Edited by CrunchyMom05 - 12/21/12 at 4:01am
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Edited by CrunchyMom05 - 12/21/12 at 4:01am
I am planning my second homebirth and am so excited! I had a great experience birthing my daughter at home last January and I am actually looking forward to birthing this one! I had a very long early labor and then my water broke and bam! pushing! Evie Ryan was born 45 minutes later. My mw showed up as she was crowning. Very intense but so awesome!
I am reading this thread http://www.mothering.com/community/t/438630/what-do-you-wish-you-would-have-known-beforehand and getting lots of ideas.
I just told husband to ask me any questions and I would get him answers, or he could just show up and do what he is told.
He chose the latter and asked that I tell him if I spend more than $500 on any one item.
I love how support comes in different forms.
You are pregnant. So it is time to start obsessing about birth. I read it and made a multi page to do list.
Had a good talk with my Mum today about HB and her coming out. Answered some of her questions and opened the door to her being in the room.
Planning our first homebirth! My first was induced at 38 weeks, and my second was a natural hospital birth with a CNM. I have always wanted a homebirth but got scared out of it by various well-meaning but misinformed loved ones. I am so happy to be going on my instincts this time.
Hey all, that's cool to see a few who have had natual hospital births but you're right Banana, even if a mom doesnt get medications in the hospital its usually still not what she wanted and she's still disappointed :(
Just had my first midwife visit, all went awesome. I have the same midwife who delivered my last baby.
Ya know another thing I've ran in to with so many friends is in their first and 2nd trimesters, they are all so in denial about birth it seems and do not even want to talk about birth or birth options or what happens, breastfeeding, diapering, etc. Heck, I start thinking about those the moment I find out I'm pregnant! I want to learn lots and have a plan! For example I borrowed out my Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth and my Real Food For Mother And Baby books to 2 pregnant friends, and they refuse to read them yet (after taking them and acting like they wanted to at first) because they say its just too early. Why is 14 weeks too early!? What if they read it and decide they want a midwife or home birth or learn something about nutrition that they wish they'd been doign all along? Lol its just frustrating, and now I don't have my books, but they are not doing anyone else any good either! :/
Haven't read the whole thing. I'm interviewing midwives for a home birth, but if DH says we can't afford it then the decision (made by me) will be a UC birth instead. So if he doesn't want a UC, then he needs to fork over the money for a midwife to be here but this baby will be born at home. (Or babies.) If it is more than one baby then for sure we will do it with a midwife present. Just in case of any issues that might arise during delivery. I've already talked to a midwife that is more off hands than hands on during delivery especially since this isn't my first rodeo.
Oh I forgot to add that I didnt use any specific technique for labor, I felt like a hypnobirthing or something would lessen the true experience, it would be unnatural, I wanted to experience the whole birth how birth was meant to be. My labor was 10hrs, not super short or long, and transition wasnt as bad as I thought it would be. There was only 1 other person at my labor besides my midwife and DH, that was a friend who is home birther, sort of a doula. She is a massage therapist and she massaged my back for me, which is what helped more than I could ever say. If I didnt have someone to rub my back, I couldnt have done it I dont think. So, my advice, have someone to rub your back fairly hard, that's all :) Have a cool, relaxed and comfortable environment- for example, throughout my labor it was all of us telling stories, mostly funny one's, and just talking/visiting. There was no worry or anything, just like friends visiting, then I'd have a contraction and everyone would wait for it to pass, and then pick up the conversation where they left off! The interesting coversation helped keep my mind busy, laughing helps with pain, and not going in to it expecting extreme pain really helps! Knowing it is do-able, and that just being in your own comfortable environment really lessens the pain helps. Labor pain is unlike any other pain, it is there for a reason, you are not being harmed, so it is not that sort of pain. You know instinctively that this is normal, I'm cool with it. Sleep while u can at the beginning, and eat. Right at transition I just felt I needed something, I was a little hungry, and not feeling like this was going to work. I asked for a bowl of yogurt, and as soon as I ate it I felt way better and completed transition and pushed the baby out rather quickly! Lol. You never know what your labor will be like but whatever you're feeling just go with it, trust that you will know what to do when the time comes. You don't need a bunch of techniques to deal with it or anything, just get into whatever position u can imagine and if it helps, great, if not, try again! Labor will never be comfortable or pleasant (I dont think) but just going with what comes completely natural- your home and your choice of position and labor activities- makes so much of a difference
Hi. I'm new to the group and planning my second home birth. DD1 was in a rural hospital that was OK (family doc was so hands off and awesome but the L&D nurses were way to pushy and overbearing) but DD2's HB was amazing. I would love to do it again with my wonderful midwife. My first appointment with her is tomorrow and I am hoping all goes well throughout the pregnancy so I don't risk out of HB - I remember worrying about that all the time last time.
We will probably have a homebirth this time around. With our first, we planned a birth center birth and were risked out with no labor after 24 hours of PROM (this was 14 years ago). With our 2nd we had a wonderful homebirth. Now it's 11 years later and we'll *probably* go with a homebirth again, though we're not totally closed to the idea of a birth center birth (out of hospital, independent birth center).
We've given away absolutely *everything* from our first two (including our birth & baby books) so I'm kind of at a loss there :)
I had a home birth with my son last February that went amazingly well, and am lucky enough to have the same primary midwife for this baby too! I like to keep hospitals for emergencies, which is a sentiment shared by my partner (especially after having to deal with them when my son was only two weeks old and I knew exactly what the problem was and they still didn't listen to me). I'm aiming for maybe more than one push this time though, I don't want 18+ stitches again!!
He was. I was literally told to get him out (after my midwife realized she needed my partner to tell me to listen to her because his heart rate was dropping with contractions), so I did. I don't think she'd ever experienced anyone who took her saying that to heart like that *shrugs* I did what I was told to do lol. I don't recommend having a nine pound baby in one push...
Ouch. My 9 lb 2 oz first took two hours of pushing, and even then, stitches. Second just plopped out in about three pushes.
We've met all four midwives in the group we're going with this time! The first (who we haven't seen for years) is one we saw with DS. Then we had a "get to know you" appointment with the 2nd. We had our first "real" (10 week) appointment with #3 and she couldn't get a good heartbeat for us to hear... so we went back and saw #4 two days later. I'm so relieved to have met them all! With DS, we were so confused about what to do (had planned a birth center, but the birth center we had seen was NOT a "real" birth center--- more a hospital) and then we just clicked with these midwives and a homebirth fell in our laps. We're at least 75% sure on a home birth this time.
Good idea. I'm not planning on going to a LLL meeting until June at least, though, so I'll probably pick some up from the library and I assume will have some offers from other people. Our midwives also have a large lending library, so I'm not concerned.
I *am* looking forward to some nice carrying options. With DD, the options were pretty darn basic and I know we have a lot more now. Of course, the biggest (and really, only major) baby equipment we'll buy will be a carseat :)
I loved my MeiTai with Bee the best. Moby too, but MeiTai first.
At what age can they start being in the MeiTai? I have one and the first couple months my son was too small, and then when he was finally big enough he hated it. Is there a special way to do it with a tiny baby? If so that is what i need to do :)