My daughter is 13 months, I severely need help with sorting this out and improving my situation. It is ruining my marriage, but not in the way you'd think. I am not able to cope anymore with my daughter not sleeping. The lack of sleep is causing horrible mood swings and anger and I am hating dh and because of the fact that he sleeps I was ready to make him leave last night. I am so angry. This feels nuts.
She used to always wake every 45 minutes, on the dot. Now she will sleep up to 90 minutes when we first go to bed, but she will wake up around 1am and stay up until 4-5am. I have to take the other kids to school! I have to get up at 6:30. I also am one of those people who takes a long time to fall asleep. This is draining me and I am an emotional mess, all from not sleeping. She won't sleep alone, and she won't sleep on the bed with me for her naps...so I am stuck in a rocking chair for naps and until she falls asleep at night. I can't sleep sitting up.
So I am up at 6:30 and wake her up at 7 if she isn't already up. Then she is ready to nap between 10:30-12 and will sleep 45-135 minutes (her cycles are 45 minutes long, so she'll have one to three cycles for a nap) Sometimes she will nap again around 5pm but I try to keep her awake until bedtime. I try to start rocking/nursing for bed around 8:30 but she usually won't want to fall asleep until 10pm or later. Everytime I have tried to give her an early bedtime like other babies seem to do, she will treat it as a nap and be up really late. She's a pretty happy baby so it's not like she's miserable(unless she is sleepy, like when I am trying not to give her that second nap so late). I feel so lost and exhausted. My eyes right now are so swollen I look like I've been hit in the face.
If anyone has any ideas on what I am doing wrong, please help. I just dealt with her non-sleeping and constant waking for all this time but I really need some help. My nipples get so sore I could scream during those 3-4 hours at night she is awake, bc she nurses so much. I let her nurse during the day as much as she wants, which is alot compared to most babies I know at this age. It kinda seems like the long nap and two naps a day is bc she is not sleeping enough at night...but I can't make her sleep. It is dark, there's white noise, it's not hot or cold, she sleeps in long sleeves on top of the covers (her choice...drives me crazy when I can't snuggle up in my covers lol)
Thanks in advance.