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[APGoddess83]

Hi ladies! I used to post in the beginning but my laptop died and it's too annoying to respond from an iPhone so I have been lurking. Now I have a new laptop and I need to vent to ladies who will understand.

My edd with my 6th baby was the 16th. I see an ob who understands my wants to have a natural intervention free birth but of course I am now scheduled for an induction on Thursday if the baby doesn't make her appearance soon. As of last Tuesday I was 4-5 cm and 50% effaced (been that way a few weeks and was with my last 3 as well). Been having contractions (able to time them for a couple hours at a time or they are random) that just fizzle out. My oldest was induced bc of pre-e and my 2nd my water had been broken too long for their comfort and they swore since I wasn't feeling my big contractions that I needed pitocin and I got an epi bc pitocin sucks, lol. For my next two I only labored for 2-4 hours and both were crowning when we got to the hospital and it was fabulous and I realized then that I just handle the pain well when I don't have pitocin. With my youngest I had to be at the hospital right away bc of a positive gbs (grr) and wasn't able to labor at home like usual and ended up stalling and being talked into a tiny bit of pitocin by the on-call doc (still pissed about that) and he was born very shortly after.

Anyway, now my doc says bc it's my 6th and I'm already so dilated that they'll probably just break my water and give me a little pitocin....ugh!!!! I had a bpp sono last Wednesday and the tech said even though it's not super accurate that the measurements she was getting were more consistent with a edd of the 23rd and everything looked good. Of course that means nothing to my ob. I was scheduled for induction tmrw but I called and she was able to change it to Thursday for me. If I started epo now would it help at all for just a few days? Tried sex once but hubby isn't interested (annoying) bc it always freaks him out this late in the pg especially when I'm so dilated. Just wish I knew what was holding this little girl up! I'm so panicked about even the thought of pitocin. I'm trying to be calm and stay active but I've been getting horrible cramps in my thighs if I'm on my feet too long (feels like a charlie horse in my thigh...so awful). I'm cleaning, shopping, sitting in good positions and getting on all fours and just willing this baby out....please send me labor vibes!!!!

Sorry for the long vent but my husband has been in a weird mood and just doesn't get it and my mom just asks me every time I talk to her if anything is happening :-/ I'm so tired of the "no baby yet?", "how are you feeling?", "anything happening?" questions from everyone!

ETA: Aside from my 6 week early oldest, the rest were born 1-2 days before their due date and my 4th was 4 days late.

Edited by APGoddess83 - 11/26/12 at 9:39am

[Thyme Mama]

That sucks. I just wanted to say though, that it seems a huge number of babies in this DDC have been (unexpectedly) over a week late. All my babies have come right around their due date (I chart), and the baby I just gave birth to was 10 days late! I don't know if it's the time of year, the moon phases, the weather, who knows? It just seems there have been a lot of us mamas who are on our 3rd, 4th, 5th or more babies and they have been uncharacteristically late this time.

And, as you already know, YOU are in charge. Your doc can say xyz, but ultimately YOU are the one making the decision to submit to augmentation or AROM. Do what feels right and follow your instincts!

[babychak]

I'm sorry - I ended up having pitocin because my water had been broken for almost 2 days and the contractions weren't strong/close together enough. It was awful and led to a snowball effect, ending with the epidural. I hope things happen for you on your own so you can avoid it. And you can ALWAYS say no (I was too chicken, but this is my first baby - if I have another, I will try to stand my ground more).

[wendelberry]

I have to echo what the others are saying-- this is your baby and your decisions to make.  I've been going over and over my baby's birth last Friday (baby #4 at estimated 41+1) and I really think I would have ended up with pitocin at the very least and the way the hospitals are here, probably a c-sec if I hadn't been willing to stay home (I have a hard time with authority and would have tamely submitted to it all, no doubt).

If it's possible that your edd is actually the 23rd and you're partly dilated, and you handle natural labors well, it seems to me that you are in an excellent position to tell your ob "no go" on the induction.  Frankly, it sounds like an ideal healthy pregnancy, and I don't understand where the urgency comes in unless she's eager to make room for a new client (cynicism alert).  Remember that your birth experience matters a lot more to you than it does to her!

I'd definitely do EPO in the meantime; it can't hurt.  Best of luck with everything!

Here is a website for your mom:  haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

[fayebond]

Awww, I'm sorry your OB is hasseling you (for no apparent reason).  

If I had an OB right now, they'd have me sliced open last week.  I went into labor twice already (yes, for real, baby descended and I dialated measurably both times), it lasted 4 hours, then, nothing.  Zip.  My MW at home told me I could try sleeping and see if it picks up again.  And man did I need the rest.  No way the hospital would have recommended that at 4cm, I'd be on pitocin, then an epi,, and then and then and then nothing would have happened because my water is still intact and baby is clearly still happy in there.  All that to say, my gut was very strongly in favor of changing from my OB to a homebirth MW earlier, and I'm so gald I listened to that.  Yours seem to be saying that baby is just fine, so don't back down.  Do whatever you feel comfortable with, and to me that would mean avoiding Thrusdays' appointment and waiting for them to call.   You can always show up after your water breaks and labor is in full swing.

Oh, and due dates being wrong is not at all unuaal in my family: this baby had dates ranging from Nov 24 to Dec 12.  We settled on the 2nd, but I'm mentally preparing to wait out the new year if I have to (yes that will mean lots of phoned-in-doc appointments since no one is going to let me go very long without a CS, and I am determined  to give this baby thier best shot).