit, I've been thinking this isn't very hard, I could prob do another.  Then DS decided to have one of those days, and I can't wait for dh to finish work so I can open a bottle of wine. 2 is enough for us.

[abouttobe5]

Originally Posted by faithsstuff 

I have to admit, I've been thinking this isn't very hard, I could prob do another.  Then DS decided to have one of those days, and I can't wait for dh to finish work so I can open a bottle of wine. 2 is enough for us.

Ha ha...last night there was not enough wine in the world to bring me off the cliff of craziness.  From the moment my daughter got home from school, she tested my patience.  And my 3 year old whined straight for 3 hours.  And our baby girl was out of sorts and hungry but she drained me within the first half hour of a 3 hour "need to nurse" marathon.  She was so frustrated.

I was spent by 7:30PM when I put all 3 to bed.  7:30!! :)  So I think a fourth is just plain crazy talk on my DH's part.  But he did mention it again last night (of course this was after a day at work fro him, which he loves, and capped off by a social gathering at our local art gallery that he got to go to....he wasn't part of the aforementioned chaos).

[tekcez]

2 is it for us. Done and done. Dh was all about the snip snip until recently when it actually became a reality, as in "make the appt now!" I want him to get it over with quickly so that we don't have time to change our minds!! I know that when dd is like 3, I'll have the I want another one crazies. It would be much shorter lived if another one just wasn't an option.

[PacificMar]

When  my husband was a boy, he wanted to have eight children (he is one of five siblings), but luckily for me, his desired family size decreased as he got older. Fertility problems plagued us for some time, and we were finally blessed with our older daughter, Katey, whom we adopted two years ago, and little Luthien, now that I'm 42 and my husband is 50, so by default there aren't going to be any more. If we'd been successful ten years ago, he might have been able to convince me to generate a houseful (he can be cutely persuasive).