kkloep- my first HB was a UBAC. It was great and healing birth, and absolutely the right choice for us.
Emily- ITA. It is worth it for us to pay out of pocket as well. I wish that I had understood that with my first! One of the hardest things to explain to first time moms that I have met who are really dedicated to having a natural birth and want to HB, but have decided not to because the hosp is covered by insurance or because of outside opinions, is how much it matters when it's all said and done. If I could go back in time, I would have had a HB by hook or crook.
It's one thing if HB is just not for you, I get it. But I have never met a woman who was satisfied with a hospital birth that she just sort of gave into. kwim?
So happy to hear you had a wonderful UBAC :) I just wanted to comment on the rest of what you said. That is exactly what has been my experience when I talk to other people I know. Of EVERY woman that I know who has gone into the hospital with a birth plan, talked to the Dr (or hospital midwife) ahead of time telling them her plans/wishes, and with a husband fully on board with a nautral birth and a few had a doula as well, not a SINGLE woman has had a natural hospital birth that i know. Not one. I know its possible, I've seen it here on MDC, but there is a HUGE chance that you will leave feeling very disappointed, and a fair chance you will leave with a C/S!
A few of my friends have said "oh you were right, it was horrible, I should have just paid the midwife!" Others are still convinced that they "needed" the epidural, or needed the pitocin, etc, because the doctor said that _____ just wasnt right, wasnt moving along quickly enough, etc. They always say "no, he didnt encourage me to get up and walk to speed things up, he told me to keep laying down or sitting on a ball, etc" So they get scared into getting pitocin. then the contractions are so bad that they cave to an epidural. Then they stop progressing because of the epidural and end up with a C/S. it's happened to so many of my friends. Some of them got scared into being induced as well and ended up with C/S.
When you have a "professional" sitting there lecturing you about the well being of your unborn child I can see why women get scared into consenting to these interventions, so my thoughts are just that women need to really educate themselves on the benefits, risks and statitstics of each choice, talk to women who have experience, talk to both providers and ask questions if you are still on the fence. And in my case it would have been way cheaper for me to have a hospital birth bc thats what my insurance paid for, but I chose home birth. We gave up our entire income taxes plus almost $1000 out of pocket, but it was worth it. So try not to make money the deciding factor, unless you absolutely have no other choice/could never afford the midwife. In that case unassisted birth may be a good option for you as well, depending on your comfort level and all. I'm not there yet, but maybe some day :)
I had a horrible hospital birth with my first, and a wonderful HB with my 2nd, and planning a HB with the same midwife with this baby!