Hi everyone, newbie here...
I've been married for about 4 months--been with my husband for 4 years. My husband has an 8-year-old son, whom I've known since he was four. Overall, he's a pretty well-behaved child, except for some serious attention issues. He splits his time 50/50 between his mother's house and ours.
Here's the thing: my husband and I plan to have more children. But both my husband and his ex seem to be perfectly fine with my stepson spending hours a day in front of the TV, watching shows or playing video games. Honestly, this is something I would never let my own children do. When my stepson is at my house, I try to encourage him to do other things and I offer to do other things with him. But since I'm not his actual parent, it's really my husband who has the final say, and he isn't bothered by how much TV time my stepson gets on a daily basis.
A couple of years ago, my stepson got in trouble for a pretty serious video game addiction. My husband and his ex worked with him for quite awhile and things did improve, but now my stepson is back to sitting in front of the TV for hours even if he doesn't like or understand the particular program that's on.
I've tried to indicate to my husband that all of this makes me uncomfortable because I will absolutely, hands-down not let my own children spend this much time in front of the TV. But when I say anything, my husband just shrugs it off and if I push the issue, he thinks I'm calling him a bad father. And again, since I'm just the stepparent, I can't do anything more than tell him how I feel.
Any suggestions here?