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[FarmerCathy]

I guess I'm uber excited to be pregnant and not many IRL friends and family know yet.  So, here I am just to blab at you all.

Though I don't have too much to blab at you about at this current moment.    It's just nice to have a thread where we can all just talk about whatever.

Still a little apprehensive because it doesn't seem real yet!!

[Starfish11]

I am so happy to have this DDC because only DH knows IRL. I am with family for Thanksgiving and it's really hard to not blurt it out. I am sure they are suspicious because I am not drinking coffee or alcohol. I also just look tired. I know that me being regnant will make them happy but I am just not ready to tell.

We went to the zoo today and halfway through I just. Got. So. Tired.

When are you all letting everyone know?

[FarmerCathy]

I will after 14 weeks.

Yeah, last two nights I've been getting so tired early.  I fell asleep while putting my DD to sleep last night. 
 

[MyKidKissTrees]

Im SO excited!!  I just got a picture message from my best friend!!  Its a !!!!!  ahh!!  We are due like the exact same time!!  Im totally freaking.  Can you imagine the cute "twin" newborn pics we will do!!! So excited!  This will be her first.  Im just totally freaking about it :)  I told her to join MDC and get her butt on here!!

Im just SO happy to be pregnant and to have such a wonderful supportive affectionate guy next to my side.  He just looks at me and tears up thinking about our family.  Its a dream come true.  I must have done something right in my past life ;)

I already told a few close friends that knew we were trying.  We will tell family on Christmas.  Then we will tell "facebook world" at 12 weeks.  JUST in case.  Im just super super excited about another little snuggle in our home.  More little feet running around laughing.  Our son is just a joy to have around (now that my 12 months of ppd is over).  And I just know the DD and DS will LOVE having another baby in the house.  DD is like a mini-mommy.  

 

[Starfish11]

Wow! That is so cool! I have overlapped with my besties before, but I have never been right on. So much fun!

And it really is lovely to have a love to support you and share in pregnancy excitement.

DH and I talked about this today and will probably wait until 12 or 14 weeks. We like the inside jokes and fun when it's our secret. I hope I can keep my mouth shut that long. And I hope my belly does not betray me earlier. I have been losing weight consistently for a year so I know there will be whispers if I am going in the opposite direction.

[FarmerCathy]

Oh man, that is totally fun to be due at the same time as your friend IRL.  That's exciting!! 

I'm just glad that my ms has subsided during the two days we were traveling.  That was not fun the first part of the week.  It's still weird to think I'm only 4 weeks pregnant.  That's a long way to go.

It's interesting though.  My son who seems to have ESP with my uterus said last time he was going to have a sister before I even knew.  We asked him what he thought I would have if I got pregnant again and he said twin boys.
 

[MyKidKissTrees]

oh my!!!!  get ready for double duty mama!!!!   my husbands dream is twins!

[HeatherB]

Hey, mamas! Figured I'd stop in and say "hi!"

I'm somewhat leery of posting anything because the news is VERY new and surprising... Only a couple of friends who have been in similar situations (surprise!!) know, not even DH... So on the off chance a friend spies this, mum's the word!!!

DH and I have 4 little ones and have felt very complete with them. So I'm having very mixed feelings, so far! I'm thinking I'll wait a couple of weeks before saying anything but we'll see how that goes!

We'll definitely be planning another home birth with a wonderful MW who's attended our last 3. EDD is (obviously) first week of August, but my last 3 all came about a week early, so I'm likely looking at the very end of July. My parents (mom/step-dad) already share a birthday at the end of July, so we'll see how this goes!

[quantumleap]

Hi HeatherB! Congratulations! It's physically impossible for us to have a surprise pregnancy, so my first gut reaction is one of barely suppressed glee, but it doesn't take much to imagine that sort of shock and then the mental gymnastics required to come around to the reality of it. 

FarmerCathy, my dd has been insistent that I will have triplets for the past several months. I'm just going to chalk it up to wishful thinking, because I think I might actually have a heart attack otherwise. ;) 

This is sort of tmi, but I've been having some pretty nasty GI issues for the past couple of days. I know it can be normal, but I'm still a bit shaken as the idea of all of that movement in such close vicinity to that little poppy seed-sized bean in there is a little concerning to me. Kind of in the same vein of how taking too much vit c can cause a miscarriage. My partner rolls his eyes and tells me to relax. Bah. I just don't think they get it until there's a belly to been seen and a baby to feel. (side note, I swear I *have* a little belly. At a whopping 4.5 weeks. I did at 6 weeks last time, so maybe not inconceivable? I know, I know, it's just bloat...)

Hope you all had a lovely Thanksgiving!

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by quantumleap 

This is sort of tmi, but I've been having some pretty nasty GI issues for the past couple of days. I know it can be normal, but I'm still a bit shaken as the idea of all of that movement in such close vicinity to that little poppy seed-sized bean in there is a little concerning to me. Kind of in the same vein of how taking too much vit c can cause a miscarriage. My partner rolls his eyes and tells me to relax. Bah. I just don't think they get it until there's a belly to been seen and a baby to feel. (side note, I swear I *have* a little belly. At a whopping 4.5 weeks. I did at 6 weeks last time, so maybe not inconceivable? I know, I know, it's just bloat...)

Hope you all had a lovely Thanksgiving!

I am super bloated so I feel ya there.  I look like I'm 5 months pregnant.  I don't think I do well on fruit and I'm more bloated at night when I eat it.  I don't think I will be able to hide it at playgroup on Thursday.  Yeah, I had some bad GI issues with my last pregnancy.  I found out a few months after giving birth that I have celiac's.  I wish I had known, I wouldn't have had so many tummy aches.

[MyKidKissTrees]

oh my!  im so sorry to hear about your celiacs!  how are you littles with wheat?  are they all sensitive?  i have a theory that if a parent has an allergy or sensitivity to a certain food that their body doesnt breakdown the proteins properly and therefore the whole proteins go through the placenta to the baby and then the baby's body is overloaded with it.  I am sensitive to dairy.  But still eat it and BOTH my kids were really sensitive to dairy! DD I didnt BF hardly at all though.  But DS I have and I havent let him eat any until now (almost 2) and he is okay with it now.  Doesnt give him terrible gas, pain, etc.  But at 8 months his body flat our rejected dairy!  And DD now has dairy/wheat induced asthma.  If she eat them she gets asthma.  So I would love to know how youre littles are with wheat!

[quantumleap]

Celiacs, hunh? That bites. I always think it's totally crazy when I hear of people who are diagnosed well into adulthood. Do you think you had been living with it all along, or did the pregnancy somehow exacerbate it? Things on that end are slightly improved for me today. My ds is having issues today though, so now I'm wondering if it's some sort of bug instead of a pregnancy thing. Puzzles. 

[mamaki]

Originally Posted by MyKidKissTrees 

Im SO excited!!  I just got a picture message from my best friend!!  Its a !!!!!  ahh!!  We are due like the exact same time!!  Im totally freaking.  Can you imagine the cute "twin" newborn pics we will do!!! So excited!  This will be her first.  Im just totally freaking about it :)  I told her to join MDC and get her butt on here!!

Im just SO happy to be pregnant and to have such a wonderful supportive affectionate guy next to my side.  He just looks at me and tears up thinking about our family.  Its a dream come true.  I must have done something right in my past life ;)

I already told a few close friends that knew we were trying.  We will tell family on Christmas.  Then we will tell "facebook world" at 12 weeks.  JUST in case.  Im just super super excited about another little snuggle in our home.  More little feet running around laughing.  Our son is just a joy to have around (now that my 12 months of ppd is over).  And I just know the DD and DS will LOVE having another baby in the house.  DD is like a mini-mommy.  

 

That is SOOOO cool!! 

[HeatherB]

Any thoughts on how to break the news to a DH who will be less-than-thrilled? Finally got unexpired tests last night and, yep, still positive! I'm getting a little more excited but know it will take awhile for him.

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by MyKidKissTrees 

oh my!  im so sorry to hear about your celiacs!  how are you littles with wheat?  are they all sensitive?  i have a theory that if a parent has an allergy or sensitivity to a certain food that their body doesnt breakdown the proteins properly and therefore the whole proteins go through the placenta to the baby and then the baby's body is overloaded with it.  I am sensitive to dairy.  But still eat it and BOTH my kids were really sensitive to dairy! DD I didnt BF hardly at all though.  But DS I have and I havent let him eat any until now (almost 2) and he is okay with it now.  Doesnt give him terrible gas, pain, etc.  But at 8 months his body flat our rejected dairy!  And DD now has dairy/wheat induced asthma.  If she eat them she gets asthma.  So I would love to know how youre littles are with wheat!

My DS seems to do fine, but we haven't even tried my DD.  My DS is usually gluten free while he is here.   I've been reading more and more about how the wheat we eat today is not the wheat our grandmothers ate and seems to be less nutritious.  My DD will probably eventually try it, but we'll have to wait and see.  Since we don't have any wheat in the house because I'm so sensitive it will probably be at a birthday party or something.

Originally Posted by quantumleap 

Celiacs, hunh? That bites. I always think it's totally crazy when I hear of people who are diagnosed well into adulthood. Do you think you had been living with it all along, or did the pregnancy somehow exacerbate it? Things on that end are slightly improved for me today. My ds is having issues today though, so now I'm wondering if it's some sort of bug instead of a pregnancy thing. Puzzles. 

When my doc brought it up, it made me think about how many GI issues I had when I was a kid and yes, I think pregnancy made it worse and then it got to the point of where my let down was worse and I wasn't making enough milk.  It was amazing how fast I felt better after the first week going off gluten and my milk was plentiful again.  It makes me wonder how nutrient deprived I must have been.  I had cramps and everything run out every other day for two months and extreme gas and pains before I complained to my doctor. 

[quantumleap]

Originally Posted by HeatherB 

Any thoughts on how to break the news to a DH who will be less-than-thrilled? Finally got unexpired tests last night and, yep, still positive! I'm getting a little more excited but know it will take awhile for him.

I have no idea. I am not helpful in the least! I'm so sorry you don't feel it will go over well. I think the trick might be to go the whole, "I know you're really shocked, and maybe a bit upset, 'cause I sure was/am!" route. I guess it depends on how you expect him to react - is he just going to be upset/stressed in general, or is he likely to be less-than-thrilled in your specific direction? It's probably somewhat tempting to just not tell him for a good long while, but the sooner he knows, the sooner he'll come 'round to the idea, right? I hope, anyway. Like I said, not very helpful! You'll figure it out though. I'll be thinking of you, for sure. 

[MyKidKissTrees]

my husbands reaction last time was, "i need to go visit my dad next week."  (15,000 miles away) um are you freaking kidding me?  i was miserable my whole pregnancy because of his negativity.  i ended up with an awful birth experience and a year PPD. 

Whatever you do!  Dont let his negativity bring you down!  I let it get to me.  And my son suffered a lot because of it.  Not sure I can ever completely forgive DH for it.  He promised me this time would be different.  Better be.  But even if he wigs out again... i will be taking the kids to my parents.  He can stew in the poo himself this time!  hugs mama!!!

 

[FarmerCathy]

I can't imagine not having DH on board, but I can see it happening if we got pregnant again after this one.  This is the last one.  Managing diabetes during pregnancy is difficult to say the least esp. at the end when you go low all the time, I think I would be more upset than my DH. 

I did go to my first appt. yesterday.  She did a pap and stuff, but I see the OB tomorrow.  The Dr. I saw yesterday will be seeing me every month at the end since the OB only comes into town once a month (we live in BFE), I have to drive a minimum of 30 minutes to get to the hospital.  I hope I like him or I'm going to look elsewhere.  I can be picky.    Especially since it's so early.  Heh.  I figure I will ask a few questions about his practice, you know, how long they wait for the cord to pulse, etc.  They did load me down with a ton of stuff to take home to read and I was pleasantly surprised that they are so pro-breastfeeding.  They had a chart of pros and cons and they said formula was a higher risk for SIDS and all that.   So awesome that they are so great about that.  I'm liking it more and more up here in the Northwoods every day.  :)

[MyKidKissTrees]

That is so awesome they knew about the SIDs connection.  SO many docs dont have any clue about that and think because so many nursing moms co-sleep that WE are the risk.  SO ANNOYING!

Im am really struggling with finding a MW.  I haven't even held interviews, but personality wise, all the ones I got great vibes from aren;t even certified yet.  And are pretty new.  It just makes me SO uncomfortable.  :(  this states birth climate is going to lead to the deaths of babies.  I just know it.  Makes me SO ANGRY!

[HeatherB]

I talked to my midwife yesterday and saw her today. I'm on various supps and a couple of meds dor thyroid/adrenal issues and I was very happy that she was fine with everything.

I think DH will mostly be disappointed/upset/scared. I almost told him tonight but I think telling him lightly (because I'm certainly adjusting to the idea) would be bad. I think the idea above of recognizing that it's something to adjust to is right on. My current thought is to make a poem/card "from baby" that says those things yet encourages him to love his new baby. Of course, he leaves town all next week. :/