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11/25 Weekly Thread

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Hi mamas, I hope all is well with you!! I cannot believe that at the end of this week it will be *our* month!

Segolily and Kel-sneding you big hugs about the partner issues, I hope and pray that all is resolved so you sweet mamas can get back to resting and preparing for your LO's arrivals!

Cielo-You are a superstar! So glad that things are going well with Matilda!

Harmony and Tropicana-I am *so* with you guys as far as time flying! I can't believe how quickly November has gone by!

Lulu-How are you doing mama? Your due date is fast approaching...SO EXCITING!

Travelmumma-How are things going with Albi? Is he/she cooperating with waiting until your MW returns?

 

AFM-Still trying to finish up Christmas stuff, have had two times in the past week where it felt certain that the time had come, only to have it back off...I don't much mind when Gabe decides to make his arrival, but I am getting so darn excited to see his sweet face! I hope that this week finds you all well!!

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I cannot believe that at the end of this week it will be *our* month!

 

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Sending lots of beautiful, sweet labor dust to all of the December mamas!!! Can't wait to see who is next!

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Hi ladies! Another week already!! I was just telling Kelly that my next prenatal is scheduled for December 1st! That just sounds unreal, but it really is next week!
Jen and kel- hugs mamas!!! I hope your do issues clear up and they start loving on you ladies.
Afm, no husband stuff going on here but my mom has upped the weirdness this weekend. Her "friend" came to visit on Friday that is kind of her bf, depending on the day. Well, she got mad at him(think dramatic teenager,) but then disappeared with him all day yesterday. I invited her to decorate the tree this morning last night and ended up having pretty strong/consistant contractions all night and this morning. So here I am thinking it *could be real, and she shows up with him this morning to decorate the tree! I didn't invite home and when he did come in, he saw that we were eating breakfast so he needed to eat, too. Dh had to make him more food and come back to a cold breakfast. It was an odd morning, with me hiding in my room while I would get a ctx. I ended up asking her to leave because they were interrupting my mojo and now she,s upset! Ctx have totally picked back up so that's exciting, but why do I have to have the weird mom stuff going on?
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Natalie-I am so so sorry that you are having to deal with your mom's emotional stuff at such an important time! Hopefully your mom will be able to see past her own emotions and recognize that now is a *really* unfair time to be unloading weirdness on you! On the up side-Judah could be coming!!!???!!! Sending you peaceful labor vibes if this is the real deal mama! 

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I've been accomplishing lots of stuff around the house and thought I'd post a few pictures of my latest completed sewing projects.  Today I finished up this baby hat (lined with super soft cotton knit and an in between layer of lambswool), a 2-sided flannel blanket, and a simpler receiving blanket.  The kitty doll was finished a couple days ago; (the cushion covers I finished a while back...)

 

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I've been accomplishing lots of stuff around the house and thought I'd post a few pictures of my latest completed sewing projects.  Today I finished up this baby hat (lined with super soft cotton knit and an in between layer of lambswool), a 2-sided flannel blanket, and a simpler receiving blanket.  The kitty doll was finished a couple days ago; (the cushion covers I finished a while back...)

 

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Going to sew now! Thank you Kel, for sharing! Too much cuteness and inspiration! 

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Happy Sunday all!

Cielo- Just want to say congrats again on the wonderful baby girl Matilda!  I have to admit that your post from last week's thread made me think of PPD as well, but it sounds like you're really paying attention.  There is such a continuum of post partum hormonal shifts, baby blues, and PPD.  It's so difficult to place yourself somewhere on that continuum.  But you're doing a fantastic job, and have every right to feel let down purely based on having your expectations dashed.  I felt extremely alone after having a c-section with DD2, although I had a healthy baby etc etc, it was not what I expected and that was very difficult to wrap my brain and heart around. You are right to honor those feelings.

Sorry for the partner troubles for all of those experience them.  DH and I have had a couple of near run ins over the past few days.  I can see with all that is going on during this time that tensions run pretty high.  The anticipation of labor and a new baby is the most difficult for us of course, but I think it's very tough for our support folk as well.  It's just a testament of their love, but boy, they sure have a funny way of showing it sometimes!

Rae-I'm glad you liked Iris' site.  She is a very talented and intelligent woman.  She's actually hosting an all female retreat in two weekends that I would LOVE to go to, but I can't attend because my due date is the 8th :)  How is your heartburn?  Contractions? 

Natalie- seconding the sorries on the mama drama!  I thinking asking her to take her negative mojo elsewhere was very smart!  She'll get over it.

 

AFM-we're still plugging away at the waiting game.  I'm trying to wrap things up for school this quarter, and my last presentation is 2 days before I'm due.  At this point, I just really don't care anymore.  I just want to be snuggling with a baby at home.  Anyone else feeling that way?  Not caring about any commitments?  Lost all motivation for anything but nesting?  The in-laws and my OB were all gone this weekend, so now that they are all back tonight I'm ready to get this party started.  We're 38 weeks now and I am ready!  I'm at a similar place to a few other mamas as well still:  losing plug, a bit dialated, having contractions that build up and then die out.  And I'm fully expecting that this could go on for 3 more weeks.  Ugh.  So I'm going to snuggle up to my belly and do everything I can to enjoy the end of this pregnancy, since it's most likely my last.

 

I hope everyone is growing well and happily, sending lots of love!

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Esp- I totally getbyounon the "I don't care" any more. I rang my naturopath this morning from bed and said I wasn't coming in. Lol I normally really enjoy those appointments but I just don't want to do anything! Nothing nothing nothing! Sitting on the couch is as far as I wanna go.. Good luck with your presentations. I will be thinking of you. Finishing my Uni work was hell so I really get it!

Jen, Kel and Nat- so sorry mummas that you are dealing with these rough emotions right now! I'm sending peaceful calming "fixing" vibes your way... Sometimes people do forget how preggers we are,, but we need that respect no matter what. Big hugs mummas xxxxxxxxx

Kel- I officially hate you lol. Just kidding. You are so damn creative! Where do you get the patience from to actually do the creative things that you wanna do?!?! They are just gorgeous!!!!!! smile.gif

DarkBlue- what are you making for Christmas?? It's exciting to hear that my due date buddy is getting twinges too!! Makes me feel less like its all in my head lol!

AFM- bub stayed in! MW is home now! DH and I put a very special bottle of champagne in the fridge on Friday to celebrate our "Homebirth go date"! Not much going on! Just chilling. Doing some "useless nesting", so am not cleaning and organizing etc, but I am attempting to make things off Pinterest, then getting annoyed when they don't work and leaving crap all over the house lol
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Kel, loving your projects! The blankets are so sweet and I can't get over how lovely all of your dolls are! I really want to make some sort of special soft animal for this guy, but I haven't found a pattern I liked yet. I may just make up my own pattern, something like this: http://walnutanimalsociety.com/henry-the-fox/

 

I can't believe this Saturday is December! I feel like there is SOOO much to do. Here's hoping for a productive week!

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HI everyone!

Natalie - sorry to hear about your mom - sometimes people can be really self-centered - they forget that the birthing goddesses need to get whatever we want & need right now :) I'm glad you have a strong enough relationship that you felt it was OK to ask her to leave. I'm sure she will get over it. More important for you to have your nest/cave peaceful and ready for birth!

 

Kelly, I feel the same - happy to wait until baby makes arrival, but SO excited to meet her/him!

 

kel - love your projects - I made baby wipes, lol, that's about all I can focus on at this point!

 

esp I can relate, too - I don't really want to do a THING now that Thanksgiving is over. Even the idea of going to my mama blessing this Saturday is a big 'ugh'. I know I will enjoy it, but it's exhausting to think of leaving the house! I keep hoping I will have baby before then, and we can go together, lol.

 

I had a wonderful Thanksgiving with my family - my Grandma will be 90 in a few weeks, and being with her and that whole branch of family was priceless. Smoothed things over with DP last night - he is usually so wonderful/helpful/supportive, that it's like a cosmic shock when he isn't.... still having contractions all the time. I took a 3-hour nap today and it was the longest stretch of sleep I have had without a pee break in a month! I was so tired I felt drunk, lol... it's hard to not think of EVERYTHING like a sign of impending labor. loose bowels today, long nap, etc... anyway, I made my 'pad-cicles' tonight in preparation, my box came from In His Hands so I have my after-pain tincture, sitz bath herbs, and mother's milk tea ready to go. I still don't have a diaper pail, lol, but can always send DP out for one later (I use disposables for the first few days anyway). My brother was asking the 'are you just dying to have this baby now' questions when he was here, and honestly I felt totally fine waiting. Now that the family has gone, I'm totally in that space - ready for baby NOW, and not sure how I can handle a single other day of my hips/pelvis hurting this much!

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Grrrrr.  I took the kids to church (where I work - on my day off!) so DH could have the day free to work.  And to the grocery store (3 kids in grocery store = my idea of h-e-double-hockey-sticks), although DS1 was actually helpful insofar as pushing the cart so that my pelvis still worked when I got home.  Then I cooked a huge pot of turkey soup, so I'd have some to eat this week and some to freeze, and biscuits, and made biscuit 'mix' to put aside to make for easier dinner prep after baby arrives.  And then DH got all pissy that I didn't want to do the dishes.  Our sink is horridly non-ergonomic, even if you're not a 36+ weeks pregnant person, and my body is TIRED.  I HURT when I do the dishes.  And his attitude is definitely like I'm making excuses not to do something I just don't enjoy.

 

Okay. I really don't like bad-mouthing my spouse, but that rant makes me feel a little better!

 

I actually was able to think it through a little and I think I kind of can guess why he might think that way (judging me by himself - because he definitely does make excuses - mostly to himself - if he doesn't feel like doing something - whereas I really don't - I keep pushing myself beyond what I ought really to do, 90% of the time - both character traits have their advantages and disadvantages and I know it.) But . . . grrrrr.

 

Chicajones - dolls are good for little boys, too!  Although some of them won't be terribly interested - it's good practice for being daddies!

 

Travelmumma - hurrah for 'go dates'!  Mine is today.  I am so relieved baby stayed in till now; now, I'm telling baby I think this week would be a great time to get born, especially Thursday as I don't have anything else planned, lol.

 

Esp - good luck with your academic 'stuff'.  I bet it is hard to feel motivated about it, though!

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MamaBeakley- I think Wednesday would be good for me. So should I lock you in for Thursday lol
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As long as we're scheduling, I'll take Saturday, Dec 1, okay? wink1.gif Or the 8th so DH gets 3 full weeks off since his plant shuts down between xmas and ny. At my not-a-shower Saturday afternoon, we were discussing birthstones, and all decided this girl needs to wait until Saturday at least so she can have a much prettier December birthstone. (No offense to you all with November stones, but the tanzanite/turquoise are just really pretty--and go well with my sons' aquamarine.) 

Before I forget--my friends are amazing. In addition to several other gifts, I got some wonderful homemade gifts. (*I* am not crafty, but they are...I'm certain they are constantly disappointed with my lack of cool gifts.) Here are some pics of the handmade items: One friend made 3 big, warm, 2-sided flannel swaddling blankets with painstakingly crocheted edging. Several friends who knit made me soakers--NB longies (with a matching shirt, even), brown longies, ruffled shorties, and the lower one is a newborn soaker sack--so you don't have to mess with legs to change the prefold in the middle of the night (I had never even considered such a cool idea)! Now I need to lanolize them along with the two other wool covers I bought myself. ...and here I thought I was going to need to make some myself. wink1.gif



sego, SO glad you and DP smoothed things over. I had a minor blowup at my DH Saturday morning, but he recognized that there's no arguing with pregnant-crazy and did as I asked. (not saying you were crazy AT ALL. just that *I* was being crazy, lol--but he was being a jerk.) Also glad you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with your extended family. One of the reasons I hope this girl makes her appearance a bit early is so we can go to my hometown for xmas for my mom's family celebration--they're 5 hours away and I haven't seen all of them in one place in a year because we couldn't make it to some other things this past year, and I want my 89 1/2 yo grandma to meet this babe. (baby's name will be Genevieve, which is my Granny's middle name)

mamabeakley, sorry your DH was so unappreciative today! It really sucks when others project their motivations, doesn't it? :/ 

travelmumma, I won't even attempt anything on Pinterest. See above note about my non-craftiness. I could probably do stuff if I *had* to, but since my life doesn't depend on it, I save the stress. :P

esp, thanks for asking after me. smile.gif my heartburn is mostly gone, thanks to my triple-teaming it with Prevacid 1/day, Pepcid 3/day, and TUMS 1-3x/day. Ugh. I think my body overproduces relaxin when I'm pregnant--or it overreacts to it--and my cardiac sphincter just doesn't function. (that's the name of the one at the top of the stomach. I just looked it up.) Contractions have gone back to non-freakout levels (had regular ones Friday, and one even woke me up at 2am). This babe is most likely my last, too, and I'm trying to enjoy the pregnancy. As for classes, you did better than I--with DS1, I think I took incompletes when I was 5 months along because I just couldn't make myself care anymore. (I still never finished my Master of Public Administration. sigh) I hope you make it through your presentation and don't have anything weighing on you when babe decides to meet you.

kel, that hat is my favorite, and it sounds so intricate! You are one talented mama. smile.gif

actually, lots of you are so talented...once again, I'm surrounded by people with much more of that sort of thing than myself. wink1.gif

Natalie, that is so weird of your mom (and RUDE!). Good for you for asking her to leave your space. She (and her bf) totally sounds like a teenager. I hope she comes around and realizes the error of her ways. ((hugs)) How are you feeling--contractions sticking around or what, mama?

darkblue, IDK if I said it last week, but WHEW on closing the door on your mother's estate/house. smile.gif

Hello to everyone else, too!
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Thanks gals.  I kept sewing all day and also almost completely finished covering the couch and made another receiving blanket out of all of my flannel scraps on hand.  The hat is actually a gift for a friend who is also having a baby, but I'll be sure to make another for my babe.  I loosely followed the pattern below, but didn't add any seam allowance to it, since her pattern is for a 10 month old.

http://smalldreamfactory.blogspot.com/2011/09/free-pattern-toddler-hat.html

 

My back and hips have been killing me at night lately - waking me up through the night in pain.  But then once I get up in the morning I'm totally fine all day - so it's just getting stiff at night I guess...  Have to look into ways of alleviating that.  My fingers have also been getting a little bit puffy just in the past few days, for the first time this whole pregnancy, so I'm trying to remind myself to drink more water.  Other than that, I'm good, and kind of hoping to go late as usual (or at least on time) so that I can keep plugging away on this house and all that I'd like to accomplish before the babe is born. 

 

For all you mamas hoping to have babes a couple weeks early - remember, 39 weeks gestation is the minimum ideal time for babies to stay put!  Of course some babies are just meant to be born sooner than that, and some women have shorter cycles, are prone to shorter pregnancies, etc etc, and it's not like you can control it anyway - but "research has shown" that is is optimal for babies to be born at 39 weeks gestation or after - even the mainstream baby magazines are spouting that now.  So maybe schedule your babies arrival just a week or two later...;)  

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Great way to start off my day! Chuckling over here... I'll take the 22nd. It would be a little under a week early, but I've been measuring big and have the whole blood sugar issue. Kel- I love the projects! The hat is adorable. I don't have a sewing machine myself, but have a very crafty MIL who is making some flannel blankets for this babe. Can't wait! I've been working on a counted cross-stitch Christmas stocking for this baby, but it probably won't get done until next year. If I have time later, I'll post a pic. I have slight OCD tendancies and find that working with my hands help keeps my nerves under control and is relaxing.

Busy week for me: an eye doc appt today, bills to take care of tomorrow, OB appt on Wed, and a DH who's predicting late nights working. :P Well! Staying busy will help the time go by faster! Its just crazy that so many of you are at full term and that I will be in a week and four days! WOW! Off I go to write up a list and do some much needed scrubbing around the house!

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Well if we are scheduling, I have thought Dec 4th for awhile. But we shall see - had several contrax that woke me up last night (and of course 10 trips to pee), so I am exhausted today. DP is going to take me to see Breaking Dawn in a bit, then a long walk & a nap.

 

stegan - awesome gifts :)))) My 'shower' is on Saturday, and with my crew I am sure there will be a whole lot of home-made, beautiful things. Mostly I am looking forward to cake, a glass of wine, and henna on my belly. Or my hands if baby decides to show up sooner ;)

 

mamab - sorry your DH was so unappreciative. When DP & I were talking he mentioned that he doesn't feel acknowledged for all that he has been doing to take care of me, take the load off of me, etc. And I said, 'how many times has anyone thanked me for carrying this baby, etc?' I explained i don't need/expect thanks for that, but I think he got how unappreciated all that we do as pregnant women really is. Really, every step you take, every bite you eat, etc is part of growing another human being, and no one really says thanks for that... when you throw in all the other stuff, it's ridiculous how much we all do! I was tired just reading your list, so I hope that he can appreciate some of it.

 

kel, I will gladly go 39 weeks (which, BTW, happens to be the 4th!). I have never started all this prodromal labor so early before, nor has it ever lasted this long (it's usually just 3 days), so I will be surprised if we make it that long. But I also keep telling myself it could be Christmas day (42 weeks).

 

annaka - just had to say I feel the same way re: OCD tendencies. Dp asked a few weeks ago why I do things like play solitaire on my phone while watching a movie... it's because it keeps me from noticing all of the dust in the living room, and I can actually enjoy the movie :)

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sego - that is one of the things that I've loved about my DP during this pregnancy.  He has over and over again told me how thankful/appreciative his is for me carrying this baby, feeding her/us well, taking good care of her, and what a great job that I'm doing - which is all so nice to hear and definitely makes me feel loved.  (Which doesn't mean he isn't ever immature or mean about other things!;) 

 

And I wasn't getting on anyone's case about the dates - just giving a little incentive for enjoying our pregnancies as long as they last.  I think knowing that it's generally better for babe to stay put until at least 39 weeks might make the last uncomfortable weeks more comforting and encourage us to take it easy.  xo

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And I wasn't getting on anyone's case about the dates - just giving a little incentive for enjoying our pregnancies as long as they last.  I think knowing that it's generally better for babe to stay put until at least 39 weeks might make the last uncomfortable weeks more comforting and encourage us to take it easy.  xo

Oh, I've *known* that, but also that some babes are ready before then, too. ;) It didn't help that I had that day of prodromal labor--like sego, it is way out of the ordinary for me, so it's started some mind games!

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