Well was I ever blindsided - the teacher literally (I wish I were exagerating!) went on for 25 minutes about all the concerns she has about him before even voicing one positive. I could barely speak I was so upset and felt the tears developing in my eyes. The teacher told me that she was very concerned about his behaviour, that he is repetitive and at times "obsessive" (as she put it) in his play, does not engage children and does not give her eye contact. She said he has no focus or attention and acts "silly" all day. She said he does not follow direction well and tends to spend all his free time playing/acting silly with another boy in the class who also acts similarly. When I observed him in class I saw a totally different child from my child at home - he was acting silly that is for sure but when he was in circle time he gnawed on his fingers constantly (I have never ever observed my child do this) which I see as a sign of anxiety. She even told me that if he continues this way he will not be successful in older grades - quite a weighted statement for a 4 year old. The only positive comments she had was about how intelligent and bright he is.
uhhh.....he's 4. ??? who cares what SHE thinks. He is getting an early start as it is. Kindergarten isn't necessary anyway. Why not cut him back to a part day kindergarten or take him out and try again next year when he is a bit older. He would likely be happier at home being silly all day!! My kids loved being silly at that age.