So today the plan is to tell our step-daughters that I'm pregnant.
Truthfully, I'm worried about how it will be for them.
We had been getting along wonderfully, until a few weeks ago when Severin told them (Libby: almost 13 and Sunny: 21), "Christine is the best wife ever!"
Which, while I appreciate the compliment, I think it re-introduced competition in our relationship. Especially that Libby said, "Except for my mom, right?"
What makes matters more difficult, is that Severin is NOT Libby and Sunny's biological father, he met them when they were 2 and 10, and dated their mom for 4 years. They were never married.
So, I feel like to Libby's "survival mode" she's already been dethroned by me. In the last three weeks she's been defensive/offensive.
And now, this is Severin's first biological child, and--as an adult, I'm clear that families are born of love, and that we are just adding to the possible love we now have as a family--but I'm worried that our announcement is going to have a further dethrone Libby--at least to her "inner cave woman" that seeks out surviving.
Thoughts? advice? I welcome any feedback!
Love, Christine
. I think the fact that you are approaching it with so much care and compassion demonstrates how lovely your heart is. I think that you just need to know that any adverse reaction is more than likely based on fear and vulnerability as opposed to any animosity toward you. Hugs, mama.
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